Enjoy the forum.

[Human Mint]

A message for the users. I wanted to write something about actually enjoying your time using the forum, since it is not talked about it.

Try to develop a healthy relationship with the forum, since you have the oportunity. Especially if you get frustrated a lot and you find yourself constantly arguing. You won't have a good time that way.

Think on ways your time in this forum can be meaningful to you. On ways you can make use of it for your life, or to share your insights.

Use it to understand how people work, how the collective behaves, what people like and what they hate. And especially to understand yourself, what you hate and what you love.

Also this is a byproduct of your own development. So as you grow yourself you will naturally develop healthy relationship to a lot of personal stuff. Which is the hard part but on the other hand what should motivate you to grow. In other words, if you have the choice between having fun or hating it what would you choose?

Anyone can benefit from this. There is always something you can improve on. You should feel your way to the answers that best suit you. If you think you could make progress then understand that it will not be easy and it will be emotionally challenging. But in exchange for that you're gaining happiness because you're changing habits that make you miserable.

So, it is possible to enjoy the forum. But it is not immediate and it will take time. It is the best thing you can work on, have that in mind.

 

Edited 8 hours ago by Human Mint

[Ramasta9]

I don't see the point in partaking if you don't enjoy what you partake in. What a waste of life? The moment its no longer enjoyable, drop it.

 

[Human Mint]

3 minutes ago, Ramasta9 said:

I don't see the point in partaking if you don't enjoy what you partake in. What a waste of life? The moment its no longer enjoyable, drop it.

 

This is for the people that already find meaning in this but also could find more ways of enjoying.

For some it would be wise to stop. But for others just a little change in aproach.

[Hojo]

I actually get pleasure from arguing with people.

[integration journey]

From the title I first thought someone is leaving again😂

[Ramasta9]

@Human Mint I understand.

@Hojo How come? That's really sad, why is this a place you feel to argue? I often feel bad about arguments cause I know its just misunderstandings. Hurting another is only hurting self, eventually it comes back around.

I like to do my best to see others as children or wounded-children which I can also relate with myself then when i see it that way It helps me stop because I know what pain and hurt and suffering feels like so why put another me through that?

Its still me, just in another form. I feel like by transforming the moment this way heals our own past and prevents unnecessary karmic ripples.

Edited 7 hours ago by Ramasta9

[Human Mint]

23 minutes ago, Hojo said:

I actually get pleasure from arguing with people.

That must have a name or something.

[Natasha Tori Maru]

I enjoy it - I simply wouldn't be here otherwise.

Arguing is fine, so long as I am not so attached to my ideas 'MY IDEAS'. Just an idea - not mine. This helps remaining objective for me.

I actually enjoy when my ego is prodded. There is always, always, always something to be learned. Biggest growth happens for me there. So, I do not shy away from some crabbiness. I just don't return to the forum for a bit. Mostly I just don't read a users reply if I think it will emotionally compromise me. Replying isn't winning. The person who had the last word isn't the winner. There are no winners.

I do not tolerate anyone speaking down on others. Condescension or sly jabs. Overt insults don't rattle me, especially when out of character, because it is just the user at a bad moment in time. They could just be emptying and it isn't really meant to be directional. I feel a lot of pity and sadness they demean themselves with this language. Most people aren't arseholes. Maybe we just caught them on a bad day. But really insidious, twisted jabs disguised as political correctness, or users who are systematically dickheads are not good. Points to a deepset pathological issue.

I suppose I have a different view of the forum because I am a Moderator. 

I have the added Moderator drama that adds to my experience. People take discipline/corporal punishment very personally, despite the objective nature of a lot of issues. The grey areas and murky decisions are the hardest. Many users will never agree with you. So moderating carries a more inherently loaded emotional experience - usually laced with negativity.

I just take the bad feelings and transmute them into something good. Empty it out. 

I like this place full of all you weirdos! Even when I disagree. 

It is all just experience - why should I judge if it is good or bad? It does me no good. I do discern though. EXPERIENCE!

Edited 5 hours ago by Natasha Tori Maru

[Joseph Maynor]

I enjoy communicating with you all.  That's a part of how we learn.  I've yet to find anyone quite like me lol.  

[Natasha Tori Maru]

34 minutes ago, Joseph Maynor said:

I enjoy communicating with you all.  That's a part of how we learn.  I've yet to find anyone quite like me lol.  

You have a very unique worldview. 

I enjoy your thoughts, and your YouTube stream of consciousness vibe sessions 🙃

[Carl-Richard]

3 hours ago, Ramasta9 said:

@Hojo How come? That's really sad, why is this a place you feel to argue? I often feel bad about arguments cause I know its just misunderstandings. Hurting another is only hurting self, eventually it comes back around.

I like to do my best to see others as children or wounded-children which I can also relate with myself then when i see it that way It helps me stop because I know what pain and hurt and suffering feels like so why put another me through that?

Its still me, just in another form. I feel like by transforming the moment this way heals our own past and prevents unnecessary karmic ripples.

Why you arguing about his arguing?

[Hojo]

@Ramasta9Its hurting nothing but the ego. If you think you are the ego and I hurt it, its acctually a good deed. You know nothing about spirituality.You are highly egoic. Thinking others are wounded children that must be coddled is more spiritual ego holier than thou BS. When I talk to people I dont listen to the context I listen to the whole and look for contradictions. these contradictions brought forth in conversation 'hurt' the person, or the ego. 

Whenever I see someone who is acting like life should be sunshine and rainbows I know they are secretly very judgmental people.  So I say nice mask, take it off.Via challenging them. They often crack and start insulting me like you do. Cause you are wearing a mask.

I dont argue with people by insulting them like you do. I argue with them via their own logic.

Edited 3 hours ago by Hojo

[Joshe]

13 minutes ago, Hojo said:

more spiritual ego holier than thou BS

It's a specific type of spirituality. There seems to be more than one type/approach, which is threatening to many types because their type is supposed to be the only one, kind of like Christianity, lol. 

[Natasha Tori Maru]

27 minutes ago, Hojo said:

When I talk to people I dont listen to the context I listen to the whole and look for contradictions

This says a lot.

[Hojo]

@Natasha Tori MaruYes it says, words dont mean anything.

[Hojo]

@JosheYes, you dont make alot of friends being like this. The type of person this is, is someone who watched spiritual gurus and then moulded themselves to be what they think the guru wants them to be.

Edited 3 hours ago by Hojo

[Natasha Tori Maru]

@Hojo i have seen you pull context and reply to users based on previous interactions. Whether you are conscious of this or not, you do it.

[Hojo]

@Natasha Tori Maru And? I do it when it contradicts what they previously said. Thats what I said I do. I listen to the whole then bring up contradictions. Thats where the real person is hiding. The words they say dont matter, the contradictions matter.

Edited 3 hours ago by Hojo

[Joseph Maynor]

People play a lot of games in communication.  This is something that should be acknowledged.  

[Joshe]

21 minutes ago, Hojo said:

The type of person this is, is someone who watched spiritual gurus and then moulded themselves to be what they think the guru wants them to be.

lol, damn bro, you crack me up. Hojo gives no fucks.