That's generally how it works. Each approach builds up state until eventually you stop giving a fuck entirely and you enter a flow state.
But you have to rebuild it every night.
Still, you can enter state much faster if you consciously enter into play rather than just hoping that many approaches will brute force you into it.
And sometimes you may just not be in a playful mood, in which case go home and do something else.
The whole point of going out to engage in nightlife is because you want to have fun. Don't overlook something so basic. If you aren't having fun you are missing the whole point. The problem then is that you have a stick up your ass that needs removing.
See, you gotta ask the deeper question: Why are you so anti fun? Who hurt you?

Jesus.
What you need is a compelling vision for what you can make of your life. A vision for a career, for what kind of leader you can be, what kind of family you could have, what kind of art you could make, etc.
And then just work towards it a bit more each day.
But you don't need any achievement to fulfill you. True fulfillment comes from simply consciousness of Consciousness. That's what spiritual work is all about.
If you do serious spiritual work you will be fulfilled just sitting in a room doing nothing, having nothing, needing nothing.
If you are interested in that I highly recommend Kriya yoga. It will purify your mind and body of low vibrational energies over time. But it requires serious commitment to daily practice.
There is no reason why you cannot develop a happy life. No crazy accomplishment is required.
Life does not need meaning. You can derive 100% of your joy from pure Consciousness itself. But you can also create whatever meaning you want in the near-term to hold you over until you realize meaning is a scam. The real gold is Consciousness, not meaning.

I mean how womankind has sex.
This has all been field-tested to death by men. There are no more secrets. We know the entire process front to back like a formula.
We can draw a geometric formula of distance from club to quantity of sex.
Any man interested in sex should understand and respect that formula.

@LoneWonderer Some tips:
You don't have to focus on one point. It could be better to focus on the entire hand. So you aren't straining so hard. Relax your focus so it's not so effortful. Just keep looking at your entire hand. Allow your eyes to move across your hand. Don't keep them locked. Try to keep mind chatter down. Try not to comment on your experience to yourself. Just sit with relaxed focus and be still and at peace. Try to not-know the hand. Remove all conventional knowing of it, so that the hand becomes somewhat unrecognized. It starts to looks weird. Slowly moving your fingers and hand is good too. It's like playing with your hand. Do it for an hour at a time. Try to gently remind yourself that your hand is Absolute Truth/God. Try to gently remind yourself that your hand is Consciousness and imaginary. That's it. It's hard to fail here. Whatever happens is good.

Hey guys! I'm gonna upload all the video summaries I have at the moment and will be uploading more of them as I watch them! Needless to say that is a summaries made by me and not transcripts nor Leo's summaries. Probably you will find some of my comments and ideas in them; I enjoy feedback of any type so feel free to comment

Owen is lost in a delusion. 
He doesn't know what the world is.
Chasing sex like a narcissistic dog.
I've taken on the real world and found it fool's gold, as has every other intelligent mind.

Eckhart Tolle sat on a park bench for 2 years.
David Hawkins was alone in meditation for 6 months.
Om Swami spent 3-6 month is 24/7 solo meditation on a freezing cold mountain.
Peter Ralston lived alone in the jungle in Hawaii for 2 years.
Daniel Ingram has done many multi-week 24/7 retreats.
This is realistically what it takes to achieve serious spiritual results. That's why it's rare.

As soon as you can find them.
Starting solo is there in case it takes you a while to find someone.
Not gonna lie, solo is brutally hard. It grows you the fastest but I don't trust anyone to learn game solo. That is hellishly hard. I wouldn't trust myself to manage that feat. That's like going to war alone.
Vodka cranberry.
Don't get hammered. One or two drinks max. Just enough to loosen you up.

This level of stupid is why I dispise socializing.
I cannot stomach how stupid people are. I would rather be alone with God.
Socializing is entertainment for stupid people. It took me a decade to realize that.
Just ask, What would entertain a baboon? And then do that with girls and they will love you.

If you are afraid of socializing or feel lonely, I strongly encourage you to socialize. This is huge for your development.

