I want to have sex with a girl this week

[Inliytened1]

@Olaf its ok.  Just joking around. 

Edited 15 hours ago by Inliytened1

[Joshe]

18 minutes ago, Breakingthewall said:

Imo you don't have at least five girls on WhatsApp with whom there's a possibility, maybe remote, but not outright impossible (friendzone), of having sex, then you're doing something wrong.

So, instead of meeting a drunk girl at a club and having completely unsatisfying sex with her, without any real energy or attraction, just two people wanting to sex with someone, what would be better is to start going on dates forgetting about sex and focusing on the situation, the energy, maintaining a naturally high situation, being focused on your masculinity and not making a fool of it in front of everyone.

And above all, if you're so desperate to have sex, go to a brothel, that's it. Personally, I think it's not ethical and I won't do never again, but in the past I've had sex with prostitutes a thousand times more satisfyingly than with girls I've met at a nightclub. 

Anyway, as a zen master would say, if you want sex don't go for sex, go for creating tension, aura, you're the man, you have the power. You don't beg, you grant. You don't flatter, you savor. You're in control and you direct the situation, and things fall into place. If not, it just wasn't the right place. And if sex happens it's not a "success", it's the natural flow of the things. You are not a "trier", because if you are, you are a "beggar" and if you are that, anyone who wants sex with you is retarded, and, would you like to have sex with anyone retarded? Not me. 

Sounds about right.

[Inliytened1]

3 minutes ago, Joshe said:

Sounds about right.

I'm sorry but I can't talk girls with this dude.  Give me a minute.

[CARDOZZO]

I don't know, it seems to me that a lot of guys here on the forum love to mask their animal side. For real, do you never felt a urge so hard to fuck like an animal and just sleep together after that?

 

[CARDOZZO]

Ok, we are spiritual beings but come on... we are here to enjoy material things also  

[Olaf]

@CARDOZZO facts, anyone who is too busy with spirituality becomes a spiritual nerd forgetting about life alltogether, only reading the bhagavat gita and eckhart trolle, there is more to life then just starting at a wall

[Olaf]

update: so after I went to the bars and went home, was looking for my game plan for the night, cleaned everything in my house, made sure I had condoms etc. Then went out and approached a girl, she was drunk I believe or atleast on something. It took her 5 to 10 seconds everytime I said something for her to reply, besides that she seemed really into it and started touching me. I probably could have pulled her, but I felt like I would be doing wrong, making use of a drunk girl. So I decided I leave her in her drunkenness and move over to the club, the whole vibe was aggressive on the street with only guys who were just totally drunk and aggressive, it is never like that during the weekend, I then went to the club I approached one girl outside and one girl inside, she left and then I was there in the club with 4 other people hahaha, omg God is definitely playing a joke on me. I AM GONNA GET LAID. God: here are four people! HAHAHA so it was already late, everything was closed, I could have stayed there longer listening to the music, I paid 10 euros to get in so I felt I needed to get something out of it lol, so I started listening to the music while playing games on my phone, pretty good dj, that is also how I got sold. The guy at the entry said, there are not many people, but the dj is good HAHAHA, I though maybe only 15 people, but 4 people is the saddest thing I have seen in my life. My memory is full on my phone, so I couldn't take a picture, otherwise I would have shown you guys how pathetic it looked.  now going to sleep, tomorrow a new chance

[Olaf]

btw I learned something today from this new wingmen, I was observing his energy and he was a tiny bit arrogant, but also super fucking chill, slick and cool, like he wouldn't fidget with his clothes, break eye contact or look on his phone or move, just being able to be chill and cool. I think his frame is kinda that he is cool and chill and deserves to talk to girls and take their time and just high self worth in general. Was really interesting to observe, he had been doing it for 3 years so he is pretty good, best wingmen I had so far. I would say that you don't necessarily need to get rid of anxiety, but rather not let the anxiety move you, holding that tension of feeling the anxiety but not acting from it, on the outside act cool and chill till that becomes congruent. I think that is the secret, I will try it out tomorrow aswell to have that frame, he didn't teach me this, but I could just observe from reading his energy. A little bit the arrogance of you deserving to take up space and time from someone else even if it leads nowhere. Besides that we had the longest conversation I had with approaching which was 30 mins and in that 30 mins I noticed that actually it is just holding a conversation, we can make it all fun and flirty, but we don't have to be a clown for 30 mins, we can just hold a conversation, just like you talk with your friend. 

Edited 12 hours ago by Olaf

[Breakingthewall]

3 hours ago, Olaf said:

was 30 mins and in that 30 mins I noticed that actually it is just holding a conversation, we can make it all fun and flirty, but we don't have to be a clown for 30 mins, we can just hold a conversation, just like you talk with your friend. 

