Posted November 9, 2021 So I've been considering a prostitute these days, a lot. I'm in a spot right now where I do not feel like approaching girls, dating or anything like that. I have no time and no will for it. Have other things on my mind. What I wanna do, is just fuck somebody, without having to dance around it first. I'm a 27yr old dude who had a lot of sex so far. Like, really, a lot. 5000 times, at least lol. So it's not like I'm incel, or lack experience in that area... it's just that I fucking love sex. I'm approaching three months without any action, and it's kinda getting tough lol. In fact; this will be the longest period I went without getting any, since I lost my virginity. That may sound bizarre to some of you, but it's just something very natural to me. I view sex as a basic need. Almost like food or water. To me it seems it's a necessary component of a well balanced way of living. I'm more centred, more motivated and more creative when having sex. Is that a problem? I realize this can be viewed as a form of addiction, but I don't think I'm in dangerous territory for now. I did not sleep with all too many girls. Just above 30, I'd say. Most of the sex I had was with girlfriends or fuck buddies. Barely a few one night stands. It's just that it was a pretty consistent thing. And now it's not anymore. So what do I do? Should I give myself a break and pay for sex? I mean, taking a girl out for a dinner, a few fancy cocktails and whatnot, would probably cost me the same amount of money. And I might not even get laid. I could also reach out to some old fuck buddies and take a longer ride to meet up with them, but idk, even that seems like too much effort. To much dance. I am very introverted these days. Really don't feel like interacting much, or opening up. I just want to have sex. No talk, no dating, no drinks or dinners, no bs. No pretending like it's about anything else than what it is. So is a hooker a good call right now? There are plenty of porn star level hookers in this city where I'm now staying. I found a website. Lots of options. And it's affordable. I would not mind too much about spending a few bucks on that. I've been with 3 prostitutes in my life, way back, 7 or 8 years ago. One of those experiences was pretty much perfect. I had a great time. The other two were... ok. Nothing too mind blowing, but I did bust a nut lol. The main reason I'm hesitant, is because I changed a lot since then, and I now view things in a different way. I've attained a much higher perspective on life. I'm thinking, what would that mean in terms of vibration, am I really a match to this experience, is this just my mind going through withdrawals and playing tricks on me, etc... There is a big possibility I'd walk away from the experience disappointed and unsatisfied - I feel. But there is also a huge chance it would turn out to be just what I needed. A little push. Some fuel. I could get it out of my system and get back to doing the work, clear headed, at peace. What do you think? Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted November 9, 2021 How is hiring a prostitute a few times going to change anything for you? You gonna keep paying every week? For how many years? And then what? You are God. You are Truth. You are Love. You are Infinity. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted November 9, 2021 If its legal. Maybe. If youre already a chad it wont hurt your self-esteem. If its illegal. No. Just no. Trafficking, STDs, getting arrested. Just a few of the problems. Dont look at me! Look inside! Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted November 9, 2021 (edited) i've been going there too often it's legal and because of social anxiety and at times i've had money to burn had some not so great experiences and also quite some really good experiences Edited November 9, 2021 by PurpleTree Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted November 9, 2021 44 minutes ago, Leo Gura said: How is hiring a prostitute a few times going to change anything for you? It's not about changing anything perse. It's more about getting it out of my system. 44 minutes ago, Leo Gura said: You gonna keep paying every week? For how many years? And then what? This is just a phase that I'm in right now. Later on I'm planning on getting a girlfriend or a fuck buddy. 37 minutes ago, Rilles said: If its legal. Maybe. If youre already a chad it wont hurt your self-esteem. If its illegal. No. Just no. Trafficking, STDs, getting arrested. Just a few of the problems. These are girls that work for themselves. No trafficking or anything like that. Clients go to their apartments to hook up. I've read some reviews on the website.. seems pretty clean. 14 minutes ago, PurpleTree said: i've been going there too often it's legal and because of social anxiety and at times i've had money to burn had some not so great experiences and also quite some really good experiences I don't want to turn this into a habit.. that I'd consider a problem. It's a once in a blue moon type of experience. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted November 9, 2021 47 minutes ago, Leo Gura said: How is hiring a prostitute a few times going to change anything for you? You gonna keep paying every week? For how many years? And then what? It will rid them of the fear that they can’t get sex. It will make them less needy, because at least they know that if they want to have sex at anytime, they can. That should make them more confident around the ladies. "Not believing your own thoughts, you’re free from the primal desire: the thought that reality should be different than it is. You realise the wordless, the unthinkable. You understand that any mystery is only what you yourself have created. In fact, there’s no mystery. Everything is as clear as day. It’s simple, because there really isn’t anything. There’s only the story appearing now. And not even that.” — Byron Katie Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted November 9, 2021 @How to be wise Please read my original post before posting. This is not about not being good with the ladies. I have a lot of experience in that domain. It could be also said that I'm a natural. I have a different type of dilemma here. