Dating app and social media are fucking dating up

[Ulax]

4 minutes ago, AION said:

That is a victim mindset. As a guy you shouldn’t think about these kind of things. If she ends up as a cat wife with 10 cats. That is her concern and her problem. As a guy you have to be more like women. More agency/selfishness and having more to offer. Because you sitting at home feeling sad about women who don’t care about you is just not the way to spend your time. 

It is okay to have compassion lol

[AION]

5 minutes ago, Alexop said:

again, I shared something I noticed. I don't complain. 

Ok.  I had similar thoughts too when I was having low to none prospects. That is why I said that. If you are successful in dating it doesn’t even cross your mind. 

 

4 minutes ago, Ulax said:

It is okay to have compassion lol

Do you think hot women sit at home contemplating and having compassion for you why you don’t have a gf 😂 im not even saying have no compassion by the way. That is a wrong read. I have compassion by offering value. 

Edited 19 hours ago by AION

[Ulax]

2 minutes ago, AION said:

Do you think hot women sit at home contemplating and having compassion for you why you don’t have a gf 😂 im not even saying have no compassion by the way. That is  wrong read. 

Yes I believe hot women sit at home and think about me a lot

[AION]

2 minutes ago, Ulax said:

Yes I believe hot women sit at home and think about me a lot

In between sipping her wine with Chad and Tyrone she might think about you. 😝

 

 

[Alexop]

4 minutes ago, AION said:

Ok.  I had similar thoughts too when I was having low to none prospects. That is why I said that. If you are successful in dating it doesn’t even cross your mind. 

I agree that I am in a low prospect situation and this is affecting me. Mainly because I am looking for a mature woman with whom I can have a deep relationship, maybe for life. The same as Miguel, the moderator. We had sex, and we evolved over it. If I just have sex with some random chick from the videos of this dude who came here to give me advice, it will feel for me like I am masturbating with a body. 

[Ulax]

Just now, AION said:

In between sipping her wine with Chad and Tyrone she might think about you. 😝

 

I'm flattered you see gay men as being into me as well  

[meta_male]

4 hours ago, Alexop said:

Yes. But women have very little patience to get to know men now. After they had so many bad experiences with low quality relationships and boring guys.

When you get scammed over an over, you just give up.

I can see where you're coming from. Do you connect with women regardless of whether you see them as potential partners?

[AION]

24 minutes ago, Ulax said:

I'm flattered you see gay men as being into me as well  

This is your chance bro 

 

24 minutes ago, Alexop said:

I agree that I am in a low prospect situation and this is affecting me. Mainly because I am looking for a mature woman with whom I can have a deep relationship, maybe for life. The same as Miguel, the moderator. We had sex, and we evolved over it. If I just have sex with some random chick from the videos of this dude who came here to give me advice, it will feel for me like I am masturbating with a body. 

Don't take Miguel as an example. He is looking for a goddess in flesh and blood who has unicorns and doesn’t fart. Dating with humans is not dating with gods and goddesses.  It is about reproduction which gods and goddesses don’t need to do. The biggest reason why you and Ulax are not successful is that you  don’t see what dating and sex is. You have this idealization of how things should be while reality is how things should exactly be like. Women are far more realistic about what mating and dating is. Probably because pregnancy is high cost and their fertility time span is only two decades. 

Edited 19 hours ago by AION

[Alexop]

7 minutes ago, AION said:

This is your chance bro 

 

Don't take Miguel as an example. He is looking for a goddess in flesh and blood who has unicorns and doesn’t fart. Dating with humans is not dating with gods and goddesses.  It is about reproduction which gods and goddesses don’t need to do. The biggest reason why you and Ulax are not successful is that you  don’t see what dating and sex is. You have this idealization of how things should be while reality is how things should exactly be like. Women are far more realistic about what mating and dating is. Probably because pregnancy is high cost and their fertility time span is only two decades. 

Sure, Thanks Chad   I am looking for a woman with whom I can have intellectual intimacy. I know what I want. I had lots of sex, chill.

 

Edited 19 hours ago by Alexop

[AION]

Just now, Alexop said:

Sure, Thanks Chad   

I’m no Chad but lately I have been Chadish 😛 It is just a temporary arch. But I was where you were so I kind of get it. 

[Ulax]

9 minutes ago, AION said:

Don't take Miguel as an example. He is looking for a goddess in flesh and blood who has unicorns and doesn’t fart. Dating with humans is not dating with gods and goddesses.  It is fighting in the mud and it is survival. The biggest reason why you and Ulax are not successful is that you  don’t see what dating and sex is. You have this idealization of how things should be. While women are far more realistic about what mating and dating is. Probably because pregnancy is high cost and their fertility time span is only two decades. 

Women want flowers, chocolates, and for me to me to listen to their emotions. I know this is true from movies.

[Alexop]

8 minutes ago, AION said:

I’m no Chad but lately I have been Chadish 😛 It is just a temporary arch. But I was where you were so I kind of get it. 

