I want to have sex with a girl this week

[Olaf]

@Zen LaCroix probably spiritual conditioning

[something_else]

12 hours ago, Ulax said:

Do you have recommendations for London clubs?

Fabric is good, although expensive as shit for drinks. I’ve only been out in London a few times so I don’t have any recommendations beyond that

[Olaf]

Okay, I asked chatgpt to summarise my own text for today: "

Today I did around 13 approaches and focused on taking the game more seriously and not rejecting myself. I also helped a friend approach and discussed qualifying women based on what I actually want rather than seeking validation.

My eye contact, banter, and willingness to approach improved a lot. I pushed through obstacles like girls being on the phone, walking somewhere, or saying they had to leave. I also noticed that I genuinely don't want to pursue every girl, especially when I don't like her energy, which is a good sign of having my own standards.

My biggest weakness today was around talking about myself and closing. In one strong interaction, I became defensive and described my work negatively instead of confidently sharing something I'm passionate about. I also made some interactions unnecessarily negative when I could have stayed lighter, more playful, and curious.

My closes were sometimes too polite and uncertain. I want to make them feel more natural, confident, casual, and decisive, preferably at a high point in the interaction.

Key lessons:

Approach from the front and look for women who are standing still or walking slowly.

Don't automatically avoid women who are on their phones.

Abundance means genuinely not caring about the outcome because you know you have other options.

Authenticity is more powerful than using generic game.

I should qualify women too, instead of only trying to get them to like me.

Focus on keeping interactions fun and closing confidently.

Overall, today was a strong step forward in taking action, becoming more confident, and developing a more authentic style.

"

Some personal notes: I had longer conversations, tolerated less bs from woman and weak stupid shit why you can't have a conversation or why you are giving me such little energy. I don't have to be too pushy in the future, but for now a bit more claiming space is what I need. Also after friday being so frustrated with me not closing and choosing myself, rejecting myself, this day I claimed my space more in the world and even if it wouldn't be an ideal close, I would still try to go close, because I am here to close not to have some nice conversation, fuck that, fuck nice guy bullshit, I rather be called an asshole. Qualifying worked very well as like a mindset in general, not so much about qualifying her in the conversation as the attitude of you screening (screening vibe). We were with 5 wingmen in total lol so learned from people who even had seen Julien game in 2012, which was crazy to hear. I am feeling I am getting better with both banter, push pull, observations or assumptions aswell as with eye contact, I am not focusing on it too much when out they just start happening quite automatically. It is actually normal to approach, approach anxiety becomes less and less. To conclude this week, I didn't have sex, but I improved because I was aiming higher, shoot for the stars and land on a cloud.

Edited 3 hours ago by Olaf

[Joshe]

2 hours ago, Olaf said:

Authenticity is more powerful than using generic game.

This is 95% all you need. Carrying yourself like you're comfortable in your own skin and authentic play.

I think I could have hooked an 18 year old grocery clerk tonight if I had been optimizing for it, but I didn't realize it until after I had walked out of the store. It actually made me think "maybe I should get back into this whole getting pussy thing" But I know better.

I walked in on a mission to get broccoli and she saw me before I ever saw her. As I was walking up to the registers, she was smiling at me differently and letting me know her aisle was open even though her young friend before her was also open and closer to me. I was weighing which one to go to and she was clearly enticing me to come to hers. She had to have been interested in my carefree mannerisms or the way that I was carrying myself because I'm not a Chad. She could probably sense carefree playfulness in me, because that's how I was feeling.

So I walked up and noticed some strange shit about the tech setup and mentioned it playfully without any game or trick on the her. I end up telling her "I haven't been here in 10 years" and she says "you must be old". I immediately intuit the implications of that statement and I'm just looking at her realizing she's my size and the youngest thing I've had in my animal gaze in about 10 years, and sex thoughts were happening. 

My response to her was weak because I started thinking about fucking her. After my weak response, I felt the whole thing fizzle out. She even dropped the fucking bag instead of waiting for me to fully grasp it, lol. It was so obvious.

I can reverse-engineer it. When she said "you must be old", I was blindsided by the obvious prospect of pussy and I killed the playfulness by saying "yeah, I am, haha". But if I were to have said "old as fuck" or "take a guess" or something that continued the play, that would have been the obvious ticket, and something like that is what she was hoping for. Instead, the animal inside hijacked my brain and she could tell that my playfulness went out the window. 

So, I think that aside from learning how to carry yourself and portraying that you're comfortable in your own skin, the only game needed is to learn how to continue the play. That's it! Which requires you to forget about getting the pussy. At least, that's how it is for me. As soon as I become aware that I'm trying to get it and she's open to it, I kill it. 

This is good news because you can practice being playful on anybody. 

Edited 26 minutes ago by Joshe

[LordFall]

@Joshe We should not talk about getting pussy as a lowly activity. We are of course rescuing our beloved female companions from the drudgery of existence.

Some would call this doing the lord's work 

[Joshe]

4 minutes ago, LordFall said:

@Joshe We should not talk about getting pussy as a lowly activity. We are of course rescuing our beloved female companions from the drudgery of existence.

Some would call this doing the lord's work 

lol. Not sure I understand exactly what you mean, but I think you may have me figured wrong. I'm not against getting pussy. I myself just don't want to live that lifestyle anymore because of all the baggage that comes with it. The urges are of course still there when I wind up in situations.

I do think modern pickup advice is mostly toxic though, and I don't think you need most of it. So, I'm not against guys figuring out how to get laid. I just strongly disagree with the majority of the advice out there. 

Pareto principle. 80/20. What is the 80? Probably "play". That's healthy. 

 

[Joshe]

@LordFall Actually, I think I see your point now. lol. Yes, you're right, fa sho!