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Tips for a healthy masturbation (for males ,)

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Masturbation is not the best activitey to spend your time and energy doing  . But let's face it..almost every male on the planet masturbates. We've come to realize that it has the potential to destroy our lives if we overdo it. If you are going to masturbate..there is a less damaging ways to do it.
1- once a week. Between each masturbation session (ejaculation) ..make sure there is a gap of time at least 7 days. Your testosterone gets to a peak level every seven days you don't ejaculate. If you ejaculate twice a week or more..you will feel drained..tired and lazy for a good couple of days. And I explained in other threads why this is.

2-don't edge. Just finish it. Edging is the worst thing you can do. It fucks with your fluids in the reproductive system and urinary system. You are Basically fucking with your pelvic muscle..making it weaker. You are opening it (come on baby we're gonna cum now....oh no just kidding). Now your pelvic muscle will open by itself..randomly..causing frequent urination. You will go to the toilet all the fucking time. Also ..edging causes hard friction on the penis..makes your penis sore ..desensitized . Edging can cause prostate proplem if done for so long. This is only the physical harms ..not to mention how it affects your brain ..elevating dopamine levels for so long. Makes you numb to the constant touch of your hand..yes..ED. don't edge..just bust that nut and move on.
3- be gentle. Your dick is not made out of metal..it can't take any level of pressure and friction for any amount of time.stop "beating your meat". Don't use a tight grip. Don't do it super fast. Use a lube to reduce the friction .And after you finish..flush it with cool water on the penis.
4-don't watch porn. No need to explain the obvious.

And finally.. it's better to not masturbate at all..You are basically fucking yourself for no reason. You don't need it.. you don't want it. You are just addicted to it and doing it out of habit.


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1. Don't start by shaming masturbation. I think you are completely wrong by saying you are better not masturbating at all. Your sexuality and energy is important. I am still developing this but my current view is... Learn to masturbate really well and do it in a quality way. STOP SHAMING MEN FROM MASTURBATING and saying its bad.

You are a sexual being. Your sexual energy is a gift and the energy of all biological creation. 

I think the problem is a lot of men never learned how to masturbate or what it is. Instead we just jerk off to porn, get a quick fix and off we go. This is a change in behaviour that is taking time for me. The problem that masturbation is bad it's that men don't know how to do it in a quality way.

You can Orgasm without ejactulation. You just never learned how because we demonize sexuality in this culture, which is an illusion.

 

 

 

 

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@Thought Art do you know that excessive masturbation especially to porn cam cause erectile dysfunction? 


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9 minutes ago, Someone here said:

@Thought Art do you know that excessive masturbation especially to porn cam cause erectile dysfunction? 

And? What does that have to do what I shared with you. Did you know if you run a marathon everyday its bad for your joints?

If you think your sexual energy, and self pleasuring is bad. You are vastly limiting your potential for spiritual development. You should be using your masturbation to fall deeply in love with yourself, to know yourself sexually and energetically and to become a better lover.

I haven't defended nor promoted porn or chronic ejaculation. Don't project that on me.

Your sexuality is a gift, your sexual energy is a gift. Learn to masturbate in a quality way and enrich your life, your organs, your wellbeing and your spiritual growth. 

Stop abusing your sexual energy.

I am not arguing with you. I am adding nuance. Your saying masturbation is bad, is just false. 

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5 minutes ago, A_v_E said:

don't masturbate more than once per month, without porn if you have no cooperator.

Also never have sex without prospect of bounding in higher harmonic relationship.

Porn and masturbation is a real toxic semi synthetic drug ( because a screen is fucking synthetic )

Don't let coomer tell you it's healthy, I m telling you, it's not, but every drug addict will defend his drugs, and the worst is when a drug addict start calling his drug the medecine. ( every drug addict start to call the poison the medecine )

source : years of many addictions myself.

Careful attacking people and calling them drug addicts. Your sexual energy is a gift and if you've been abusing it that's your problem.


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1 minute ago, Thought Art said:

And? What does that have to do what I shared with you. Did you know if you run a marathon everyday its bad for your joints

It's obvious what that has to do with what you said.   You said masturbation Is not bad and we shouldn't shame ourselves if we do it . Now I disagree with that from my personal experience it can cause a lot of damage to your sexual energy . Especially porn .porn is realy the big demon. The problem is of course no one nowadays fap without watching porn .and it's proven clinically that it's addictive and might cause ED .

But in any case..I'm not saying In this thread here that you should never masturbate ..I'm simply saying there are ways to do it which are healthy and some ways are not .


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8 minutes ago, A_v_E said:

don't masturbate more than once per month, without porn if you have no cooperator.

Also never have sex without prospect of bounding in higher harmonic relationship.

Porn and masturbation is a real toxic semi synthetic drug ( because a screen is fucking synthetic )

Don't let coomer tell you it's healthy, I m telling you, it's not, but every drug addict will defend his drugs, and the worst is when a drug addict start calling his drug the medecine. ( every drug addict start to call the poison the medecine )

porn release as much chemicals as a shoot of a drug. There is no debate, and if you need science to feel the obvious, you may need to level up your consciousness.

source : years of many addictions myself.
 

Agreed 100%.


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6 minutes ago, Someone here said:

It's obvious what that has to do with what you said.   You said masturbation Is not bad and we shouldn't shame ourselves if we do it . Now I disagree with that from my personal experience it can cause a lot of damage to your sexual energy . Especially porn .porn is realy the big demon. The problem is of course no one nowadays fap without watching porn .and it's proven clinically that it's addictive and might cause ED .

