Leaving tinder and always coming back months later

[pablo_aka_god]

1 hour ago, aurum said:

Then you got to find a solution to why cold approach isn't working for you.

Forget about Tinder for a while and purely focus on that.

Do you need different venues to go out? Do you need to move cities? More theory? Approach anxiety? A different style?

Where is the biggest place you're struggling with cold approach?

@aurum Thanks for your interesting in helping me.

Actually I've been consistently doing daygame every saturday since June. 

I did 191 direct approaches, had one lay w a girl I saw twice, and a few insta dates.

2 weeks ago I stopped bc I got plantar wart removed and couldn't walk. so for the last 2 weeks I haven't worked out or gone out much and now I feel real bad.

I'm slowly going back to normal now, I can't still workout but I can walk, so I'm planning on going back to daygame this saturday.

the last few times I did daygame I was already getting discouraged bc I had a lay on my 82 opening and all the way to 191 I had nothing. 

My main point of struggle is on creating attraction after I open. I am a bald 5.6″ and wear glasses and even with those I only have 25% vision, also I think I'm slightly autistic.

I've struggled w creating attraction my whole life. 

Edited 21 hours ago by pablo_aka_god

[How to be wise]

8 hours ago, pablo_aka_god said:

after 2 months I may have a date

I thought two dates per month was terrible performance, thank you for making me feel better

I am using hinge though

[Lyubov]

In general you sound like you’re keeping yourself stuck with a lot of beliefs about yourself. In addition to that your foundation and current life situation may be such that the numbers aren’t in your favor. In your case, honestly, you need to really align with your spirit, find your life purpose and be doing everything to feed your passions. Set dating asside for a bit. You say you want quality but then keep indulging in something you clearly don’t want. So you need to own that and be responsible. Honestly you sound like you need to really learn about responsibility and understand that and be honest with yourself. You probably need to let go of a lot of old beliefs and your life as you know it to get to where you want to be, but you’re choosing to stay stuck so you need to address that when appropriate. 

Edited 21 hours ago by Lyubov

[aurum]

1 hour ago, pablo_aka_god said:

I did 191 direct approaches

The fact that you know the exact number of approaches you've done tells me you're likely taking a hyper-logical approach.

Are you having fun when you approach? Do you smile and laugh a lot?

1 hour ago, pablo_aka_god said:

My main point of struggle is on creating attraction after I open. I am a bald 5.6″ and wear glasses and even with those I only have 25% vision, also I think I'm slightly autistic.

I've struggled w creating attraction my whole life. 

It's going to be harder for you than some other guys.

Can you still meet someone? Yes. But be mindful of your expectations.

[Sugarcoat]

7 hours ago, Schizophonia said:

Yea we're very intelligent so it's normal.

Especially me.

New hinge bio 🤣

[Schizophonia]

4 hours ago, Sugarcoat said:

New hinge bio 🤣

Eheh

[pablo_aka_god]

11 hours ago, aurum said:

The fact that you know the exact number of approaches you've done tells me you're likely taking a hyper-logical approach.

Are you having fun when you approach? Do you smile and laugh a lot?

It's going to be harder for you than some other guys.

Can you still meet someone? Yes. But be mindful of your expectations.

@aurum my last comment makes it sound like I'll die virgin but I've had a some amount of good experiences, 2 GFs and a a few fuckbodies during the years that my life was all about this issue. so I know I have everything I need to make it work.

I may suck physically but I'm also a very smart AI engineer/scientist. 

If I take massive action I get results. The problem starts when I put my energy into something else, it takes me an insane amount of energy to get new dates so a nice sex life feels incompatible with other (hard) goals like LP. feels like I should choose one or the other but I don't accept that.

That's the mindgame I want to solve.

Edited 8 hours ago by pablo_aka_god

[pablo_aka_god]

12 hours ago, Lyubov said:

In general you sound like you’re keeping yourself stuck with a lot of beliefs about yourself. In addition to that your foundation and current life situation may be such that the numbers aren’t in your favor. In your case, honestly, you need to really align with your spirit, find your life purpose and be doing everything to feed your passions. Set dating asside for a bit. You say you want quality but then keep indulging in something you clearly don’t want. So you need to own that and be responsible. Honestly you sound like you need to really learn about responsibility and understand that and be honest with yourself. You probably need to let go of a lot of old beliefs and your life as you know it to get to where you want to be, but you’re choosing to stay stuck so you need to address that when appropriate. 

@Lyubov smells like ego backslashing 

I'm am trying a combination of action+psychedelics to rewire my brain

[Hezbollah]

Numbers 4:23

[Hezbollah]

13 hours ago, pablo_aka_god said:

I've struggled w creating attraction my whole life. 

Looks creartte attraction, improve looks

[Schizophonia]

@CARDIZO In this photo you look like a giga chad with hollow cheeks

[CARDOZZO]

1 minute ago, Schizophonia said:

@CARDIZO In this photo you look like a giga chad with hollow cheeks

I'm average 😉, just taking care of myself recently.