How do you build a social circle from scratch when you’re not in education or work?

[Chosen144]

You’re a young adult, that is not in education, work, or doing anything at the moment. How would you build a social circle from scratch? I know it sounds impossible but the universe is infinite and lightning McQueen probably exists somewhere in that grand infinite universe,right? So if anything in this infinite universe can exist and it’s just an infinite of potential realities. Then building a social circle from scratch shouldn’t be impossible. So i would appreciate it if you guys could help generate some ideas for a young man, who wants to build a social circle from the ground up of like minded people. 

[Leo Gura]

Going out to bars and clubs would be the most obvious way.

[mmKay]

Actually just join weekly group activities that you enjoy and BECOME A REGULAR. Dance classes, theater classes, yoga classes, improv comedy classes, martial art classes, jogging or hiking events, toastmasters classes, sports classes... Join a choir , Volunteer for stuff... You can look up for local meetup groups or Facebook groups, or take initiative and create them.

I've made good wingmen friends from pick up groups like the old RSD Facebook inner circle groups or Game Global city communities 

Once you do that you will passively meet people and ideally YOU would make plans together to further establish your friendship. The insights here is that you have to take responsibility for making it happen. Something the old me would never do. I'd never hang out with people unless someone reached out to me and invited me .And the cool thing is that you don't need force it on the first time you meet people. as you become a regular and chit chat over the weeks , common interests will show up with easy opportunities for hanging out.

Get a dog if you like dogs, take them for walks. Take them to dog parks. Take them for hikes. People will stop you to pet your dog. You will meet other dog owners over time.

Creating a social circle from bars and clubs is possible but not the best way. Also it's pretty advanced and forced imo.

This video here sums up decently how you make friends by becoming a regular at places and activities . In reality it's even smoother. If you literally say a single word to a person at a gym every day or every other day you will eventually start chatting and become buddies. Even by taking your laptop to the same few cafes every now and then you will meet the entire staff and become friends. For some people you would have to put in more effort than others though.

Also eventually you will meet your friends friends and family as well.

 

Edited February 15, 2024 by mmKay

[jivvie]

37 minutes ago, mmKay said:

Once you do that you will passively meet people and ideally YOU would make plans together to further establish your friendship. The insights here is that you have to take responsibility for making it happen. And the cool thing is that you don't need force it on the first time you meet people. as you become a regular and chit chat over the weeks , common interests will show up with easy opportunities for hanging out.

 

 

Agree with this.

Recommend following dude's advice.

[Miguel1]

9 hours ago, Leo Gura said:

Going out to bars and clubs would be the most obvious way.

Second this.

Anyways it develops your character the most.

And having the skills to make friends with complete strangers anywhere you go is a very valuable skills to have.

[gettoefl]

there is a neet subreddit r/neet that may help

[Chosen144]

On 15/02/2024 at 2:31 AM, Leo Gura said:

Going out to bars and clubs would be the most obvious way.

Bars in my area are just full of old white people, not my thing. And for house parties and clubs, I have to be mutual friends with people to know when the next big house party is. I’m a young black guy in my late teens, so yoga classes, support groups etc are usually full of middle aged/elderly white people and I would look out of place. Let alone feeling awkward there. 
 

So I genuinely don’t know what to do, do I get a job or find a college course then socialise through that? 

[Raze]

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ERap8i3qpCw

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ru4EX40al2A