Should you get into a relationship if your trying to build you pick-up skillset

[UpperMaster]

Let's say you start doing cold-approach, get a couple of lays, you meet a girl and theres a connection. 

Should you get into a relationship, or keep focusing on approaching and building that skillset?  Whats your experience?

Edited 22 hours ago by UpperMaster

[Lyubov]

Relationships will teach you way more about women and sex than cold approaching and will also grow you far more as well in all areas of your life. 

But this is not to say that cold approach and social skills is a waste of time or just surface level. There’s a lot of lessons that come along with that as well. 

[Basman]

Isn't a relationship what you really want?

[LordFall]

Why do you need to promise exclusivity to a woman if you're not ready to settle? Promising sexual exclusivity is the most comfortable route you can take when starting this journey but it will rarely lead to achieving one's potential as it takes a lot of skill to build a high quality relationship and more than likely one will settle into codependence if one does it too early.

You can date women as FWB or keep an open relationship and get your cake and do it too. In my experience it's a bit difficult to do that but I've done it for a few months. You can also keep raising your social capital while in a monogamous relationship so both paths do work. Gotta know yourself and what you desire ultimately. 

[Raze]

38 minutes ago, LordFall said:

Why do you need to promise exclusivity to a woman if you're not ready to settle? Promising sexual exclusivity is the most comfortable route you can take when starting this journey but it will rarely lead to achieving one's potential as it takes a lot of skill to build a high quality relationship and more than likely one will settle into codependence if one does it too early.

You can date women as FWB or keep an open relationship and get your cake and do it too. In my experience it's a bit difficult to do that but I've done it for a few months. You can also keep raising your social capital while in a monogamous relationship so both paths do work. Gotta know yourself and what you desire ultimately. 

Because some girls don’t go for that so you’re filtering for specific people and the skills you learn from game don’t necessarily transfer over to making you better at relationships. 

[LordFall]

I think it's much more common to have men who settled for mediocre relationships than successful playboys who now have issues with getting into a relationship if they want to. It does happen, that's what the sequel to The game is based on, The Truth by Neil Strauss. I haven't seen it too many times though and I've seen a lot of men get into relationships with mentally ill, boring or women who aren't very attractive because it was easier than finishing their self-improvement.