Don't Use Pick-Up as a Substitute for Building a Social Circle

[Olaf]

@Zenterus I am also noticing direct approach is over-validating the girl too early before she has proven anything about herself to be awesome besides her looks. I still do direct approaches in day game sometimes, but I want to move away from it fully in the future. 

[Ulax]

@Olaf This is why I've been liking the word 'adorable' recently

[Zenterus]

@Olaf Attraction is not a choice. You don't have to tell a girl that you like her for her to like you. If you're conveying attractive things, she'll like you. But that's assuming that you are conveying yourself in an attractive way. I'll have to see you in action to be able to determine that, though and unfortunately I couldn't yesterday.

[aurum]

8 minutes ago, Zenterus said:

But this is something you can also do with pure cold approach.

The point was that "pure" cold approach often starts to look like social circle when done well.

They're not mutually exclusive strategies. They blend. And anyone who is successful at one mixes elements of both.

It just depends on what you're good at and what kind of lifestyle you want.

[Joseph Maynor]

Social circle is kind of a nebulous concept in practice.  

[aurum]

2 minutes ago, Joseph Maynor said:

Social circle is kind of a nebulous concept in practice.  

I wouldn't say it's that nebulous. It's pretty clear what most people mean when they talk about social circle.

It is on a spectrum with cold approach though. So in that sense, it's nebulous.

[AION]

8 hours ago, LordFall said:

What other books in that genre have you liked better?

Personally I liked the general topics covered in 48 laws of power. It allowed me to contemplate different examples of power building and how it can be used in different aspects of society. His new book Laws of Human Nature goes even deeper into psychology, I thought it was a phenomenal read.

I want to read the Art of Seduction, that's one I haven't gotten to yet. 

I have my own body of work that I pieced together. For example. Some of the 48 laws I pieced together into super laws. That they you get an integral and visionary understanding of power, human nature, seduction and influence. 
 

By the way his book on seduction and influence are good. I haven’t finished them yet but from what I’m reading it is good.  

[StaraX]

@Zenterus 

Powerful wisdom right there, thanks for the anwser. One of my biggest “limiting beliefs” is that if I approach or even date a girl who is a 7 or above, she has so many other options that it’s pointless to even try to establish a relationship or date her. Why would she choose me when there are thousands of clones like me trying to get her? Not to mention how difficult it is to maintain her.

I'll definitely look at you post history when my work schedule allows that brother 👍

Edited 2 hours ago by StaraX