how much do you guys talk?

[Olaf]

I was calling a girl for 2 hours, the first hour or so I was talking allot, teasing her, doing all kinds of stluff, but then I remembered something about not talking or only repeat the last word with a question mark. I felt that last hour went much better then that first hour, because she naturally started to talk and fill up the space, asking me questions and have an approval seeking tonality. So I wonder how much to talk and how much you guys talk? Sometimes I still did say stuff, but like 80% she was talking, I was talking for like 20% and just being okay with silence.

Edited 13 hours ago by Olaf

[Olaf]

oh btw a tip for the guys who get in their head about what to say, maybe 10 or 20 mins in the convo or so, just be quiet and then laugh at her, she will be like `whaaattt?` then you will come up with something you can tease her about and find funny about her. 

[Ulax]

5 minutes ago, Olaf said:

oh btw a tip for the guys who get in their head about what to say, maybe 10 or 20 mins in the convo or so, just be quiet and then laugh at her, she will be like `whaaattt?` then you will come up with something you can tease her about and find funny about her. 

I'm gonna try that out on another thread

[Olaf]

@Ulax ònly works in person

[Ulax]

1 minute ago, Olaf said:

@Ulax ònly works in person

[WonderSeeker]

Social momentum is a real thing.

I don't have a natural talent for conversation. I just allow myself to start at a 1 or 2 and work my way up to a 6 or 7 after a couple hours, and finally a 9 or 10 after several hours.

[something_else]

I don’t even think about it. The more you’re in your head trying to follow some ruleset like this the less charismatic you’ll be

[oOo]

The connection determines the time.

Disconnection determines the absence. 

The circumstances determine the middle ground (personal life challenges to simple conveniences).

If it violates a persons consent, games are disrespect for any one persons time, including it showing a lack of self-respect and self-esteem; suggesting the justification for the use of time doing so, is based on substituting these needs for unhealthy replacements. 

There's a strong distinction between playfulness and ego driven manipulation born out of a need for validation, and there's a strong distinction between self-experimentation where you explore different ways of interacting as a medium of personal growth versus experimenting on another person without their consent. 

 

Edited 1 hour ago by oOo

[Joseph Maynor]

I feel like the more you hang out with someone the less you can talk and the less they listen to you.  You have to build in space to correct for this maybe in a relationship.