Peter Ralston On LOVE - Newsletter Response

[Breakingthewall]

12 minutes ago, Natasha Tori Maru said:

Many of these conversations can lead to breakthroughs and new insights for users. Sometimes we have conversations where it doesn't seem to go anywhere; only to think on it more in our own time and have independent breakthroughs triggered through dialogue.

Sure, that's the point of talking about those matters. What's annoying without doubt is when anyone talks from the need of being right, not from the analysis. It's easy to check it: you can show a mistake in his analysis, if the person reacts defensive, not responding, changing topic (or saying peace brother 😅), it's that is speaking from the ego, but if they answer showing the argument from another perspective, admitting mistakes, then they are talking from analysis.

Sometimes it's irritating read someone who talks with too much certainly, but that doesn't means that they are talking from the need of validation or to be right. 

Edited 9 hours ago by Breakingthewall

[Natasha Tori Maru]

@Breakingthewall other possibilities too; sometimes it's just an energy thing, too tired to respond or give the time for thought.  Occasionally distraction happens and we don't return to the proper subject. I know, speaking for myself, more often than not I simply don't have the energy to reply so I tap out. We can't be 100% certain why that person responded how they did. It's why discussions should be in good faith. Without anyone making fun of each other. 

It's when we built up context around users who play the same game over and over, that reasonable assumptions can be made about their ego, or the little stories they tell themselves.

[vibv]

10 hours ago, Leo Gura said:

What I said was that Reality is not built around your feelings, and that feeling cannot be prioritized above truth.

Feelings are Truth, too.

Denying feelings is denying Truth.

Problems arise when saying some feelings are 'good' while others - like fear - would be 'bad'.

[Joseph Maynor]

11 hours ago, Leo Gura said:

What???

That is not my position.

I am not some logical robot who denies emotions and feelings. Of course we deal with emotions in this work.

What I said was that Reality is not built around your feelings, and that feeling cannot be prioritized above truth.

Just because feelings are not the #1 value does not mean they not a value at all.

I would be the first to criticize any worldview or approach that dismissed feeling as nothing.

"Facts don't care about your feelings" is a form of stupidity.

The million dollar question is how do feelings factor into Love.  Many people seem to believe feelings come only from finite egos.  It's hard to have a Unity perspective without erasing the finite, unless the Unity is a combination of the finite as Spinoza thought.  Then emotions are part of God/Nature.  Even erroneous emotions that are not purified by Truth.  

[Joseph Maynor]

On 5/22/2026 at 6:27 AM, tsuki said:

@Breakingthewall Nah man, you used up my good will. You're here to disprove, not to learn and I'm not wasting time for that. There is zero reason to care what he's saying unless you want to increase your own consciousness and get these things for yourself. 

Okay so there's something from Ralston that is needed, what is it?

[Ziran]

12 hours ago, Joseph Maynor said:

Nobody wants to be held accountable.  

I do

[Joseph Maynor]

12 minutes ago, Ziran said:

I do

How much?

[Joseph Maynor]

5 hours ago, Natasha Tori Maru said:

@Breakingthewall other possibilities too; sometimes it's just an energy thing, too tired to respond or give the time for thought.  Occasionally distraction happens and we don't return to the proper subject. I know, speaking for myself, more often than not I simply don't have the energy to reply so I tap out. We can't be 100% certain why that person responded how they did. It's why discussions should be in good faith. Without anyone making fun of each other. 

It's when we built up context around users who play the same game over and over, that reasonable assumptions can be made about their ego, or the little stories they tell themselves.

Yes.  And I think this applies to everyone.  Sometimes this assumption is false, and it's hard to judge this online because we can't see someone.  It is easy to make assumptions online because you aren't dealing with people face to face.  We haven't even met in real life and we're judging each other.  It's weird.  We do the best we can I guess.