Rejection.

[Rishabh R]

Got rejected yesterday by a former girl classmate of mine after having a vulnerable conversation. I have been talking to her since 3 years. I expressed myself honestly to her despite nervousness. The rejection stinged but later it became ok. Yup @Leo Gura is right based on his avoidance of Truth episode . The seeking of truth will sting. However , I also realized that the sting lasted briefly . And also as I accepted it the sting reduced. @Miguel1 Yup you are right ,being vulnerable hurts but as per Leo's - How to get Laid series allowing your true to get rejected is better than putting a persona. Nope I was already vulnerable with her by expressing myself honestly to her multiple times. Like she asked questions about me . Even though she used to reply late but she responded with multiple messages to me even when I messaged her once on WhatsApp. In real life she waved hi to me multiple times. Pulled me by my arms to show a YouTube short and helped me stand against a guy bully. I expressed honest compliments to her.Told me to meet her before leaving the city but circumstances didn't allowed our meeting. Bye.

[LordFall]

Very good.

Each rejection proves to your brain that you are an action taker and you go for what you want. 

Each time you don't get what you want; you learn something about the universe and how it operates.

It's important to figure out what women want as a whole and not a singular women. Basically nothing can be guaranteed to work on a single woman. Women as a whole though much easier to figure out. 

Keep levelling up bro, you got this. 

Edited 17 hours ago by LordFall

[Rishabh R]

@LordFall Feedback accepted sir. 👍

[Rafael Thundercat]

13 hours ago, LordFall said:

Basically nothing can be guaranteed to work on a single woman. Women as a whole though much easier to figure out. 

Wait, dont we end up in generalization doing this. What about the indiocracies of each singular being?

[LordFall]

51 minutes ago, Rafael Thundercat said:

Wait, dont we end up in generalization doing this. What about the indiocracies of each singular being?

Sure that's what I meant. I think 20% of dating is figuring out the unique wants and needs of each person. 80% of it is pretty standard. Be a man that offers value, that communicates well, has good logistics, looksmaxxes properly, is fun to be around and can connect emotionally while being safe to be around. 

The more I level up the more I've experienced individual women being into me to percentage of women being into me. Doesn't mean that there aren't a lack of alignment in our lives that would make us dating difficult, I don't claim to have maxed out what I talked about.

I would say though at my peak something like 25% of women are into me and super receptive and when I day game about that amount to giving me instagrams and then 30% of those would turn into dates and I would fuck like 50% of first dates when I did it often and had momentum. 

Had this exact conversation with one of my clients yesterday. He's not comfortable being man to woman and leading interactions yet so he chit chats with women to build rapport instead of actually communicating properly which is building only the basic rapport then asking them out that same week. He met this girl on IG who's into kpop and he tried to build rapport over both liking another man who's cooler than him, it's not 100% a deal breaker but its a unnecessary move that kills all sexual tension.

Edited 3 hours ago by LordFall

[Lyubov]

First it’s impossible to be rejected. Women can communicate their choice to you (she doesn’t like you), that’s fine. But be careful with your words. They build the foundation of your house. You can’t be rejected. Your value is inherent and always the same regardless of whether a woman wants to relate with you or have sex. 

I don’t know what stage you are at in life or your country you’re from so I can’t really say much else. This story you shared is sounds like classic zero game zero swag college dating where you have very little going for you from the relative perspective of attraction and the list of everything you need to do is like a mountain to climb because just by reading this I can tell you have a long ways to go. But do not discredit quiet momentum. There is a slip stream you can flow into where your efforts will compound and 4 years from now you will be so wildly different and able to pull. 

I would suggest you focus on your studies if a situation like this really throws you off emotionally and affects everything else you do. You are in college so it’s time to really build a strong foundation. You need to get into excellent shape and get great grades so you can earn decent money and I’d also really do inner work so you don’t have any doubts about your true value king. 

Once you have that honed in I’d say start finding ways to tap into your authentic self and develope swag, that’s when you’ll get the results you want. 

Edited 2 hours ago by Lyubov

[Olaf]

@Rishabh R Getting rejected means nothing, like literally. Also a crush is cute, but your not in high school, go approach woman and live in abundance. This trying to get one person to stick with you is the hell of scarcity: let go. Like what even is a rejection? Someone saying no in the moment, but when you would be the men they will all say yes. And being the men is not looks or money, it is energy.