A list of (healing) thoughts to release resistance

[Waken]

I got an idea and enthusiasm to share the following while sitting in bath, so here goes. I think the following list may in general be more useful for softer or more sensitive people, as I think they could be more prone to judging themselves/giving themselves a hard time. So the following lists are (expressed) thoughts that can release resistance from negative thoughts. Of course, they can be used only once, or be used more as a mantra to bring oneself back to center when troubling or restless thoughts and emotions are present. These thoughts are largely for what has been relevant in my life and aren't necessarily tuned to your needs but because we live in the same world, might be applicable for you too. The nice things about these thoughts is, for me anyway, that you know they are true, and therefore don't feel like make belief but rather reminders. The idea is that you can look through the list and see if some thoughts speak to you. If they do, you can repeat them a bit slowly in your mind or say it out loud (softly). Then notice how they make you feel.

 

• I don't need to try harder
• I don't need to push myself
• I don't need to have it all together
• I don't need to achieve anything
• I don't need to make things happen
• I don't have to be further than I am
• I don't have to be more developed
• I don't have to compare myself with others
• I don't have to know more 
• I don't have to understand more

 

• I don't need to be forgiven
• I don't need to forgive another
• I don't need to be loved
• I don't need to love another
• I don't have to be nicer
• I don't have to be more loving
• I don't need to save anybody
• I don't need to be saved by anybody

 

• I don't need to have it all figured out
• I don't need to know what's going on
• I don't need to control things
• I don't have to beat myself up over anything
• I don't need to think unpleasant thoughts about myself
• I don't have to argue with my thoughts
• I don't have to respond to (negative) thoughts
• I don't even have to listen to negative thoughts
• I don't have to believe any thoughts that don't feel good
• I don't need to know how to heal myself
• I don't need to fix myself
• I don't (have to) know how to fix things
• I don't have to think about what will happen
• I don't need to know what will happen
• I don't need to know or understand anything

Wishing you well,

Edited August 19, 2021 by Waken

[Nahm]

Just, yes. ?? 

This isn’t a rehearsal. 

No one is coming. 

This is it. 

I am already free. 

 

[Thought Art]

[Bazooka Jesus]

1 hour ago, Waken said:

I don't have to argue with my thoughts

That's a big one right there. I feel that many folks on this path - myself included - tend to make enemies of their thoughts, which is completely pointless and counterproductive.

Just don't pick a fight and you won't get smacked! 

Nice list, brother. 

Edited August 19, 2021 by Bazooka Jesus

[Waken]

@Nahm Ha, not surprised you like it:D Thank you, and also thank you for that juicy thought 'I am already free', I might remind myself more of that and dwell in it

 

7 minutes ago, Bazooka Jesus said:

That's a big one right there. I feel that many folks on this path - myself included - tend to make enemies of their thoughts, which is completely silly and counterproductive.

Just don't pick a fight and you won't get smacked!

Yes, boy it is and for me too. A big part of my recent years have been about learning how to deal, or frankly how I've started seeing it more and more to NOT deal, with the mind. Today I was thinking some thoughts that felt good, and a negative thought came up like 'no you can't do that, that's irresponsible' I knew that arguing with thoughts didn't work, but was still had the thought that I needed to have some sort of response to it, until a thought came that even that may not be necessary, just completely ignore all negative thought, don't even listen to them. Then felt the inspiration to share this post.

[RickyFitts]

@Waken Love it, thanks for sharing  

[Bazooka Jesus]

6 minutes ago, Waken said:

@Nahm

A big part of my recent years have been about learning how to deal, or frankly how I've started seeing it more and more to NOT deal with the mind.

A+

[Waken]

@RickyFitts You're welcome

[Goldzilla]

This approach "i don't need to" is only the left side of things. Don't over do it, leads to sleep. 

[TheAlchemist]

This is it!

This is enough. 

This is where it all happens, right here, right now.

 

To any emotions/sensations that arise:

Welcome home. 

This is complete perfection.

 

Edited August 19, 2021 by TheAlchemist

[RickyFitts]

@TheAlchemist Beautiful 

[blankisomeone]

11 hours ago, Waken said:

• I don't need to save anybody

A-fucking-men!

[blankisomeone]

What about these?

I don't need to keep up with stories
I don't need to explain my personal insights to others
I don't need to put others or myself up in pedestals
I don't need to be afraid of the consequences of reporting my truth
I don't have to laugh at others' jokes
I don't have to agree with what I don't want to do

I don't have to be understanding or compassionate

I don't have to make conversation

I don't have to entertain others or be entertained by others

Fighting what IS is insanity. You can try. See how that works out for you

Edited August 20, 2021 by blankisomeone

[Waken]

Thank you for lovely responses or contributions people

@blankisomeone Love to see that you joined in with that:-)

These four below work quite well for me. Especially the 2 latest one in this list have some resistance left for me to dissolve, so thank you:
I don't need to put others or myself up in pedestals
I don't have to be understanding or compassionate
I don't have to make conversation
I don't have to entertain others or be entertained by others

It's sweet right, that sense of relief/release of resistance when speaking these sentences. 'I don't have to laugh at others joke', ha funny one. I don't have situations around where that is applicable, but can understand the pressure of a sense of having to laugh when you don't feel like it.

It's good when making these thoughts that they aren't too specific but remain a general, or that they remind you of negative thought, so you don't associate/connect them with negative thoughts/feelings. Otherwise, they make you feel that negativity again, which is what that sentence "I don't need to be afraid of the consequences of reporting my truth" did a bit for me. If that's not the case for you, then of course it's good.

Edited August 20, 2021 by Waken