Questions to get to know someone

[Ulax]

What are a set of questions that help you get a picture of who someone is?

For example, not just deep questions, where you don't even know what job they do. 

I get frustrated talking to people sometimes because I ask them questions but I come away thinking I don't really understand who that person is still or what archetype or personality type they are.

And, PLEASE, no responses of 'just follow your curiosity' or I will roll my eyes so hard they pop out my head ;). 

Bonus points if you have a question set that escalates nicely in conversation :). For example, starting light, and then getting progressively deeper.

Edited 19 hours ago by Ulax

[Schizophonia]

Do you like drinking Monster 

Edited 18 hours ago by Schizophonia

[Schizophonia]

43 minutes ago, Ulax said:

What are a set of questions that help you get a picture of who someone is?

Their passions, what they do regularly 

[Valach]

45 minutes ago, Ulax said:

And, PLEASE, no responses of 'just follow your curiosity' or I will roll my eyes so hard they pop out my head ;). 

I mean, I get what do you mean but what do you want to hear then?

You are getting to know them for some reason. Either you are curious about them or you are vetting them for long-term compatibility. And noone can answer these questions for you since if you are curious I do not know what aspects of the person drive curiosity for you and if you are screening for long term compatibility I can't answer that since I do not know what your values are for long-term match. 

I could tell you what my values are and what I would ask for if I was looking for relationship and what I think can reveal a healthy relationship. But idk if that is useful for you at this stage.

Fundamentally, do you want to get to know the person? Or do you want to appear like you want to get to know them?

[Ulax]

@Schizophonia Thanks.

@Valach I get you but am looking for template questions.

[Valach]

But template questions are exactly how you do not get to know someone. It is just you running a script.

Like I understand wanting some backup technical lines for gaming like openers, escalation, leading etc. But getting to know someone? LIke what do you expect somebody to come up with? Just ask "what do you like to do?" Idk....

[Ulax]

3 hours ago, Valach said:

But template questions are exactly how you do not get to know someone. It is just you running a script.

Like I understand wanting some backup technical lines for gaming like openers, escalation, leading etc. But getting to know someone? LIke what do you expect somebody to come up with? Just ask "what do you like to do?" Idk....

Yep you're right I actually read off a printed out pdf document when talking to people. Its even glow in the dark for the night clubs  

[Carl-Richard]

This is too intellectual for me.

[Sugarcoat]

1 minute ago, Carl-Richard said:

This is too intellectual for me.

Says the one who wrote “statistical worldview” 

yeaaaaaaa

(jk here, I pick up on spirituality beyond the words) 

 

[Elliott]

 

[Carl-Richard]

28 minutes ago, Sugarcoat said:

Says the one who wrote “statistical worldview” 

yeaaaaaaa

(jk here, I pick up on spirituality beyond the words) 

 

You want to see how "not talky" I can talk?

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[Sugarcoat]

42 minutes ago, Carl-Richard said:

You want to see how "not talky" I can talk?

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hahahahhahahahahahahaahahhaahah 😂 unexpected 

[Carl-Richard]

33 minutes ago, Sugarcoat said:

hahahahhahahahahahahaahahhaahah 😂 unexpected 

Quack? 🦆

[something_else]

I've found asking people what their favourite fruit is and what their favourite vegetable is ends up creating some surprisingly deep conversations about personality 

Boring questions can reveal a lot about someone if you ask them with the right energy and some playfulness. Making boring questions interesting is an S tier social skill

Edited 1 hour ago by something_else

[Carl-Richard]

@something_else

Try debating whether a tomato is a fruit or a vegetable. Did that once. I repeat: once.

Edited 1 hour ago by Carl-Richard

[Sugarcoat]

58 minutes ago, Carl-Richard said:

Quack? 🦆

🤨

[Sugarcoat]

40 minutes ago, something_else said:

I've found asking people what their favourite fruit is and what their favourite vegetable is ends up creating some surprisingly deep conversations about personality 

Boring questions can reveal a lot about someone if you ask them with the right energy and some playfulness. Making boring questions interesting is an S tier social skill

Broccoli, banana 

Edited 1 hour ago by Sugarcoat

[Carl-Richard]

5 minutes ago, Sugarcoat said:

🤨

Copy the white.

[Joseph Maynor]

39 minutes ago, Carl-Richard said:

 

Try debating whether a tomato is a fruit or a vegetable. Did that once. I repeat: once.

This is what a tomato is.
 

 

[Sugarcoat]

3 minutes ago, Carl-Richard said:

Copy the white.

I get it, I’ll shut up