Peace dude. I compare me with myself. Not with others. I am no pickup artist, but I evolved from a bullied loser who was rejected even from highschool Freshman prom's preselection to having multi-year relationships with women who look and behave better than any of those who called me loser could even smell. ✌️ 

[Ulax]

14 minutes ago, Alexop said:

Peace dude. I compare me with myself. Not with others. I am no pickup artist, but I evolved from a bullied loser who was rejected even from highschool Freshman prom's preselection to having multi-year relationships with women who look and behave better than any of those who called me loser could even smell. ✌️ 

[AION]

@Alexop yea I understand. It is an inner struggle. 

[Basman]

I feel like a lack of open mindedness is the problem. Your must have an open heart for the opportunity to really love someone. You only get so many opportunities for a long-term relationships. That's the real shame.

I know someone who's one of those rare types who cares more about being drawn to who someone is and less their looks. They got low standards looks wise in fact. I think it's genuinely easier to date when your like that. He's very open minded as a baseline.

[BlessedLion]

21 hours ago, LordFall said:

Level yourself up and you'll find yourself attracting single women in droves as opposed to the mass of boring and forgettable men out there. 

Have you built an interesting life and a well-thought-out Instagram to showcase it? If you're not using effective dating tools then you only have yourself to blame for your lack of success in this area. 

I've also talked about hosting your own events which further elevate your status and gives you even more opportunities to meet new women and content to post for your social media.

Have you hosted an event before? Do you post content? If you don't offer value to the world then predictably you'll be left mostly unsatisfied with the value you're getting in return and if you have a victim mindset you'll mostly complain instead of looking at more ways to offer value and thus be valuable to women. 

Also are you getting continuously rejected by women or have you not even worked up the courage to ask out a lot of them and then came to the conclusion that you're not wanted by the market? If you're an anxious man being frustrated that women are also anxious and not making moves on men then I got news for you: that's role in the dating marketplace. 

 

Agreed

[BlessedLion]

15 hours ago, Alexop said:

But yea, it is fucking Sweden by the way. Imagine the social problems you have in your country and make it 2x worse. That is northen Europe  101.

I will agree with you that some countries and cultures are better than others, but at their core all women are pretty much the same and driven by the same evolutionary wiring, including attraction. Some just have a "thicker shell" from their cultural programming. 

[Alexop]

43 minutes ago, BlessedLion said:

I will agree with you that some countries and cultures are better than others, but at their core all women are pretty much the same and driven by the same evolutionary wiring, including attraction. Some just have a "thicker shell" from their cultural programming. 

Of course. They work on the biological script they were given. They look for the best man they can find. The same do men, they look for the hottest woman they can have. If a hotter woman  than the one they have shows interest to them, they will jave a hard time resisting that. 

In fact, if men had the power that women now have on the dating "market". It would be worse. They would just fuck all of them and not commit to one. They would also have a hard time choosing one woman to commit to.

This is why successful pick-up artist have a shitty life. They are some immature boys who cracked the code and now they can't stop. They get addicted to sex and pick-up.

Edited 5 hours ago by Alexop

[LordFall]

16 hours ago, Alexop said:

Translation: I need to feed my ego giving a guy unsolicited advice.

It's not about me and my ego man. We are on a self-development forum. It's the oldest trick in the book to blame the world, culture and in this case, women for our problems. I used to do the same thing. It feels better to externalize blame but only by having a strong inwardly focused locus of control did I start to feel in control of my dating life. 

If you blame women's attitudes for your lack of success then you can spend the next 5 or 50 years experiencing the same problems. There is no need to do that though, if you re-read this thread with an unbiased eye, I'm sure you'll be able to easily spot your own rationalizations and lack of objective problem-solving.

> In fact, if men had the power that women now have on the dating "market". It would be worse. They would just fuck all of them and not commit to one. They would also have a hard time choosing one woman to commit to.

This is why successful pick-up artist have a shitty life. They are some immature boys who cracked the code and now they can't stop. They get addicted to sex and pick-up.

See you just did it again in another way. If women don't like you, it's because they're ruined by dating apps and social media. If other men are succeeding, it's because they're toxic and addicted.

No matter what your ego comes out on top and doesn't learn a thing.

I would encourage you to introspect on this way of looking at the world and if it's really serving you. 

Edited 3 hours ago by LordFall

[Alexop]

1 hour ago, LordFall said:

It's not about me and my ego man. We are on a self-development forum. It's the oldest trick in the book to blame the world, culture and in this case, women for our problems. I used to do the same thing. It feels better to externalize blame but only by having a strong inwardly focused locus of control did I start to feel in control of my dating life. 

If you blame women's attitudes for your lack of success then you can spend the next 5 or 50 years experiencing the same problems. There is no need to do that though, if you re-read this thread with an unbiased eye, I'm sure you'll be able to easily spot your own rationalizations and lack of objective problem-solving.

> In fact, if men had the power that women now have on the dating "market". It would be worse. They would just fuck all of them and not commit to one. They would also have a hard time choosing one woman to commit to.

This is why successful pick-up artist have a shitty life. They are some immature boys who cracked the code and now they can't stop. They get addicted to sex and pick-up.

See you just did it again in another way. If women don't like you, it's because they're ruined by dating apps and social media. If other men are succeeding, it's because they're toxic and addicted.

No matter what your ego comes out on top and doesn't learn a thing.

I would encourage you to introspect on this way of looking at the world and if it's really serving you. 

Nice gaslighting dude. Have a nice day.