Of course he has valid insights and advice for successful living. But it's all corrupted by materialistic ego chasing.
It is not existential work. It is a conflation of survival with spiritual flavorings.
Look, it's fine for learning game and business. But the work I'm doing on another level.

At low doses salvia is manageable. But people are stupid and do high doses.

That's not true.
It's much easier to create success than to create beauty. Beauty is rarer and more valuable than success. Which is why celebrities and models make so much money and have so much fame. It's disproportionate to their level of effort and work. They work very little and make insane amounts.

In the most recent video Leo talked about how every life you raise your consciousness until you eventually merge with the absolute and reach nirvana and then will get bored of that, split from it and start again. If we are use the consciousness is like sand analogy, where reality is an infinite beach and we are all individual sand castles on a beach not aware we are all the sand on the beach, how can I be sure that my next life I will start from the sand castle that has just collapsed.  In other words if I am doing all this consciousness work to reincarnate and have higher levels of consciousness and more chance of reaching nirvana in the next life, how can I be certain I will get the consciousness of the work I did not someone else? 
 
Or am I looking at this from the wrong paradigm as I am the whole beach so I am raising the consciousness of each grain of sand for the next rebirth? 
 
PS I dont want to take reincarnation on as a dogma so I’m still questioning it.

What you're describing is not demographics, it's commonality.
Yes, finding some kind of "magic" commonilty is hugely helpful for getting your foot in the door. For example, if you are German on vacation in Thailand and you bump into a German girl who is also on vacation in Thailand, that gives you a huge advantage in her sleeping with you because there is an instant bond based on shared background.
Like, if you run into a girl and you two were both born in the same hometown just by pure luck, that greatly increases your odds with her. She will think there is some magical connection when in fact it's just dumb luck and she doesn't know how to reason. Haha!
Girls LOVE fake magical coincidences! They love that shit. A crafty devil will exploit this weakness of feminine psychology.
The reason this works is because girls crave to feel special when dating. Anything that makes it feel special and magical will help a lot. Girls hate the idea that she is the 26th girl you approached that day. Girls want to believe that you approached only her for some magical reason. They want that romance fantasy. Unique commonalities make it feel like a magical connection. Like, if you two both got bitten by sharks as kids, she will say to herself, "OMG! He must be my soulmate!"

You need to distinguish between conscious suffering, which leads to ego dissolution vs impairments to the functioning of mind and consciousness: like a hammer to the head -- which will not raise your consciousness nor dissolve the ego. It will just leave you struggling for basic survival.
Strong determination sitting may cause extreme pain, but it does not dull your mind. If it did then it would be counter-productive. Your mind needs to be sharp. Which is why a bad diet is terrible for consciousness work. Prolonged fasting can also impair the mind is counter-productive ways.
If you're going to suffer, you must find ways that don't actually impair the mind's functioning. Stress yourself but don't break yourself.

Breakup is a chemical state. You will not be able to just ignore it through meditation. You have to feel it and let the chemicals work through your body for a few weeks. There are also lessons there for you to learn. You will experience suffering any time you invest a lot of yourself into a thing and then lose it.
Be careful using spirituality to avoid feeling feelings. Don't bypass the feeling of loss.

Strong Determination Sitting is a good way to work on consciousness of pain.
This isn't easy to do, but try to sit for so long that you get to the point where the excruciating pain of your sit turns into pleasure. It's a very distinct inflection point that happens during long, serious sits.
As you sit there in pain for an hour or more, you have ample time to contemplate: What is pain? What is suffering?
With pain and suffering it's very important to try to contemplate it WHILE IT IS HAPPENING, not after the fact. This cuts through speculation and theorizing.
My guess is, you'd have to be pretty deeply enlightened to be able to deconstruct pain in the way Ralston talks about. Because so long as the ego is intact it will bitch and whine and moan and resist too much. A deep surrender is required.
Ralston is talking about super-human levels of consciousness. So don't be discouraged if you can't get it fast.

