How do you change at the core?

[Princess Arabia]

You might want to go through this thread I made last year; might find some gems there for what you're looking for.

[Miguel1]

There's a lot you can do to change yourself but core remains a core by definition.

[Natasha Tori Maru]

3 hours ago, amberlight said:

Im not sure. basically my conditioning and identiy as a whole like everyone i would say.
The human mind is very slow and puts up a bunch of friction to make big changes, and they take a long time to get set.

What i am wondering is how i can loosen up my mind to make changes easier, ways to to kindof program my mind to aid in these changes. 
Or if there is no such things, just tips for how to grind it out and stay on track.

I do not know what happened with myself to achieve this.

I used to get in my own way all the time.

One day I begun to stop judging experiences as good or bad. Wanted or unwanted. I begun to look at each task as a set of sounds, textures, lights and smells. I deconstructed my senses until I lost some of my ability to define a task or thing. So for example - I used to hate folding the laundry. After this transition, the laundry folding became a game of colours and textures in my hands. Fun digging out socks and pairing them up. Then the sensations of drawers opening, hangers clanging... the pretty visuals of neatly folded fabrics

Now I simply move through life from the next task/experience to the next. My only aim is 'the next step I take must enhance the probability of something maybe occurring in a later time' This reduced my mental chatter down to almost zero. So I just operate on the principal I am taking the action to enhance probabilities all over my life experience. 'Will this increase the probability of X?'

I do this in my career building medical facilities. I just move from one experience to the next with priority on enhancing probability and not deeming anything good or bad. It is all just sensory data that could lead to a surprise - or desired outcome. Because nothing is in my control. At all.

Not sure if this helps - but it removed all resistance within me.

[Yimpa]

Just dew it. Over and over and over again and again and again. 

[Entrepreneur]

On 12/1/2025 at 11:11 AM, amberlight said:

I have improved plenty lately, but I feel like I can improve so much faster if I learn more about this subject. I want more than just simple goal setting and habit tracking, and all that.
How do you change fundamentally as a person, at the core?

What are some authors/sources, practices, and sub-fields, or personal experiences you guys have when it comes to this topic?

Thanks 

Great topic!

For me, it comes down to learning ideas from others (authors, podcasts, videos, discussions like this, mentors, etc.) and then figuring out how I can implement the best of those ideas into my life.   I think the vast majority of humanity does the first part (gathering ideas) but not the second part (figuring out how to implement the best ideas into their daily life).  I am also largely guilty of doing this for most of my life.  Still do it frequently, but I have definitely gotten better at implementing things.

Implementing big changes has been a slow process for me.  I learn, learn, learn, eventually convince myself to make a different decision and commitment, then actually make a change in my life for the better.  For example, everyone has been told repeatedly since childhood that daily exercise is important for their health.  Yet how many people actually carve time out of every workday to do it?  Everyone knows it is important and agrees they "should" do it, yet only a small percentage does.

Even rarer, I bet, is the adult who didn't already have the habit of regular exercise since their teenage years or college years, who successfully implements it later in life.

In my case, I knew my whole life that it was important.  Yet from age 18 until around age 35 I didn't do it very often.   I took my health for granted and didn't even think about exercising.  I would sit at my kitchen table and drink draft beer from my Kegerator before I would throw on sweatpants and a T-shirt and go for a run.

Even when I finally began thinking I should "really" implement a daily exercise habit, the change still took me a long time and many attempts before it stuck.  Leading up to that point, I read about it being important.   I heard about it.  I watched videos about it.   I had discussions about it.   But the transformation didn't occur until I firmly decided it was truly important enough.  This decision then caused me to move it way up my list of priorities in life.   All of those times hearing about it, talking about it, and reading about it were slowly stacking logical reasons for me to implement it.   The real transformation occurred when I felt the emotional shift inside me to knowing (being utterly undeniably convinced to my core) that I must implement this habit if I am to truly enjoy life to its fullest.

Now, a couple of decades later, I am a man who exercises every workday, almost without exception.   In fact, the change is so profound that if I don't workout at some point during the day, I feel like my day is incomplete and somewhat unsatisfying.   I must workout each day to feel like it was a good day.  (Just weekdays though- I can workout or not workout on weekends.  It doesn't bother me if I don't.)

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