The key is not friend zone yourself. There are certain red lines you can't cross, which basically involve putting yourself on the same or lower level as her.

This doesn't mean you're superior, but rather that you're the man, and she's the woman. These are two different perspectives from which you operate. If you step outside of that, you enter the friend zone, and the sexual tension instantly drops to zero.

The key is to maintain the role that makes you be seen as the man who's going to have sex with her, not as the friend she's going to confide in. She has to see you as self confident, strong, solid, and selfish, not "nice", "nice" is against wet panties, it's exactly the opposite. "Nice" evokes a dick extremely soft, like a teddy bears dick. I mean, you could be "polite" but not "nice", "nice" means that you put yourself down of her, then you are as masculine as a cuck, you should be up herself ,of course without being pathetic, must be natural, but you have to have it in mind, if not the "nice" guy could appears even one second and bye. You have to maintain the tension, then she would feel sex. 

Edited 8 hours ago by Breakingthewall

[Olaf]

@Breakingthewall aren´t you supposed to be in the spiritual niche? Or did you get fed up from the endless nonduality debates 

[Inliytened1]

3 minutes ago, Olaf said:

@Breakingthewall aren´t you supposed to be in the spiritual niche? Or did you get fed up from the endless nonduality debates 

All that matters is he is here.  So let's get him some pussy.  Hell.  With all that nonduality talk he probably needs it.

[Olaf]

@Inliytened1 yes combining both the feminine and masculine polarities, to have him in his ultimate nondual state, opposites coming together, aka sex

[Inliytened1]

3 minutes ago, Olaf said:

@Inliytened1 yes combining both the feminine and masculine polarities, to have him in his ultimate nondual state, opposites coming together, aka sex

BTW, how did it go last night? I didn't make it out 

[Olaf]

@Inliytened1 I first went with a new wing men, he was smooth and cool, had been doing it for a few years, even with being a bit nervous he stayed very calm and grounded, not letting the nerves get to him. So that is what I learned, we were in a convo with two hot turkish girls for 30 mins, then the wingmen left and I was like why you leave? He said they didn't give IOI's which was true, but maybe if we stayed longer something could have happened, them listening to us for 30 mins is an IOI in itself if you ask me. Then we approached some girls, this girl was touching her hair allot, but after 10 mins they said they were 17, what the hell are 17 year olds doing in a bar. So obviously we went away and then last one was a 2 girls, when I talked with that one girl the other girl went to get her bike, then the friend came back and cockblocked me by dragging her friend away, always same shit. Then I went home and later at night went out, I approached a girl who was drunk, took 5 to 10 seconds for her to respond, she started touching me, but I didn't want to be a dick and make use of her drunkenness, because she was far far gone. I then approached two more girls that night, but nothing much and in the club were only 4 people lol. God was telling me to go home hahaha. 

 

[Monster Energy]

@Olaf Bro, even fate was cockblocking you.

[Inliytened1]

12 minutes ago, Monster Energy said:

@Olaf Bro, even fate was cockblocking you.

I'm glad to see you back. 

[Monster Energy]

Just now, Inliytened1 said:

I'm glad to see you back. 

Good. I’d hate to disappoint you twice.

[Olaf]

@Monster Energy in that club with 4 people that I paid 10 euros for, I realised god is playing a joke on me

[Ulax]

27 minutes ago, Olaf said:

@Inliytened1 I first went with a new wing men, he was smooth and cool, had been doing it for a few years, even with being a bit nervous he stayed very calm and grounded, not letting the nerves get to him. So that is what I learned, we were in a convo with two hot turkish girls for 30 mins, then the wingmen left and I was like why you leave? He said they didn't give IOI's which was true, but maybe if we stayed longer something could have happened, them listening to us for 30 mins is an IOI in itself if you ask me. Then we approached some girls, this girl was touching her hair allot, but after 10 mins they said they were 17, what the hell are 17 year olds doing in a bar. So obviously we went away and then last one was a 2 girls, when I talked with that one girl the other girl went to get her bike, then the friend came back and cockblocked me by dragging her friend away, always same shit. Then I went home and later at night went out, I approached a girl who was drunk, took 5 to 10 seconds for her to respond, she started touching me, but I didn't want to be a dick and make use of her drunkenness, because she was far far gone. I then approached two more girls that night, but nothing much and in the club were only 4 people lol. God was telling me to go home hahaha. 

 

I'm ragebaited just reading about that wing

[Olaf]

@Ulax nah for real, I was frustrated afterwards