finding your type

[Olaf]

So I notice that everyone has some "type" of woman that they are attracted to. I have multiple wingmen and the first thing I do with them is finding out what their type is, so I am asking them, do you find her attractive or her? Then eventually I get more of a taste for what their type is. For example, by pure coincidence, I realised that all the woman my wingmen showed me were more on the intellectual/intelligent type. So I realised he couldn't hold a conversation for more then a minute with some girl he wasn't interested in, but as soon as it was his type, he would be able to hold a conversation for 10-20 mins. That is why it is important to discover your type in my opinion. 

So now we go to bookstores and libraries and we realise that those are the perfect places for him to approach lol. Now the other wingman has more a type of a certain ethnicity, so every time I see someone he would fall for, I push him to approach.

My own type of woman that I fall for are more expressive in the way they dress and present themself, an example would probably be festival girls, who dress very expressively. For example, I saw this girl with super baggy trousers and glitter make up around her eyes. Even tho I normally hate baggy pants, she was really expressive in the way she presented herself, which caught my attention and interest. For example girls that paint their hair red or something like that, also show that fire and expressiveness.

Now you can be more superficial, saying I like girls that have curls, which I actually do, I love long curly hair. Or of a certain type of face, but I think what is more important is to understand what kind of person it is. Meaning, does she go to a festival, is she intelligent, where is she likely to hang out? For example the library, cinema or a festival etc. 

For example, if you want festival girls, what are you doing in a mall? Well that is what I am asking myself lol, I probably should go to festivals. You get the point, you have a certain type, everyone has and surely there will be people that are not your type and you would still want a relationship with, but in general it would be smarter to find out your type and approach them or even better find out where they would be likely to go to, and approach girls there.

it is harder to find out your type yourself, but with someone helping you, you can figure it out in 1 to 2 days, the idea is just to be honest to yourself and not be too fixated on what other people like or what is mainstream: simply what would be a girl that you would like to talk to and feel interested in. You might fall for very superficial girls and then that is also fine you can go to more superficial places, it isn't about what is good or bad, more about what makes you feel interested, which is unique to everyone. 

[Joseph Maynor]

The thing is these women are not really attracted to you -- this is all just superficial desire to build rapport fast in order to try to accelerate dating.  

[Olaf]

@Joseph Maynor the idea that they are not attracted to you doesn't even come up in my mind, that sounds more like an inner issue you should heal or literally becoming more attractive by being more confident (aka approach more)

[something_else]

10 hours ago, Olaf said:

@Joseph Maynor the idea that they are not attracted to you doesn't even come up in my mind, that sounds more like an inner issue you should heal or literally becoming more attractive by being more confident (aka approach more)

I find it interesting and impressive that you’ve met so many girls recently, well done for the effort. But out of curiosity, are any of these interactions actually going anywhere? Like a phone number, date, kiss, hookup?

[Valach]

10 hours ago, Olaf said:

@Joseph Maynor the idea that they are not attracted to you doesn't even come up in my mind, that sounds more like an inner issue you should heal or literally becoming more attractive by being more confident (aka approach more)

I have mentioned it elsewhere, but please be careful to not disassociate from your own emotional core by doing all of this. Basically numbing down any emotions regarding rejections. Seen that plenty of times and it is very hard to revert.

[aurum]

You just need experience and to observe what you actually respond to vs what you don't.

Watch yourself like a scientist.

[Olaf]

@Valach what are you talking about? 

[Olaf]

@something_else yes, but my results aren't crazy, because also 100 sounds big to you, but I am just getting started. I could kiss a 7, but I don't want to drop my standards. I have pretty high standards, which makes all of you be like "did you fuck yet?!?" like first of all, I am not looking for sex, I am looking for a relationship. Secondly, you think you would be good in basketball in a month? Probably not. So don't expect the same in game, I am just sharing my journey.

[Olaf]

@aurum yes, although it helps to have someone help you in this, like a friend or wingmen, they could maybe more easily be like, OOOHHH you are looking for that girl. For example, I realised he liked library girls, I don't know if he would have come to that conclusion himself. 

[something_else]

8 minutes ago, Olaf said:

@something_else yes, but my results aren't crazy, because also 100 sounds big to you, but I am just getting started. I could kiss a 7, but I don't want to drop my standards. I have pretty high standards, which makes all of you be like "did you fuck yet?!?" like first of all, I am not looking for sex, I am looking for a relationship. Secondly, you think you would be good in basketball in a month? Probably not. So don't expect the same in game, I am just sharing my journey.

I didn't mean it as a judgement. More so that it sounds like you're doing well, girls are responding well to you, but it also seemed like it hadn't really gone anywhere with a girl and I was wondering why. The high standards answers that I guess.

Will this be your first relationship?

[Olaf]

@something_else It is because you aren't the first one, it gets kinda annoying. Yes I have had 3 relationships in the past. Also because of approaching back in the day.