Relationship Green flags 🌱🏁

[Salvijus]

If I sense an opening, a feeling of trust towards me, I'm already one with them. That's the green light for me. 

[Valach]

34 minutes ago, Basman said:

Compassionate listener types tend to be doormats in my experience. Like they keep hanging out with druggos and bums and act like their therapist.

You can be compassionate with having a strong sense of self esteem and healthy boundaries. I would actually argue that what you are describing is not compassionate person but a people pleaser (which always comes out of self interest).

[eos_nyxia]

1 hour ago, Zenterus said:

- Is a good non-judgmental listener, which is so rare these days.

- Has deep empathy for those struggling in life and the less priviledged.

- Comfortable spending time alone with themselves without constant outside stimulation to distract them.

 

40 minutes ago, Basman said:

Compassionate listener types tend to be doormats in my experience. Like they keep hanging out with druggos and bums and act like their therapist.

These two things don't normally go together though.

[Sugarcoat]

1 hour ago, Salvijus said:

Intimidated of what? 

By your attraction to them, because there is depth there to be exposed. If it feels "too comfortable", it could be red flag ime. 

[Natasha Tori Maru]

1 hour ago, Basman said:

so an introverted doormat lol

I think you need to focus on what is said, and seperate it from your interpretation and inference.

[Salvijus]

32 minutes ago, Sugarcoat said:

By your attraction to them, because there is depth there to be exposed. If it feels "too comfortable", it could be red flag ime. 

Okay 

[Schizophonia]

It is strictly impossible to be good since every quality is polarized, describing itself as good or bad depending on the context and point of view in general.

In this kind of topic as usual you delve deeper into your persona, which is, in a way, the source of all your relationships problems.

The observer is the observed, therefore the problem-maker will not be the solution.

Edited 41 minutes ago by Schizophonia

[Basman]

1 hour ago, Valach said:

You can be compassionate with having a strong sense of self esteem and healthy boundaries. I would actually argue that what you are describing is not compassionate person but a people pleaser (which always comes out of self interest).

Compassion can get pretty detached from reality at a certain point if your not careful. Its not a given at all that compassion is always wise. Like trying to help a squirming animal than it kicks you in the face.

 

[Valach]

3 minutes ago, Basman said:

Compassion can get pretty detached from reality at a certain point if your not careful. Its not a given at all that compassion is always wise. Like trying to help a squirming animal than it kicks you in the face.

 

Then you lack compassion. Compassion for yourself. Compassion is not about becoming some sort of martyr.

[Basman]

https://www.buzzfeednews.com/article/leticiamiranda/a-bison-calf-had-to-be-euthanized-after-it-was-saved-by-yell

 

[Basman]

1 minute ago, Valach said:

Then you lack compassion. Compassion for yourself. Compassion is not about becoming some sort of martyr.

You rack disiprine

[Valach]

2 minutes ago, Basman said:

You rack disiprine

What?