The happiness myth which I bought in for years.

[Rishabh R]

Getting a girlfriend or relationship= Happiness

That's the myth I need to question.

[Someone here]

Is it true for you or not ? That’s the question. 

[Rishabh R]

@Someone here Never been in a relationship so thereby I cannot answer .

[Someone here]

Cut the shit . You want a girlfriend.

[Rishabh R]

@Someone here Yup. 

[Someone here]

@Rishabh R 

I’d love to get to know you a little better and understand what you’re looking for at this stage of your life. What kind of relationship are you looking for ? something serious and leading toward marriage, a live-in relationship, or are you open to exploring a different kind of arrangement, such as multiple relationships?

I’m also curious about your current life situation, if you’re comfortable sharing ofc. What  do you do career wise, and what does your day to day life look like? And if you don’t mind me asking, how old are you?

There’s no pressure to answer anything you’re not comfortable with. I just think it’s helpful to be open and honest about what we’re both looking for, our lifestyles, and where we are in life. That way, we can see whether we have similar expectations and genuinely connect with each other.

 

 

[Rishabh R]

@Someone here That's great.

I am looking for a long term relationship leading to marriage , my age is going to be 26 , I work at a job (science sector). My day to day look like working at a job. My couple of posts must seem negative to you but they are because of the fact that I am feeling pain(emotional) right now .

[Someone here]

2 minutes ago, Rishabh R said:

@Someone here That's great.

I am looking for a long term relationship leading to marriage , my age is going to be 26 , I work at a job (science sector). My day to day look like working at a job. My couple of posts must seem negative to you but they are because of the fact that I am feeling pain(emotional) right now .

Thanks. 
what avenues of dating have you tried ? Do you go out on weekends and your off days from work to social gatherings and cold approach girls ? Are you actively looking for a wife through your social circle of relatives ? 

[Olaf]

@Rishabh R It is more like a rollercoaster, many ups and downs, yes there are great moments, but also you will have times you wish you were single. When you are single it is more stable, but also kinda boring at times, but it all depends what kind of relationship it is and how many relationships you have had, your first relationship tends to be more special, atleast in my experience. Maybe go experience it yourself and get into a relationship. I sometimes think about just being single and having multiple woman, because love can be great, but it also can hurt you deeply when you get too attached to one woman. If you make one woman your world for years and she leaves or you break up, it can be very depressing, not to forget that some girls will traumatise you.

[Jirh]

It's definitely not always a happy experience. Growth is often a big part of relationships, and it usually doesn't feel so great in the moment. But it's also worth it in retrospect.

What's stopping you from having a relationship with an attractive girl? You seem decent looking and if you have a stable income, you shouldn't have problems attracting girls.

[bazera]

12 hours ago, Rishabh R said:

That's the myth I need to question.

You'll be able to question that after you go through one or two relationships, not before.

In my experience, no, not even close. I'm happier when I'm single. But you need to discover that yourself, there are lots of variables that might determine if it makes you happier than you are now.

I don't value marriage, kids or having my own family, I don't care about that. So being single doesn't bother me as much as someone who wants to start a family. But you need to actually investigate that in yourself, what you truly want, but again, actually being in a relationship might lead to disillusionments, so keep that in mind, don't set your mind to the answer before going through the experience yourself. 

Edited 11 hours ago by bazera

[Rishabh R]

@Jirh Attracted many of them throughout my life , yup I have somewhat a decent income . What bugs me is that I become mentally reactive when a woman chooses another guy over me to date.

[Rishabh R]

Since 2 days I was feeling reactive , hatred and anger. I mean I experience hallucinations of being hurtful to people who hurt me in the past . But tonight I am feeling complete peace .

[LordFall]

I got pretty depressed when I was dating my last girlfriend because it was a chaotic and toxic relationship. Some great times but it was fundamentally not getting me towards the life I wanted to live. I think it sounds simple but is deceptively deep but you have to flesh out the life you want and then achieve it. That's what will make you happy.

Having a girl that you like hanging out with and that you fuck often will probably be part of that life but not the only thing that will make your existence great.