Leo, how do you set up the date if you already seeded it?

[SamC]

As I've shared in a former post I seeded a sushi date with a girl in a coffeshop ( poor choice I know but I'm rolling with it) .

Now the question is, do I ask her " sushi this Sunday ? Or just say. Sushi this Sunday, come this and this time. For context - we scheduled for Sunday but not anything specific other than the that I knew a place.

I have already got a response from her so that's something. Now I'm just wondering what approach I should take.

What do you say? @Leo Gura

Edited December 9, 2021 by SamC

[Leo Gura]

"About that sushi... what days are you free?"

[Thought Art]

Sushi sounds like a great date idea tbh

[Ananta]

7 hours ago, SamC said:

I seeded a sushi date with a girl in a coffeshop

Sounds lovely, have fun. 

[Leo Gura]

Even better:

"Sushi. What days are you free?"

Trim all the fat off your texts.

[mmKay]

*send pic of your fav mouth watering sushi*

"Daamn thats HOT"

Sunday at 19 is good? 

Dont be boring with your text game. Be short and precise but combine it with a little playfulness. 

[Leo Gura]

Too try-hard.

[SamC]

Awsome! @Leo Gura thanks Leo

[Flint]

7 hours ago, Leo Gura said:

"About that sushi... what days are you free?"

@SamC This is to some extent bad (again it's a matter of game style) because:

1. It requires effort for her to think as to when she's free. Arguably she should be invested enough to do so but in practice if you can fine tune your game it's better.
2. If you're not free at the time she proposes it creates a horrible back and forth.

I would use a very simple : "Hey, let's go for sushi/coffee/whatever at *this place* *this hour*. Friday or saturday ?"

E.g.  Let's go for an afterwork at crazy monkey bar 5pm, thursday or monday ?

There she has two different options and she'll either agree to one, or offer an alternative if she's busy on both days.

Then, if she agrees, just go with a simple, "ok, see you there".

Preferably on a second date, you can even check for how much she's invested by adding a small "PS: My favourite nail polish is green" and see whether she acts on it.

Overall it sets the right frame : you're leading and she's trying to perhaps please you.

[Lyubov]

3 hours ago, mmKay said:

*send pic of your fav mouth watering sushi*

"Daamn thats HOT"

Sunday at 19 is good? 

Dont be boring with your text game. Be short and precise but combine it with a little playfulness. 

Does this work for you ? I never do this. I sort of just mirror how they are and really just play it cool. Like sort of slightly neutral chill texts with a friend. I won’t text a lot unless they show interest in that but even then I ain’t got time for that. I text a lot if they my gf / fwb though, spam memes. 

Edited December 10, 2021 by Lyubov