Good! I'm happy to clarify all these genuine questions!
I fundamentally disagree with this characterization of my work and rhetoric.
There is nothing religious or dogmatic about what I teach. Just the opposite.
In that video, both people were speaking from ego, neither person was even remotely close to having a deep grasp of spirituality, and they deep and fundamentally mischaracterized my work, Spiral Dynamics, levels and facets of awakening, and so many other points that it's hard to list all the ignorance in that video.
That video is precisely ignorance which misleads people.
Nothing on this forum is about a competition for who is more awake. This is completely antithetical to my teachings. Nobody here is in competition for being most woke or most spiritual or most Spirally developed. All that is pure projection and strawmanning.
I talk about higher and higher levels of awakening only for one simple reason: That's precisely my experience of the spiritual path. And any serious spiritual seeker will relate. It has nothing to do with ego or wanting to escape the present moment.
The things said in that video are so fallacious and slanderous that I would be laughing had it no influence on a gullible audience.
I'm honestly baffled how Adeptus can do so much psychedelics -- and run an entire psychedelic channel -- yet be so clueless about spiritual work and what the psychedelic experiences mean.
Yes, good.
You are right. I do dismiss manual practices for several valid reasons which I have explained in the past:
1) Most people will not be successful with them. The factual evidence of this is very clear. Almost no meditators are deeply awake or even have a clue what God or Truth is.
2) Most people are not motivated enough to do them. And part of my job is motivation.
3) Even those people who do years of manual practice will almost certainly not reach the levels of consciousness that I speak of. This is also borne out by factual evidence and real-world experience talking to meditators.
4) For meditation to be effective is requires 100s of continuous practice. This is very hardcore and most people don't have the time for that.
5) There are some people who can meditate with little effort and get huge results quickly. Such people are rare and spiritually gifted without even realizing it.
These are actually profoundly important points for any newbie spiritual seeker to understand.
And finally, I still believe manual practices are important and even necessary. But for them to be effective people first need to be exposed to mystical experiences, otherwise there will be no motivation or even an idea of what meditation is for.
Well, there are no clear lines. That's the challenge we're now in.
I am going to be lenient and try to give people the benefit of the doubt. I am very mindful of not just banned anyone I disagree with for personal reasons. And I am mindful of the problem of creating a echo-chamber. That's not what I'm aiming for. I do not want a bunch of yes-men here kissing my ass.
But we must have some fundamental alignment or fit. Some people here are obviously very out of alignment to the point that I don't even know why they want to be here.
No problem. Newbies and intermediates fully welcome.
You don't have to believe anything I say. Explore the spiritual terrain for yourself and discover what's true. That's the beauty of this work. The truth does not depend on Leo at all. All I'm doing talking about things you could one day become conscious of if you work at it.
A banned account does not get unbanned.
I don't know what disagreements you are referring to.
The future of the forum is unknown and being figured out right here.
Of course it's important.
Much of the stuff I teach is grounding work. I am all for doing the basics.
In that case I meant it in the most Absolute and final and radical sense. In other words, literally, nothing would remain. No, you're not still here at that point. Mahasamadhi does not mean you're still here.
No material experience at all would continue. It's effectively death, for real. You don't cease to exist, you become an infinitely conscious singularity.
WARNING: I do not recommend Mahasamadhi for any of you. It is to radical and you will kill yourself if you go down that road. And I don't mean merely ego-death. Mahasamadhi is not something anyone here should be thinking about. And it's also not what I teach. I spoke of it in that episode simply because I got close to it personally and I wanted to share it as a cautionary tale with you. It was not a pleasant experience for me to get that close.
I have explained Love a lot in my videos: What Is Love - Part 1 & 2, and elsewhere. Watch those again.
Love is not merely understanding. Love is all the physical such that exists. Love is also the realization that there is not difference whatsoever between anything. When you realize that there is literally no difference between an orgasm and cancer, you will realize what Love is.
Amen. That's exactly what I love: substance.
Some of that is outlined in the Forum Guidelines. But I would have to think about it some more in light of recent events. I might draft up a list in the future and post it for you guys so we are on the same page.
That's a delicate balancing act. I want to avoid that.
Consider the possibilities that these are not fallacies but actually high consciousness.
If you become conscious enough, you will literally be so conscious that you won't see any difference between licking ice cream and licking a hot stove. These radical levels of consciousness are obviously dangerous, and I have warned people about it in the past in my discussions of psychedelic dangers.
How do you supposed a Tibetan monk does self-immolation? He literally is so conscious that he cannot tell the difference between setting himself on fire vs otherwise. The difference between pleasure and pain is ultimately imaginary. This very much fucks with your survival. You see? After you deconstruct pain, you have to be careful and wise not to do something stupid like stick your hand in woodchipper, because pain and fear won't be holding you back any more.
Yes, but you're overlooking the obvious: it's true.
It is true that harming the body does not matter after a certain level of consciousness is reached. This is nothing new that I invented. This is part of age-old mystical teachings. Yogis train to sleep on a bed of nails. That's what strong determination sitting is about. Those sits are not good for the body, but the meditator does not care.
Just because SoonHei decided to jump off a bridge in a tragic way does not in any way change what is true about pain and consciousness. He simply abused that truth. Truth itself makes no prescriptions. How you use the truth requires intelligence, wisdom, responsibility, and consciousness.
The truth is that there is no reason to not jump off a bridge. You are free to do whatever you want. If you want to jump off a bridge, no one can stop you and even your own mind may not stop you.
The reality is that most people don't jump off bridges because they fear death and because they enjoy life. As soon as you stop fearing life and stop enjoying life, you will probably jump off a bridge. So I recommend you enjoy life more. If you really love life, you will stick around to enjoy it. And if you don't, no force on Earth will stop you from killing yourself.
You should note, all of my teachings are life-affirming. I talk about having a passion for life and building a great life and loving life. I do not talk about life as something to run away from or escape. Life is beautiful. So stick around.
The human body does limit your consciousness.
You guys seem to confuse two things: 1) Statements of truth, vs 2) What you should do about it.
Many things are true but that does say anything about what you ought to do.
If a yogi tells you that the body limits consciousness, that does not mean you should kill the body.
The body has certain fundamental limits. What you do about it up to you. I have never said to harm the body as a means of raising consciousness. Harming the body NEVER been a valid Actualized.org technique. Look through all of my teaching and one example where I told you that harming the body is valid technique which I endorse. I have obviously never said that because it would deeply irresponsible.

