How do you lock a woman in to where she isn't thinking about anyone else but you?

[Natasha Tori Maru]

To be clear sex isn't just penis in vagina. And none of what I express has anything to do with relationships being centred around sex. It is one element of a healthy whole (even none at all, if both individuals are asexual or prefer it that way). Like everything, sex fades. Connection has to remain though.

[Inliytened1]

1 hour ago, AION said:

Relationships based on sex always fail. There are deep reasons for this but I won’t go into it. And it signals some other stuff too. It is a clear giveaway. 

We didn't say based on sex. But it is a key element. It is the connection. 

[Inliytened1]

1 hour ago, Natasha Tori Maru said:

To be clear sex isn't just penis in vagina. And none of what I express has anything to do with relationships being centred around sex. It is one element of a healthy whole (even none at all, if both individuals are asexual or prefer it that way). Like everything, sex fades. Connection has to remain though.

Hopefully it won't fade until we are both really old.

[Willy Phallicus]

Be dominate (not in a toxic way) but worship her at the same time.  

And yeah, give her god realization orgasms on the regular.

Other than that, its the basics.  Take an interest in her interests, be spontaneous at times, etc etc

Edited 6 hours ago by Willy Phallicus

[Leo Gura]

6 hours ago, Natasha Tori Maru said:

I just think a lot of the guys here are under-socialized and haven't had a really quality, deep and healthy long term attachment with a strong and put together woman with healthy love attachment.

Don't say so much truth. Have mercy 

[AION]

1 hour ago, Inliytened1 said:

We didn't say based on sex. But it is a key element. It is the connection. 

You two should get a room bro 

[NewKidOnTheBlock]

Apparently a pup needs to be strategically thrown a carrot from time to time, otherwise it'll start to complain that the world is unfair lmao

[WonderSeeker]

15 hours ago, Natasha Tori Maru said:

Make sex not about penetration or touch, fuck your woman with your mind and emotions - in a good way! 😁

This is so true it's not funny. Some of the best sex I ever had I didn't penetrate. Not once. We just kissed and wrestled naked, and I kept whispering all sorts of things into her ear that even the best comedian on earth couldn't come up with.

It has to come from pure inspiration for life, and genuine interest in who's sitting across from you.

I think seduction has a 360 spiral to it, where:

1) the simpiest level is telling her how attracted you are and that you'd do anything for her

2) in this level you're more sublte and cooler, more nuder the radar, but still egoically looking out for number one

3) here, you go back to worshipping her, but from a refined place of joy and celebration for her and life, side-by-side

I've only had 1 such affair, It lasted 2 weeks, It was better than any multi-year relation I've ever had.

Edited 4 hours ago by WonderSeeker

[Ulax]

9 hours ago, Jirh said:

You have to "own" your woman by "force".

Wtf

[Ulax]

It is clear many here have much development to do. 

As the wisest on the forum, i will wait patiently until people are ready for elite discussions.

[LordFall]

Offer a lot of value and connect to her emotions.

Give her a wide spread of emotional experiences like a roller coaster, probably mostly positive but some negative ones are inevitable.

Offer value like good experiences but also legitimate guidance and structure in her life.

A lot of men are a net negative if you did a spreadsheet of the good and bad they bring you would realize your association with them is negative and you need to get them out of your life for the sake of your flourishing. A lot of women do that same calculation and tend to stay away from the majority of men. 

It's hard to continuously offer genuine value but it's one of the only roads to keeping people around long term. It's one of the core aspects of leadership as most people either don't offer value/leash it or are fake leaders aka the blind leading the blind. 

[AION]

36 minutes ago, Ulax said:

It is clear many here have much development to do. 

As the wisest on the forum, i will wait patiently until people are ready for elite discussions.

Finally somebody on my level 

[Ulax]

7 minutes ago, AION said:

Finally somebody on my level 

[LordFall]

10 hours ago, AION said:

If you are Brad Pitt you don't have to do anything to lock a woman in. But if you are not, you have to play with the toys god given you. So you either have to bring status or capital or the poor man's choice: romance aka story building. Greene talks about this extensively in his book Influence. You might want to look into it.

I don't know what kind of godlike image of Brad Pitt you have in mind but he's had 9 high profile breakups including 2 full on divorces.

Being high status doesn't save you from the reality of human relationships. A lot of these actors have very bad communication and emotional intelligence skills and they wind up entangled with partners they are not really compatible with. 

[AION]

@LordFall it was a figure of speech. Back in the day he was the gold standard though because all the girls wanted him. But obviously he had a bad taste in women. I mean Jolie? That woman looks like a Pitt bull with that jaw line. Wtf did he expect. 

Edited 1 hour ago by AION

[LordFall]

It's a good case to talk about. Clearly with his relationship track record I'm sure he struggles with emotional intelligence and communication skills. It's not because you a lot of women want to sleep with you that you're a great partner. A lot of these high status guys make the lives of the women they're dating more difficult and stressful, not more pleasant. I get why they experience a lot of breakups after the novelty wears off. 

Edited 1 hour ago by LordFall

[AION]

Those are a lot of assumptions. You don't know the guy. Most marriages fail regardless if you are Brad or not. lmao.

Edited 1 hour ago by AION

[LordFall]

2 minutes ago, AION said:

Those are a lot of assumptions. You don't know the guy. Most marriages fail regardless if you are Brad or not. lmao.

Great job on the anti-intellectualism. What's your theory; he was so good at communication and being a romantic partner that women just broke up with him out of low self-esteem? 

 

[AION]

Just now, LordFall said:

Great job on the anti-intellectualism. What's your theory; he was so good at communication and being a romantic partner that women just broke up with him out of low self-esteem? 

 

I already told you but you are not reading. He chose the wrong women.

[LordFall]

Just now, AION said:

I already told you but you are not reading. He chose the wrong women.

Perhaps but to make this a useful exercise in understand human psychology we have to ask ourselves why does someone choose the wrong women to partner up with continuously. To me that screams lack of self-awareness and a stripe of impulsivity which are the cornerstones of lack of emotionally intelligence which is where my assumptions came from.