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Man in an abusive relationship?

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45 minutes ago, eaaaeaeae said:

I hope you have a ton of money, cause I heard in america the women takes more than half even if you are the victim. 

Not everything in life is about money.. but don't worry, I have a good lawyer and I know my rights.  I walked away from my first 'toxic relationship' with everything.. the house, the cars, the kids.. and didn't pay a dime to her for Alimony or Child Support. 
 

45 minutes ago, eaaaeaeae said:

Why you even go with that kind of women brothas? 

Excitement, Love, Adventure, Naivety, Attraction, Loneliness, Poor Judgement. a whole host of reasons, I suppose.  Hindsight is 20/20

Edited by Mason Riggle

"I could be the walrus. I'd still have to bum rides off people."

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16 hours ago, Mason Riggle said:

Not everything in life is about money..

if you have money then ok, but I think losing money you worked for is triggering

16 hours ago, Mason Riggle said:

Excitement, Love, Adventure, Naivety, Attraction, Loneliness, Poor Judgement. a whole host of reasons, I suppose.  Hindsight is 20/20

hormones are the reason men get in relationships with women, they can't resist their own hormones.

So I am just saying, if hormones blind you and women's nature is to be attracted to someone that can help a woman, and it's a common phenomena that they divorce their husband, then... again I am just saying... then.... maybe not making relationships at all is better than risking for some hormones that can be fuffiled by being a player or something. But who am I to tell what to do, it's just a suggestion

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@eaaaeaeae I'm not sure how 'don't get into relationships' is useful advice for someone already in a relationship.  

Money comes, money goes.  I've had it all, lost it all, and got it all back.. I'm not afraid of divorce.  It's great, actually.  I'm glad it's an option for me. As I said, I have a good lawyer, and I know my rights.  You act as if I'm the only one in my relationship who worked for what I have.  She deserves half of what we both worked to build, even if I'm 'the victim'.  

But I don't see myself as a victim, at least not a victim of 'her behavior'.. I can only be taken advantage of to the degree I allow it.  What am I a victim of? My own inability to create and maintain safe boundaries for myself? At least I can work on that. 

And sure, hormones go on that list as well.  I'll travel back in time now and keep my hormones in check. 


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