my mother's comments upset me in unpredictable ways and i don't know why

[Ulax]

There will be some understandable reason you feel this way.

For example, maybe you are a highly sensitive person. Maybe you didn't get needs met as a kid, and you have emotional wounding that is getting triggered. Maybe you have a thyroid thing. Maybe you have trauma history which puts your body in chronic regulation. 

I would say though that there is a lot of cultural messaging around how family relationships should work. What we should or shouldn't feel. What is okay and not okay in family dynamics. And imo some of that messaging is toxic, and can make us feel like something wrong with us, when we are just having an understandable response to an unhealthy dynamic. 

[Natasha Tori Maru]

@Judy2 Do you think you have any sort of approval seeking with your mother?

Or perhaps, you may still look up to her. Mother is the word for God on the lips and in the hearts of children. And it can be quite a huge thing to see our parents as the broken children they are who didn't (and still don't) know what they are/where doing when raising us.

[Yimpa]

6 hours ago, Judy2 said:

have you also struggled with feeling misunderstood and with difficulties to emotionally self-regulate?

Yes and yes. I am autistic and I’m proud!

Edited 4 hours ago by Yimpa