Problems with hugging people

[Jannes]

I struggle with this in a social context a lot. 

I need a lot of time to let people close to me, the social world moves at a much higher speed then I am comfortable with. Hugs are kind of part of the whole game so I do them even though I dont fully feel comfortable with them. But I am not really following my inner compass with this, you know when you feel your inner voice of I wanna hug this person because it feels good and this person because it feels good, its all just mudded for me so I going about it logically and when I feel overwhelmed that manifests itself kind of autistically. 

[LastThursday]

Hugging's one of those Marmite love it or hate it kind of things. I'm a hugger, but I don't see it as any different from a handshake or saying "hi how are you doing?". I'm quite happy to hug even close male friends, but generally they're not. I don't force hugs on anyone - except my dad. I always hug my dad even though he's totally uncomfortable with it (don't analyse me). My sister's not a hugger either! What can I say? They're missing out.

My advice. Ignore that inner voice and just hug everyone, you'll soon find out who's comfortable with it and who's not. Go from there.