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted November 9, 2021 (edited) 9 minutes ago, ivankiss said: I don't want to turn this into a habit.. that I'd consider a problem. It's a once in a blue moon type of experience. Yea it can turn into a bad habit easily. Especially i was doing it a lot when i was drunk. So even now when i get drunk i often get the urge to go there. But i've also gone totally sober often also to Tantrikas and things along those lines which can be interesting experiences. I wonder what the women on this forum think about men going to prostitutes because i don't think i've ever talked about that with a woman. Once the topic of prostitution came up in a convo and my buddies gf was like "eeeeewwww why would anybody do that" but i didn't want to get into a discussion about social anxiety etc. Edited November 9, 2021 by PurpleTree Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted November 9, 2021 (edited) @ivankiss If you are experienced in the domain of dating, going out and pulling a chick should be as effortless as paying for a prostitute, therefore, it would be preferable to choose the latter and ''get it out of the system'' for free instead of paying for it. I personally don't have anything against legal prostitution, I just think it's better and cheaper to go out to a night club or packed venue and pull a chick. You have more fun too. Edited November 9, 2021 by Harlen Kelly Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted November 9, 2021 (edited) 19 minutes ago, ivankiss said: These are girls that work for themselves. No trafficking or anything like that. How do you know that? Are you 100% sure? This stuff is highly secretive and the pimps are usually way out of sight. What you read on a website can be bullshit, how would you tell the difference. No girl is going to say she is being pimped. Edited November 9, 2021 by Rilles Dont look at me! Look inside! Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted November 9, 2021 19 minutes ago, ivankiss said: It's more about getting it out of my system. Yeah, but your system recharges every week, so it's like pouring water into a leaky bucket. You are God. You are Truth. You are Love. You are Infinity. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted November 9, 2021 @Harlen Kelly You're missing my point. I don't want to interact with girls right now. I don't want to go out, I don't want to talk, I don't want to play, I don't want to date. I've done that many times, and I know I'm capable of doing it again. Now is just not time for it. This is simply about me wanting to have sex and nothing else. No talk, no flirt, no game, no pulling anyone in. Just an in n out type of thing. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted November 9, 2021 1 minute ago, ivankiss said: This is simply about me wanting to have sex and nothing else. You and every other dude on the planet, Lol You are God. You are Truth. You are Love. You are Infinity. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted November 9, 2021 (edited) 12 minutes ago, Knowledge Hoarder said: You slept with 30 women 5000 times?!? Goddamn, they must be sore af? hahahhahhha ???? 14 minutes ago, ivankiss said: This is simply about me wanting to have sex and nothing else. No talk, no flirt, no game, no pulling anyone in. Just an in n out type of thing. Then get you a prostitute I guess. Edited November 9, 2021 by Harlen Kelly Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted November 9, 2021 womens are avoiding this topic like the plague Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted November 9, 2021 13 minutes ago, Knowledge Hoarder said: You slept with 30 women 5000 times?!? Goddamn, they must be sore af ?? "Not believing your own thoughts, you’re free from the primal desire: the thought that reality should be different than it is. You realise the wordless, the unthinkable. You understand that any mystery is only what you yourself have created. In fact, there’s no mystery. Everything is as clear as day. It’s simple, because there really isn’t anything. There’s only the story appearing now. And not even that.” — Byron Katie Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted November 9, 2021 8 minutes ago, Leo Gura said: You and every other dude on the planet, Lol Yes, but I think my situation is a bit different, since I already had tons of success with girls. I am focused on other shit and there is no space for fooling around with girls. That's all. It's a short phase. Won't last more than a few months, I imagine. 10 minutes ago, Knowledge Hoarder said: You slept with 30 women 5000 times?!? Goddamn, they must be sore af? I don't see a problem with it, honestly. In fact, as long as you're buying higher quality prostitutes, I think it's a better alternative to most mainstream porn, from ethical standpoint. Well, idk about you guys, but when I have a gf, I have sex with her nearly every day. Sometimes, multiple times a day. That might change from now on, but in my past, it was so. 9 years of being in relationships, plus a few fuck buddies around that, and the numbers are there lol. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted November 9, 2021 Fucking hell. I'm 50/50 on it. Can't decide. I've got all the reasons why I shouldn't do it, and all the reasons why I should. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted November 9, 2021 1 minute ago, ivankiss said: Fucking hell. I'm 50/50 on it. Can't decide. I've got all the reasons why I shouldn't do it, and all the reasons why I should. toss a coin Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted November 9, 2021 @PurpleTree That seems... scary haha Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
