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Ralston did a video on sleep a couple of days ago. I don't know if it directly gives the answer you're looking for; it's patently contemplative in nature but as such I suppose it might help.

J: And... we're live Leo Gura. How are you sir? L: I'm pretty good thanks. J:You haven't done many podcasts have you? L: I've been saving myself for you Joe J: OK so there's no pressure... if we fuck this up (joking) you'll just never do another podcast L: (More sarcasm) Yeah but I can cross it off my bucket list J: You can absolutely J: Your channel is unusual. Can I say that? I think I can say that. L: It is unusual. J: I've watched a fair few of your videos and there are some very, very controversial statements in there. L: (explains history of A.org making comparisons with more mainstream self-help, meditation, enlightenment.) Cue psychedelics discussion. Joe asks plenty of skeptical questions. Leo responds, with plenty of caveats and fundamentals, e.g. they both acknowledge that you can't just tell a religious person to drop their faith, or an atheist to consider nonduality. Leo may or may not smoke some bud. Politics. Dating. UFOs. Boom.

Porn, chocolate, processed food, longevity, comfort, money, heat, sight, clothes, the economy, vegetables, war, pain, the sun, YouTube, refrigerators, condoms and tennis rackets for starters.

If we opt for a large doner kebab with no salad, covered in tomato sauce, we'll likely be consuming a ton of processed red meat, fat and salt covered in chemicals, all of which are generally considered not the best choices for a healthy body. If we want our bodies to get essential nutrients then the meal as a whole must be balanced which requires paying attention to what we have with the kebab as well. I guess we could enjoy a doner kebab occasionally and eat well the rest of the time and maybe we'd "get away with it" although fast food can be addictive. If we're going to have kebabs, a healither option might be a shish, which is whole cuts of grilled meat, with a generous quantity and variety of fresh salad and either no sauce, or home-made chilli sauce depending on its ingredients.

There are lots of restaurants in town. You chose to eat at Mario's because you think he makes great meatballs. However you don't like the sauce he puts on them. You find it very spicy and you're not keen on very spicy things. You reserve a table at the restaurant and use it to talk about your own feelings about how spicy the meatballs are. Mario hears your discussion. Instead of throwing you out, he lets you stay there and also gives you a tip on how to make great meatballs of your very own. You don't like the way Mario talked when he gave you the tip. You thought it was kind of direct. Mario's business is booming. He continues to improve his meatball recipe even though they're frequently considered the best in town. Mario loves sharing meatball tips with people and there's actually a queue of people seeking his advice, many of whom would reward him for it. He helps almost all of them free of charge, even responding to comments during his holidays. That said, I think I might also like to see Leo communicate in a more agreeable manner at times if he feels capable of or curious about doing so. This is just a humble personal thought/wonder.

I agree. Rap sometimes indicates aggressive cultures. Does that mean we should target it like circling vultures? Stage red's a necessary level of development. Rhymes give poor kids a rare chance to be eloquent. Every community has a type of music; maybe our immunity lies in how we use it. What should they listen to instead? Psychos turn on classic then go kick someone in the head. While we're here, can someone answer this as a favour: can a person go through red without culture influencing their behaviour?

Wonderful.

@Haloman if you never felt hungry, how would you know when to eat?

I enjoy using Instagram to share photos.

If we tweak the wording a bit, we get: I do all my work to escape my "self". I don't believe in looking into your "self". If you do this, you just discover a lot of shit. I think what we should do is throw ourselves out of ourselves. The truth is not deep in our "selves". The truth is here right now. I'm not massively keen on the word "escape" either but you get the idea

@Radical why are you here on this forum?

Why would you give someone advice?

Please forgive the simplicity of my response, I'm sure other forum-users can give better answers but if you can assign a new meaning to the sound, it may help. Perhaps try and become more conscious of what you've been doing unconsciously. Switching desks also seemed like an obvious response just because of the situation although I'm sure you'd thought of it already and it probably wouldn't change your reaction to the sounds.

Whenever someone says: "I'm not judging but..." Whatever they say next is probably a judgement.

@Leonora nice quote

@jimwell Is it useful to distinguish between people who are low-level psychopaths and people who are not low-level psychopaths?

@yangmilun I like your questions. If you logged your thoughts, feelings, behaviours and beliefs, that were apparent to you, do you expect you'd notice any patterns?

I thought Anthony Hopkins gave a wonderful interview in line with this theme of humility.

Nice observation Moreira.

Communicating with people whose minds are heavily occupied is like crossing a busy city street. You can try and stop the cars or complain about it if you want but nine times out of ten, you're best off standing there for a while, paying attention and keeping your eye out for a gap in the trafic.

@28 cm unbuffed I'd agree that you can be.

If you were blue or below, or even straight-up orange, it seems unlikely that you'd be taking Actualized.org as seriously as you appear to be taking it. If you were turquoise or straight-up yellow, it seems unlikely that you'd be asking the question. As an estimate, I'd therefore go for green, probably with elements of orange as western culture leans so far that way, possibly some yellow. I think that what a person does for their occupation and their interests outside of work are a strong indicator of what stage they're at, regardless of what they self-report. People are complicated "things" though and you may have aspects or qualities that a simple analysis would overlook. Please take my response with a pinch of salt. There's plenty of truth in what the other replies are saying about working it out for yourself.

I had to reach a point where I really needed it before I seriously considered seeing a therapist but once I did, I actually enjoyed it and carried on long after "needing" to. Being able to talk "honestly without being judged" was a unique and, I feel, potentially, a useful experience. I saw a psychodynamic therapist. I see the quality of the dialogue in the sessions as a model for human interaction. I'd find it hard to pin down the details or benefits with any degree of certainty although I could create a speculative list. It cost an arm and a leg, so to speak; the UK health service tends to prefer CBT or pills to long-term talk therapy for patients with diagnosed conditions let alone those who feel like continuing the sessions without one. I attended weekly for two years before reaching a point where I felt like I had run out of things to talk about. Don't expect your friends and family, or really anyone else for that matter, to be supportive. Even some therapists don't believe long-term talk therapy is beneficial.

@Bridge to Infinity do you think your friend will see this post?

To me, Sapiens read like some kind of atheistic bible, masquarading as a history book. I'd say it was orange.