TRIGGER WARNING, Uncomfortable experience about Dating

[Natasha Tori Maru]

1 minute ago, Joshe said:

Of course, but I was zooming in on women. 

The topic makes me wonder if technology / social is retarding maturity.

[Joshe]

Another factor is her perception of the guy's status and achievement in society. A man with material wealth and/or who is desired by many women doesn't have to work as hard to keep girls from cheating. Johnny Depp's girlfriend will swallow a lot more neglect and mistreatment than should would from a normal guy.

[Joshe]

15 minutes ago, Natasha Tori Maru said:

The topic makes me wonder if technology / social is retarding maturity.

And/or maybe just making it more visible? Increased awareness/knowledge of the opposite sex has came online. 20yr old males these days have a ton of knowledge they can access. We didn't really have that growing up. If we did, I think we'd have been just as immature with it. When you get cheated on these days, you can easily find half-truth content that makes you feel better at the expense of the whole truth. This wasn't available in such abundance when I was coming up.

I'm not sure if it leads to more or less immaturity after the dust settles. It would be different for everybody. I think more conscious individuals will eventually see their errors, as is typically the case with more conscious people, and less conscious people will continue to ignore their errors, same as always. 

It just seems like humanity on the whole is going through necessary adolescent challenges and eventually will grow out of it. Maybe in several hundred years or something. 

Edited 1 hour ago by Joshe

[Miguel1]

6 minutes ago, Joshe said:

and less conscious people will continue to ignore their errors, same as always.

Aka, majority of people 

[Natasha Tori Maru]

1 hour ago, Joshe said:

20yr old males these days have a ton of knowledge they can access.

The whole topic is sort of fascinating to look at in depth.

The above caught me.

I think knowledge =/= wisdom. And it is very, very easy for us to conflate the two when we are young. We are full of 'knowing' before we mature and realise we were... full of shit. So to speak  A similar conflation often arises with pleasure being conflated with happiness.

I think the flood of information is empowering, no doubt. Experience is the greater teacher. It is rare someone can actually have the self control to avoid making mistakes and heed advice; most of us need to fuck up and find out.

For these reasons I suspect there could be the delusion of youth operating as a factor in there. Possibly, also, too much information, too soon. Sort of like trying to teach a student algebra when they do not know simple BODMAS or basic rules; that person is going to dislike maths and walk away with a negative experience due to the struggle. Paralyzed by algebra and unable to proceed in their schooling. This could be a metaphor for information saturation and inundation people endure. I digress a bit.

I sound very disparaging of younger people - I do not wish to convey judgement with the above passage. My comments are more a statement of my own experience, stupidity, hubris and pure ignorance I had to work through. All needed. All warranted. But I was a MESS. 

A stupid arrogant little girl.