How to practice approaching women?

[fopylo]

@CARDOZZO

48 minutes ago, CARDOZZO said:

That is the problem. You think girls will logically analyze your whole approach.

What you imagine is just what you imagine.

Emotional states are the gods of a woman.

Do not believe, test for yourself. 

Woman love adventure, boldness, courage. If she says no, say to yourself "Who have the balls to do that?".

Ok, so I'll tell you what - I promise I'll try out this kind of adventurous move maybe after I get a little more experience 😅

[Leo Gura]

55 minutes ago, Zenterus said:

The opener absolutely matters and it becomes clear in the extremes. If you approach a woman saying "hey I want to fuck you"

It matters that you don't say something insulting or creepy.

Other than that, what matter is your vibe. Of you open like a stinky creeper then that matters a lot.

My wings and I give each other stupid openers to say, like "I want to squeeze you", "I like the smell of my own farts".

Edited 10 hours ago by Leo Gura

[Zenterus]

16 minutes ago, Leo Gura said:

My wings and I give each other stupid openers to say, like "I want to squeeze you", "I like the smell of my own farts".

@Leo GuraI respect that, although I found that these types of openers rarely result in a normal solid interaction. But then again, everyone has their own style and strengths, so yours may be to make these types of openers work, while that may be my weakness, who knows.

Do you still go out though? You say "my wings and I give each other.." in the present tense.

[Schizophonia]

1 hour ago, fopylo said:

@Schizophonia

Had to make sure you add in the humble quality 😉.

Yes, I can relate, and at some point it really confused me but you gotta know what attracts the feminine bro.

There can be intensity in the cold approach. Intensity = intensely attracted to her sexually.

Don't know how it was for you, but personally when girls used to approach me in social situations I just didn't know what to do, and the anxiety and nervousness was probably sensed and then I used to feel like my value all of a sudden went down. That's why it's important for me to go on this journey now and practice the approaching and being good with women. I want to be smooth when they come at me with something, want to be confident speaking to them, all in all get better with them so that even if a girl does approach me in some social situation then I could be good at it. But of course I don't want to rely on that because in the cold approach domain it is me who'll have to do the first scary step, and also the step that will require me to become a better man.

It's just about having fun.

It's like a video game console; you don't simp your video game console, you're not mean to it either, you just pick up the console and play; that's how I see it.

The challenge is to find a girl who enjoys playing the same game as you; what you consider enjoyable may be cool for some and disgusting for others.

In terms of humor, how you like to be interested in others, the activities you like to do, and your general behavior; mainly.

Edited 10 hours ago by Schizophonia

[Schizophonia]

There's a correlation between physical appearance and mentality.

The easiest interaction I've ever had was a mistake; it was a woman on the train, and she physically resembled me; even in the way to dress actually.

Edited 10 hours ago by Schizophonia

[Looks]

37 minutes ago, Schizophonia said:

There's a correlation between physical appearance and mentality.

The easiest interaction I've ever had was a mistake; it was a woman on the train, and she physically resembled me; even in the way to dress actually.

yeah it's very good bumping into your lookalike in female version. why you didn't succeeded with that woman on the train.

[Schizophonia]

4 minutes ago, Looks said:

yeah it's very good bumping into your lookalike in female version. why you didn't succeeded with that woman on the train.

She wasn't living at the same place at all.

 

And she was 16 😹

[Ulax]

On 24/12/2025 at 11:10 PM, Inliytened1 said:

If youre at a bar for some reasons girls dont like you to be alone.  If you have someone with u I guess to them it tells them you aren't a total loser. But that's all a wingman is good for.  They won't get the girl for you.

You're spitting textbook shit give it to him raw.

Wingman is v helpful to stop you tilting, and to help you not give up. Also, can make it more fun and a sense of joint adventure.

[Miguel1]

One of my most favourite openers is not saying anything. Let my body language and vibe do the opening.

I love it cuz its just so something the girl has never seen.

But this works only in specific situations.

[Leo Gura]

I do physical openers a lot. I spent months just doing physical game.

Edited 7 hours ago by Leo Gura

[Jannes]

18 minutes ago, Leo Gura said:

I do physical openers a lot. I spent months just doing physical game.

I guess in loud night clubs? Everywhere else that would be inappropriate. 

How does it look like? How do you improve at it?

[Jannes]

41 minutes ago, Miguel1 said:

One of my most favourite openers is not saying anything. Let my body language and vibe do the opening.

I love it cuz its just so something the girl has never seen.

But this works only in specific situations.

I get the feeling you are a natural. 

[Miguel1]

52 minutes ago, Jannes said:

I get the feeling you are a natural. 

Very possible. My personality type is the most ideal for socializing, very charismatic naturally.

I recently went out with a long time lurker here on the forum. He said his mind was completely blown from observing me. He wrote a field report dedicated to me, we are just waiting for Leo to accept his registration request, so he can post it here.

We will see then if the report indicates stuff about my naturalness. I am curious to see. It is very different having someone observe me from afar, especially a more newbie vs me trying to observe myself. So many things I’ve taken for granted, and has become completely secone nature.

I have been in the game community from early 2010s, but mostly just watched infields and that was basically all my studies. No theories. I didnt even know there was such a thing as keeping count on the number of your approaches. I think I was at around 10k approaches before I even heard of it.

[Jannes]

25 minutes ago, Miguel1 said:

I think I was at around 10k approaches before I even heard of it.

Holy shit thats a lot. Well with this much practice you can just seem like a natural. Ofc you could also be one.

[Leo Gura]

3 hours ago, Jannes said:

I guess in loud night clubs?

Mostly. Or crowded bars.

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Everywhere else that would be inappropriate.

You'd be surprised.

I knew a guy who would grab any girl, any place, any time. Just shameless. He would grab your mother at Walmart.

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How does it look like? How do you improve at it?

Lots of various ways:

• Walk up, facing her directly, and just take her hands in yours.
• As she walks past you, grip her by the forearm and pull her towards you
• Hand of God opener
• Tap on her shoulder
• Reach both arms out towards her and signal her to grab them
• Convert a handshake into a low dance
• Walk up and hug her from the front
• Motion at her with your hands, come hither.

You improve at it by forcing yourself to only do physical openers for a month. No talking.

Edited 3 hours ago by Leo Gura

[Jannes]

3 minutes ago, Leo Gura said:

Mostly

You'd be surprised.

Lots of various ways:

• Walk up, facing her directly, and just take her hands in yours.
• As she walks past you, grip her by the forearm and pull her towards you
• Hand of God opener
• Tap in her shoulder
• Reach both arms out towards her and signal her to grab them
• Convert a handshake into a low dance
• Walk up and hug her from the front
• Just walk up and take her hands in yours

Ah okay, I couldnt picture much beyond groping in my head. This makes more sense. 

[mmKay]

2 hours ago, Leo Gura said:

Mostly. Or crowded bars.

You'd be surprised.

I knew a guy who would grab any girl, any place, any time. Just shameless. He would grab your mother at Walmart.

Lots of various ways:

• Walk up, facing her directly, and just take her hands in yours.
• As she walks past you, grip her by the forearm and pull her towards you
• Hand of God opener
• Tap on her shoulder
• Reach both arms out towards her and signal her to grab them
• Convert a handshake into a low dance
• Walk up and hug her from the front
• Motion at her with your hands, come hither.

You improve at it by forcing yourself to only do physical openers for a month. No talking.

Where is my Claw guys??? Iykyk

 

Team Claw 👇👇

Edited 1 hour ago by mmKay