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Why do left brained men exist?

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36 minutes ago, Mikael89 said:

See. Impossible to get a girlfriend when girls are so picky.

If I have 124 683 hairs on my head instead of 124 684 the girl will hate me.

Because of this I have seriously sometimes thought to myself: "How is it possible that ANY guy can get a girlfriend?" When girls demand so much perfection from her partner?

Yea too bad that I will be single my whole life. No wonder I constantly feel a bit down.

It's not demanding perfection. He doesn't have to be perfect. He just has to be him. I just want the one that I want, and no one else will do. There is no shopping around for me. It doesn't work like male sexuality. It's not objective and general. It's subjective and specific to just that one guy... who to everyone else might seem average. 

Men are attracted to women initially as merely the sum of her parts. It's very objective and has to do with if she has whatever things he value in a partner... usually physical attractiveness. But for women, they are attracted to men as more than the sum of his parts. No particular ingredient makes a woman drawn to a particular man. It's the magic that happens when those ingredients are all mixed together to create a unique individual and the chemistry that is felt. 

Now I could 'boo hoo' and say "look at men and how objectifying they are. They're inherently emotionally corrupt and will take anything they can get, and they don't even like me for me. And I'll never find a guy who sees me as more than a piece of meat to have an orgasm in. To them, women are interchangeable sex dolls." 

But this would come from victim's mentality and short-sightedness. Men get attracted in a particular way because of biology. Women are selective, so they need to shop around. Women get attracted in a particular way because of biology. Men can have thousands of children in their lifetimes... but women only one every nine months. So, we need a much more intuitive and complex system for determining the right partner for us... and that's different for every woman, even though some things overlap in terms of what has the most mass appeal. We need to be selective to find the right partner.

And if I don't like that men get attracted to women in that way... though shit for me. That's nature. And if men don't like the fact that I'm only attracted to one guy at a time because they think it's unfair to them... tough shit for them too. That's nature. 

But this difference doesn't mean that being successful with women is impossible, and it also doesn't mean that intimacy and particularity with a man is impossible. It just means that it's a bit more difficult to cultivate... but just a bit. People are people. And men and women like particular things that can be cultivated to some degree. And men and women both need intimacy. 

So, when it comes to the nature of female attractions, you should see this as a positive thing. If a girl likes you, chances are she likes you for you. She won't feel that way for other guys. And for someone you will be THAT guy that her day rises and sets by if you just chill out and allow it to happen. No one likes a Negative Nancy. That's the dealbreaker and probably why you haven't had success with women. But I'm sure that someone's taken a shining to you before. You probably just didn't know it because women hide their attractions if they think the guy won't reciprocate. And your closed-off-ness would probably be interpreted as disinterest. 

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@Emerald I love your insights and perspectives.

Initial attraction is always very interesting to me in how people pick and choose potential partners. I will often be drawn to a girl by if I find her physically attractive or not. But if her personality ends up weak and shallow to me then I will be completely turned off from her. Its not stimulating. Or if they act in ways that shows how they lack awareness of their own actions is a dealbreaker. Its probably because I want a partner I can openly grow with instead of being the only one questioning. 

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15 minutes ago, Shadowraix said:

@Emerald I love your insights and perspectives.

Initial attraction is always very interesting to me in how people pick and choose potential partners. I will often be drawn to a girl by if I find her physically attractive or not. But if her personality ends up weak and shallow to me then I will be completely turned off from her. Its not stimulating. Or if they act in ways that shows how they lack awareness of their own actions is a dealbreaker. Its probably because I want a partner I can openly grow with instead of being the only one questioning. 

Thank you! I find that usually men come for the sex, and stay because I'm awesome. (blows on fingernails for no reason) xD 

It just takes a little longer for men to devil up deeper attractions where for women the initial attraction and deeper attraction have already begun to mix.

But the idea with male sexuality does kind of work that way from an energetic perspective. Female attraction starts in the head and travels to the heart (and eventually the loins). Male attraction starts at the loins and travels to the heart (and eventually the head). 

So, if there is not path to the heart, no one's hanging around for very long. No one's really just looking for sex.

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4 hours ago, Emerald said:

It's not demanding perfection. He doesn't have to be perfect. He just has to be him. I just want the one that I want, and no one else will do. There is no shopping around for me. It doesn't work like male sexuality. It's not objective and general. It's subjective and specific to just that one guy... who to everyone else might seem average.

So, when it comes to the nature of female attractions, you should see this as a positive thing. If a girl likes you, chances are she likes you for you. She won't feel that way for other guys. And for someone you will be THAT guy that her day rises and sets by if you just chill out and allow it to happen. No one likes a Negative Nancy. That's the dealbreaker and probably why you haven't had success with women. But I'm sure that someone's taken a shining to you before. You probably just didn't know it because women hide their attractions if they think the guy won't reciprocate. And your closed-off-ness would probably be interpreted as disinterest. 

I'm pretty sure I would develop such "no one else will do"-feelings if I would like a girl.

Yes if a girl would like me then it would be a positive thing, but no girl will like me as a boyfriend.

If I chill out and allow it to happen? I will get a girlfriend if I chill out?

No, no girl has ever taken a shining on me. Except one girl, but I rejected her because I didn't like her, so that doesn't count.

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48 minutes ago, Mikael89 said:

I'm pretty sure I would develop such "no one else will do"-feelings if I would like a girl.

Yes if a girl would like me then it would be a positive thing, but no girl will like me as a boyfriend.

If I chill out and allow it to happen? I will get a girlfriend if I chill out?

No, no girl has ever taken a shining on me. Except one girl, but I rejected her because I didn't like her, so that doesn't count.

No women will like you because you don't want to.

If you did, you will work for it.

You wouldn't just sit here complaining like a 90 years old about how he fucked up his life.

 

The only thing you want is validation on how lazy and fearful you are behind you supposedly depression.

No one will give you that here, you waste your energy if you think that will happen.

 

I know how you think you know, you think you're special, but the harsh truth is that you are just one lazy fuck amongst dozens of millions.

Nothing special about that at all.

 

You know what would be special and beautiful ?

You working on yourself hard, and coming back in some months/year(s) telling us how happy and fulfilled you are.


Why do you stay in prison
When the door is so wide open ?

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Can someone just lock this thread please, I was starting it with a genuine question and its turning into a pity party once again.

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