As you become more evolved - is it harder to connect and build relationships?

[Dima]

Some years ago, I quit social networks, dating apps, and similar platforms because the ratio between value and the “damage” no longer felt favorable.
Solutions that rely on speed, volume, engagement, and performative self-presentation didn’t work for me.
Finding people who truly resonate — who share similar values, depth of thinking, and orientation toward life — became harder, not easier.

If you’re at Yellow or above (or late Green), do you experience this as well? How do you solve it?

[theleelajoker]

" If  you’re at Yellow or above (or late Green), do you experience this as well?

No. I experience the opposite. It's getting easier to connect.

How do you solve it?"

1) I don't categorize myself or people in stages or colours 

2) I am as curious as I can be. And if I see that something bothers me in others, I check where I can find this part within me and integrate it as best as I can.

3) I wear purple sock on my left, and yellow - green sock on my right foot. I switch the colours every three days, except the third day falls on a Thursday. In that case, I buy a cat instead 😺 

 

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[Rigel]

Finding people becomes harder but connecting with those fewer interesting people is way easier cause there’s no more approval seeking nonsense going on.

Younger souls don’t know what connection means. They build many shallow relationships in a doomed to fail attempt at fulfilment. Older souls are already fulfilled & connecting with people from that place of abundance. But it seems young souls don’t really vibe with that kind of independence & freedom.

 

[Puer Aeternus]

Sounds like you're doing some important shedding! Congratulations, you're moving through your own process. This can be a bit of a confusing time, like a time between worlds.

What was once there is dropping away and it's uncertain if it will be replaced or not. The confusion is a friend, sometimes it's useful to develop more independence here so other people are less relied on. The strange thing is, if there's a connection you're supposed to have with another it will be delivered to you irregardless of any effort. Sounds strange, but it's happened to me a few times! 

There can be more than this though. It was definitely a phase I went through, being a "more evolved self." Just live it through like there's nothing else to come and you'll naturally feel it's limits if you're willing to do the suffering. 

But the more evolved self is still just a self. What is it that needs this conditional connection a certain way? All these developmental stage theories are relative practical human truths, not absolute. Drop it all and there's no reason you can't connect with anyone. Then it's just up to how they react to their own mirrored reflection seen through you.