How to prevent pickup from ruining my reputation

[Paul Boldyrev]

I've been going out a lot more lately, but the city I'm in barely has 700.000 people in it. And most approachable girls are students, so chances are I'll see them on campus again. 

I don't think I need to worry too much about "ruining my reputation" at night, but my fear of a bad reputation keeps me from approaching women during daytime. 

Is this irrational? Of course, I'm not planning on being obnoxious or creepy, but since I'm starting out my approaches will be awkward every once in a while. Perhaps I shouldn't worry about this at all. What are your thoughts? Thanks!

 

[Spiral]

Do you intend to stay in this town long term?

[Paul Boldyrev]

@Spiral  Yeah I do, I love the town

But it's close to other big towns and to Berlin, so I could regularly travel someplace else

 

[Raze]

Don’t do it in a place where you’ll be recognized except maybe occasionally. Do social circle.

[LSD-Rumi]

@Paul Boldyrev Practice at night until you become good then move to day game. When you are good at pick up, no one will complain, they complain only if you are creepy 

[kamill]

I did it in a city of 300 000 people on campus in my school. I did it on streets near campus and in the night in local student club. I met couple many girls more than just once but it was never a big deal. Its fine as long as is not creepy as f. Go for it 

[Raze]

Don’t go direct if it’s a girl you will see again, just form a connection over time by talking normally to her.

[Paul Boldyrev]

@LSD-Rumi Thanks, will do

 

@kamill Aight, thanks man. That's the thing - I just need to practice my game

Thank you all guys!

[something_else]

700k is plenty of people for nightgame to work as long as you’re not really creepy on a consistent basis.

If you have basic social skills 700k is more than enough.

[Paul Boldyrev]

@something_else Thanks!

 

[Ajax]

On 6/24/2023 at 8:59 AM, Paul Boldyrev said:

I don't think I need to worry too much about "ruining my reputation" at night, but my fear of a bad reputation keeps me from approaching women during daytime. 

If you are bad at sex, you must worry about your reputation.

College women want a bold, fun guy who is not afraid to serve das weißwurst. Many don't want a relationship; they want sex like you. It is part of the college experience.

Think about it. College is the best chance you will ever have to get sex. Getting women will get much harder after college.  Don't waste your chance with fear and worry.

Edited June 28, 2023 by Ajax

[kamill]

It has not change a bit after I left college there are still plenty of women at clubs who are down. 

[Ajax]

3 minutes ago, kamill said:

It has not change a bit after I left college there are still plenty of women at clubs who are down. 

Hush you! Trying to get the boy laid!  lol

 

True, but you have to think about jobs, rent, life purpose, financial security, more bills, transportation, making the time to go to clubs. After college, you have to do many more adult things, which makes it harder right?  Most of the things you have to worry about in college is getting good grades... 

[The Redeemer]

On 6/24/2023 at 10:59 AM, Paul Boldyrev said:

I've been going out a lot more lately, but the city I'm in barely has 700.000 people in it. And most approachable girls are students, so chances are I'll see them on campus again. 

I don't think I need to worry too much about "ruining my reputation" at night, but my fear of a bad reputation keeps me from approaching women during daytime. 

Is this irrational? Of course, I'm not planning on being obnoxious or creepy, but since I'm starting out my approaches will be awkward every once in a while. Perhaps I shouldn't worry about this at all. What are your thoughts? Thanks!

 

Just don't give a fuck about them. Most of your friends will leave you anyway once they see that you are becoming too successful 

Edited July 11, 2023 by The Redeemer