How do you deal with your superficiality?

[Eskilon]

Yes, you are superficial and your love is probably skin-deep, but how do you deal with it?

I am contemplating the transactional, ugly and conditional side of love and relationships, so here goes some things:

Don't you find it ugly that a girl/guy needs to look a certain way for you to be interested? Hell, for you to even look at them and not to dismiss them entirely?

It needs to have a certain kind of appearance, a certain kind of personality, a certain kind of goals. Isnt this a bunch of BS and ugliness? Why so conditional? 

And even when the person do meet your extensive criteria, do you even meet them really? Do you have meet her/his self? Or do you only ever really touch its personality -- the constructed self.

How do you manage the long list of if statements that a person needs to pass for you to want to relate with intimacy or even to interact with? 

Also, for people that are into spirituality and have found deeper levels of love, why do you keep searching for conditional and not so true love?

Edited 23 hours ago by Eskilon

[CARDOZZO]

Actually, I like woman in general between the ages of 18-60. I do not look for appearances. I just want to fuck. Ugly, fat, strange, tall, short, beauty or not, I will do it.

For a relationship I would be more specific on details of personality/beauty.

Edited 23 hours ago by CARDOZZO

[Opulence]

Love isn't conditional at all times. People have loved others for their character and connection. Love is zig zag.

[PolyPeter]

13 hours ago, Eskilon said:

conditional side of love

this is a contradiction

and if it is not a contradiction, maybe you do not know what Love is, and confuse it with romantic-humanish-feelings

Edited 10 hours ago by PolyPeter

[UnbornTao]

12 hours ago, CARDOZZO said:

Actually, I like woman in general between the ages of 18-60. I do not look for appearances. I just want to fuck. Ugly, fat, strange, tall, short, beauty or not, I will do it.

lol

That's commitment. 

[Judy2]

@Eskilon yes i've thought about this before. i don't have the perfect answer but i guess if you're wise and open-minded, this conflict is resolved (at least partially) with age and life-experience (?).

[CARDOZZO]

9 hours ago, UnbornTao said:

lol

That's commitment. 

😂😂

[Eskilon]

22 hours ago, CARDOZZO said:

I do not look for appearances. I just want to fuck. Ugly, fat, strange, tall, short, beauty or not, I will do it.

Bro fucks anything that moves lmao

[Eskilon]

13 hours ago, Opulence said:

Love isn't conditional at all times. People have loved others for their character and connection. Love is zig zag.

Yeah love is not only conditional. But, most of the time when humans are in the mix, it is.

Edited 51 minutes ago by Eskilon

[CARDOZZO]

2 minutes ago, Eskilon said:

Bro fucks anything that moves lmao

Lol 😂😂😂

No. This is diabolical 😂 I just have a huge sex drive.

[Eskilon]

3 hours ago, Judy2 said:

yes i've thought about this before. i don't have the perfect answer but i guess if you're wise and open-minded, this conflict is resolved (at least partially) with age and life-experience (?).

Oh, I see, interesting, yeah I've been pondering this for some time. I not a cynic or anything like that, but the partiality of human love is astonishing.

I think this topic is deep and I will get more insights as I have more experience, agree with you there

[Eskilon]

6 minutes ago, CARDOZZO said:

No. This is diabolical

I bet you would fuck the devil if you got the opportunity

Joking, its interesting to know your perspective, I know what is like to have that drive, I just dont have it all the time. It is crazy, that drive can indeed overwrite any kind of personal taste or preference . I wish women could experience that for a day to get an insight in how it is to be a man wanting to get sex

 

Edited 46 minutes ago by Eskilon