But in any case..I'm not saying In this thread here that you should never masturbate ..I'm simply saying there are ways to do it which are healthy and some ways are not .

That's cool. I am saying the same thing. Just stop saying people shouldn't masturbate at all. You can masturbate every day if you do it properly and it can improve your health. It's part of a good Qigong practice. Your body should be full of pleasure everyday. Instead of fear, anxiety and guilt or whatever else society teaches you is normal. 

Your sexual energy is a gift. 

Orgasm, is not ejaculation. Ejaculation should be done rarely. But, you can Orgasm everyday and it inspires your spirit.

If people are abusing anything... drugs, running, yoga, sex, masturbation, porn etc... an excess of anything will have problems.

 

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@Knowledge Hoarder Yeah, but is this about porn or masturbation? 

I am not promoting the watching of porn...

But getting to know your sexual energy, your genitals and your overall energetic system.

What do you think Kundalini is? What do you think Qi is?... A major component is sexual energy.

Shaming your sexuality, and shaming masturbation is gonna cause you more issues than learning to do it in a healthy way.

 

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Pleasure and self love = Bad. Whatever you do. Don't enjoy your life.


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2 minutes ago, Knowledge Hoarder said:

Btw, it just sounds too convenient that masturbating = self love. Like, there are no other forms of self love, than fucking yourself with a hand? I'm just really not buying this shit anymore.

For me, self love is something higher.

Well, it's an aspect of self love.

It's definitely not loving yourself to shame, and disconnect from your life force energy and learning to masturbate and have sex in a high quality way. It's not love to create division within yourself.

It's not really self love to watch porn and masturbate in shame. 

But, it may be self love to make love to yourself and to learn about the full potential of your natural, sober energetic system and the sheer beauty and brilliance that is available to you, given to you by God.

The problem is, you don't really love God's creation and you abuse or demonize it.

Self love is a deep, nuanced topic and it covers a lot of different aspects of reality. 

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@Thought Art you are confusing me . I have no idea what the heck are you talking about. You are all over the place .

Just give a definitive answer..is porn healthy?  Is masturbation healthy? Yes or no ?

Do you make a distinction between doing it in a moderate conscious way and being addicted to it and abusing it ?


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Masturbation can be a highly spiritual experience. @Thought Art knows what he's talking about.


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Aren't you the guy who made a thread about how jerking off was better than actually having sex?  

I'm not going to take your threads seriously, dude.  Garbage content.

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1 minute ago, hoodrow trillson said:

Aren't you the guy who made a thread about how jerking off was better than actually having sex?  

I'm not going to take your threads seriously, dude.  Garbage content.

No worries if you disagree. 

But why the insult? :)


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7 minutes ago, Someone here said:

@Thought Art you are confusing me . I have no idea what the heck are you talking about. You are all over the place .

Just give a definitive answer..is porn healthy?  Is masturbation healthy? Yes or no ?

Do you make a distinction between doing it in a moderate conscious way and being addicted to it and abusing it ?

You want a yes or no, but it's not a yes or no thing.

Yeah, it can be done in a high quality way (which may open you up do doing it very frequently and getting positive benefit) and a low quality way (ejaculation and sprint masturbating) which shouldn't be done, or done regularly.

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Just now, Someone here said:

No worries if you disagree. 

But why the insult? :)

Don't take criticism as an insult :D

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12 minutes ago, Knowledge Hoarder said:

It's not. The scientific studies are clear on this, and have been for decades - the thing is, the list of warnings/dangers is not gonna make you quit, cause humans are not rational creatures.

Actually, some say it's a balance...

https://globalnews.ca/news/6509620/relationships-pornography-balance/#:~:text=Experts say there's a balance,-By Olivia Bowden&text=Pornography can be a sensitive,'t inherently “bad.”

I personally think all the shame around sexuality is a crisis more than sexuality as a whole when done properly and in a quality way.

The reason there is so much disfunction is this.... YOU... (and the people who raised me) Were taught to demonize and be afraid or pleasure, sensuality, feelings, emotions, vulnerability, etc.

Our culture demonizes love, and wonders why there are pedophiles molesting children in the church. When you take sexuality and you demonize it and hide it... it smashes through and expresses itself in fucked up ways that causes so much harm, in a sea of deep shame around the subject even when done "properly". That was a major error in the christian way of thinking.... Thinking that sex was less than holy when actually sexual energy IS GOD, It ITS THE HOLIEST FUCKING ENERGY ON THE PLANET.

Many men who can't get sex from women for example, will simply have sex with other men because men are easier to have sex with.

Sex education is crucial CRUCIAL for the awakening and development of humanity so it can fully blossom. 

It will take a thousand or more years for humanity to heal and develop out of it's sexual, shameful, dysfunctional dark age.

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3 minutes ago, hoodrow trillson said:

Don't take criticism as an insult :D

I welcome all positive constructive criticism. 

But please no need to insult each other .its not good :)


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7 minutes ago, Thought Art said:

You want a yes or no, but it's not a yes or no thing.

Yeah, it can be done in a high quality way (which may open you up do doing it very frequently and getting positive benefit) and a low quality way (ejaculation and sprint masturbating) which shouldn't be done, or done regularly.

What is an example of "high quality " way to masturbate.? Does it involve porn ? Is all porn equally good or equally bad or there is different in geners ?

 


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