Dating app and social media are fucking dating up

[BlessedLion]

On 10/28/2026 at 7:30 PM, LordFall said:

See you just did it again in another way. If women don't like you, it's because they're ruined by dating apps and social media. If other men are succeeding, it's because they're toxic and addicted.

Agreed, OP seems quite bitter about the whole thing, veering towards black pill rhetoric. Just because a guy is good with women and gets laid doesn't mean he is miserable , what a ridiculous correlation lol 

[BlessedLion]

On 10/28/2026 at 9:31 PM, something_else said:

You want the dating world to conform to your model, rather than building your model around the realities of the dating world.

BAM, right there, that is some mic drop shit! 

[BlessedLion]

On 10/29/2026 at 2:44 AM, LordFall said:

This is actually what Stage Green looks like

I was going say this whole post and OP in general is super Stage Green. Stage Green demonizes masculinity and ambition, wants everything to be equal/fair, and is all in their emotions. Textbook Stage Green. 

[LordFall]

13 hours ago, BlessedLion said:

I was going say this whole post and OP in general is super Stage Green. Stage Green demonizes masculinity and ambition, wants everything to be equal/fair, and is all in their emotions. Textbook Stage Green. 

Agreed! I think green is one of the most important stages but the most ineffective and frustrating to be in. It invalidates such key concepts of our reality that the people in it are bound to be left angry and feeling like a victim. Only by going beyond that and doing deep research on the systems of the world that do create inequality(and plenty of free value that we don't have to work for as well) do you start to see the limits of complaining and how you can have a deep impact on your life and on society at large by understanding leverage. 

@Alexop You would not have made this post if you knew 30 really hot and cool women in your city. I would focus on becoming a man of value and abundance and that will take care of a lot of your dating life. Yes you can also do this by being a selective intellectual that engages in deep conversations; as a matter of fact it'll work even better that way.

People at the top of social hierarchies are usually quite refined and fascinating to talk to, from the bottom they look shallow but that's because they operate with complicated systems that are hard to understand and appreciate at first glance. 

[Alexop]

On 30/10/2026 at 3:09 PM, BlessedLion said:

Agreed, OP seems quite bitter about the whole thing, veering towards black pill rhetoric. Just because a guy is good with women and gets laid doesn't mean he is miserable , what a ridiculous correlation lol 

I am no blackpill dude. I was trying to grasp the situation. My conclusion is that many women stay single in their prime because they came to the conclusion that being single is better. They talk to each other. They all come with the same stories. My ex sucked ass, he was shit, I was sad and depressed etc. It is a combination of most men are low quality that leads to a culture among women of "happier alone", and the dating apps and social  media which give women an inflated sense of value in dating. 

This is not blackpill or whining as you guys say here. The woman I am looking for is rare, Stage Green, that had bad experiences with men before. I tend to take back the importance of dating apps in this problem. It is a contributing factor. The biggest factor is that Green women awakened to how shitty men are... and they choose to be single. They don't have no patience to invest in searching for a good man. 

Edited 5 hours ago by Alexop

[integral]

4 minutes ago, Alexop said:

My conclusion is that many women stay single in their prime because they came to the conclusion that being single is better.

The number of women who are single from self-control is exceptionally rare.

[Alexop]

41 minutes ago, integral said:

The number of women who are single from self-control is exceptionally rare.

AI:

Key Demographic Insights

Late 20s (Ages 20–29): Studies show that around 34% of women under 30 report being single. A significant portion of these women are actively choosing not to seek a relationship, opting instead to focus on higher education, early career building, and personal growth.  

 

Idk what are you talking about dude. Ask the AI about this issue. Easy.

Edited 4 hours ago by Alexop

[integral]

27 minutes ago, Alexop said:

AI:

Key Demographic Insights

Late 20s (Ages 20–29): Studies show that around 34% of women under 30 report being single. A significant portion of these women are actively choosing not to seek a relationship, opting instead to focus on higher education, early career building, and personal growth.  

 

Idk what are you talking about dude. Ask the AI about this issue. Easy.

34% likely from the need to focus on career, not a evaluation on men.

Also i dont buy these numbers. 

34% means approximately 1 in 3 women aged 18–29 were single at the time of the survey.

It does not mean:

• They avoid relationships altogether.
• They've never had a boyfriend.
• They intend to remain single.
• They aren't interested in men.

That 34% is entering in and out of relationships, they are just single at that point in time randomly. 

Edited 3 hours ago by integral

[Alexop]

A more recent YouGov survey of British singles found:

35% generally prefer being single.

30% aren't interested in a relationship at present.

29% say they don't easily trust people.

30% find dating stressful or difficult.

42% say they haven't met the right person.

 

As easy as that. They realize that men suck, and life is better without a shitty man. I bet money that deep down these women want a relationship, but they were repeatedly disappointed by men. And this created a culture among women. Women are highly socially contagious. If the general vibe is that "being single is cool" and "men are difficult". That will have a strong influence on them.

And these pick-up idiots are working on hiding their real face and learning how to trick women. They learn how to sugarcoat themselves. And this trick will not work forever. If men don't genuinely become better, women will just choose singledom in higher and higher numbers.

I am not blackpilled against dating if I research and conclude that. This will just adjust my expectations and improve my quality of life, by understanding what exactly happens instead of gaslighting myself with pickup shit. I will still pursue women, but in a more relaxed way, being easy on myself.

Edited 3 hours ago by Alexop

[LordFall]

This is why building an interesting social life and building social capital is a cheat code to attract high quality interesting women. The average man doesn't have much to offer so most women don't go out of their way to entertain that type of man. It's very important to build a life strategy that's superior to the average and mediocre life that most people live and thus both high quality women and average women will be interested in joining your life. 

[Alexop]

@LordFall I admit that building and holding social circles are not my trump card. 

[integral]

@Alexop The only reason a woman is single At any moment is because they weren't emotionally stimulated Recently.

A woman only cares how things make them feel, and that's the only reason they make decisions. They are not making decisions by calculating the landscape, or there career or anything they say

When you ask a woman why she's not in a relationship, she'll give you reasons. But that is not how she made her decisions. So the question was wrong to begin with.

You need to ask her, when was the last time Someone made you feel anything that made you want to enter into a relationship?

The question has to be about her feelings because that is ultimately what made the decision.

If you can stimulate her, she will enter into a relationship. It is not logic reasons or decision making or any thinking process or idiology or "i was hurt" that is stopping her from dating.

Edited 2 hours ago by integral

[Natasha Tori Maru]

@integral you make decisions based on preferences and values - emotions and feelings. Logic can't make a decision for you. All humans equally. Not just women. 

Edited 1 hour ago by Natasha Tori Maru

[integral]

37 minutes ago, Natasha Tori Maru said:

@integral you make decisions based on preferences and values - emotions and feelings. Logic can't make a decision for you. All humans equally. Not just women. 

Men 100% blindly following emotions when selecting partners, especially in their 20s. I was talking about women because he was talking about women.

[Natasha Tori Maru]

@integral yes, and I was adding this is human nature. Not inherent to one sex.