what was the right move here in terms of rizz

[BuffaloBill]

i was going to mcdonalds ordering a milkshake and some nuggets and then this super hot milf comes in ordering something and asking for her sons jacket that got lost, w/e just providing some context....and uh im sorta just sitting there staring into the void, she looks at me several times, indicating some curiosity. im sitting with my big ass white hoodie and a white cap for matching colors and to look a little bit drippy 

i was feeling it in me i was gonna offer her my milkshake and give her a new straw in case she has the bacteria-phobia thingy, and maybe talk to her and flirt but right as i was going to do that she went, grabbed her order and i decided...Meh....im going away.

the timing was a bit off, but i felt some sexual tension between me and her. 

Maybe another opportunity arises. I'm on the prowl >__<

[Basman]

I haven't read anything but the whole vibe here is cringey, so probably work on that.

[BuffaloBill]

im on the spectrum

[LordFall]

The answer is to regularly approach and it becomes more natural. You could've indeed just said hey I had to say you're really attractive, hows the day? You don't really have to overthink the context at the start of your game journey, if you try to go along with the jacket story or offering her your milkshake that's more likely to be more awkward than anything else. If you're autistic I would follow a straight progression curve like a newbie challenge and progressively desensitize yourself and you'll likely pick it up quite quickly with pattern recognition.

https://www.skilledseducer.com/threads/newbie-assignment.34/

 IMO the most important thing is to do a lot of approaches and get a lot of experience because if you try to only approach the girls you really like once in a while you'll probably fumble the bag but when you have momentum you build charisma quite reliably. 

[Valach]

7 minutes ago, LordFall said:

IMO the most important thing is to do a lot of approaches and get a lot of experience because if you try to only approach the girls you really like once in a while you'll probably fumble the bag but when you have momentum you build charisma quite reliably. 

This is not a good take. It showcasts a lack of true self esteem. Not to mention you are not being authentic when you approach woman you are not really interested in.

[LordFall]

7 minutes ago, Valach said:

This is not a good take. It showcasts a lack of true self esteem. Not to mention you are not being authentic when you approach woman you are not really interested in.

Perhaps you're projecting your own lack of self-esteem here by thinking you're not worthy of talking to women. Women love being chatted up as long as you're pleasant about it. You don't always have to go super direct you can just comment on something happening in the environment or give them a genuine compliment.

I recommend especially following approach challenge for OP since he has some autism and it'll help it be more natural. 

[Valach]

No dude. I have done plenty of pickup in the past so I am not some sort of newbiee around this. I have had phases where I would go non-stop and approached close to 100 people a day. It does have it's value but it does not address the real problem. 

 If you feel like you need to approach "meh" woman or you need to have some sort of momentum in order to talk to woman you are attracted to or to feel attractive, you have self esteem issues that need addressing. You can spend months isolated working on some other shit and then go out and feel just as good and worthy as with any momentum.

Edited 3 hours ago by Valach

[LordFall]

Did you read the post? He literally said he's on the spectrum and doesn't know how to approach women. Working on your business and fitness is phenomenal overall advice but in that specific case I think progressive desensitization is the correct recommendation. 

Also where did I say to approach meh women? If he's in a big city he can easily find multiple attractive women a day to talk to, just probably not his personal perfect 10 each day but for sure overall social exposure will help with that as well. 

Edited 3 hours ago by LordFall

[Stick]

She's not into you sonion  😭✌️🥀💔✌️💔😭😭✌️

[Valach]

Okay, I missed that comment, I was more responding to your general advice. I personally do not have much experience with dealing with people on the spectrum but I am not sure mass approaching is the way - The guys that were on the spectrum in the PUA community would still really struggle after thousands of approaches - but I am not sure there is easy cure for this.

I am also not saying you should be working on business or fitness to get woman.

Breaking an approach anxiety is actually quite easy. That is the easiest part in becoming good with woman. 

[LordFall]

4 minutes ago, Valach said:

Okay, I missed that comment, I was more responding to your general advice. I personally do not have much experience with dealing with people on the spectrum but I am not sure mass approaching is the way - The guys that were on the spectrum in the PUA community would still really struggle after thousands of approaches - but I am not sure there is easy cure for this.

I am also not saying you should be working on business or fitness to get woman.

Breaking an approach anxiety is actually quite easy. That is the easiest part in becoming good with woman. 

Depends on how heavily on the spectrum but light autism can definitely become phenomenal at seduction with a lot of exposure and good coaching. If you just hammer out hundreds of approaches with no thought behind it like you said you did then of course you're not gonna make much progress but with the right strategy you can have a dreamlike dating life for sure. 

You don't think being in shape and having a good financial situation is important for a high quality dating life? 

[Valach]

7 minutes ago, LordFall said:

You don't think being in shape and having a good financial situation is important for a high quality dating life? 

Don't have that experience, no. But it also depends on how you define high quality dating life I suppose.

 

7 minutes ago, LordFall said:

Depends on how heavily on the spectrum but light autism can definitely become phenomenal at seduction with a lot of exposure and good coaching. If you just hammer out hundreds of approaches with no thought behind it like you said you did then of course you're not gonna make much progress but with tCancelhe right strategy you can have a dreamlike dating life for sure. 

Depends what you consider a good coaching as well. In my experience it all boils down to just feeling at ease with yourself in both social situation and life in general. 

Edited 3 hours ago by Valach