You're not quite getting it.
It's not that Christians think Jesus is the GOAT, they think he is the ONLY son of God.
Christianity is the belief that ONLY Jesus is God.
A Christian does not consider any other enlightened master as God.
To you, Jesus is just the same as Buddha, but to a Christian the Buddha is a satanic being while only Jesus is God.
Christianity is literally a personality cult.

Ego is more than just thoughts or ideas. It is a state of consciousness. Which is why it's so hard to shake. You don't break free of ego just by stopping thinking. You need a state change, which is beyond your conscious control.

You want to be kind but very firm and clear on your values and ambitions.
Ambitious, decisive, strong, but kind and loving. That's the ideal.
The problem is when you act kind as meekness, as lack of confidence, as compromising with foolishness, as having no will of your own, as wanting others to like you, as a way of manipulating them to be kind back to you.
You can be strong but kind, conscious, and loving.

What's better is becoming conscious of how your mind creates suffering.
Suffering is something your mind is doing. You can inquire into why and how your mind creates suffering.
Don't ask me how. Just observe and contemplate your suffering as you suffer. That is how.

Self-inquiry and hardcore retreats are the same thing.
The two most powerful technique are: 1) Psychedelics, and 2) Hardcore solo retreats.
That's what I've said for a long time.
For self-inquiry to be effective it has to be done in the middle of a hardcore retreat.

Ecstasy
There is no one to read when you are fully conscious. Yes, you see through everything and everyone all at once. No more questions remain about anything because you are perfectly omniscient. But this omniscience cannot be put into any human words or thoughts and it is utterly baffling, yet also perfectly obvious.
Imagine so much pleasure that you want to kill yourself because you cannot hold it because it's too much to hold.
Imagine me slowly pulling out all your teeth with rusty pliers, but you feel pleasure instead of pain. The pleasure is so intense that it literally dissolves your human existence. It melts you down into a puddle on the floor. Like an infinite orgasm that lasts for eternity.