why am i so resistant to experiencing discomfort in life?

[Judy2]

@NewKidOnTheBlock ok:)

 

[Judy2]

15 hours ago, UnbornTao said:

You could get into your experience of it by asking things like, what am I actually avoiding? Is it objectively happening now, or am I imagining a future negative scenario? What am I unwilling to experience? If you were willing to experience some form of discomfort, the impulse to avoid it would likely subside. Is there an unconscious belief or wish that your experience should always be positive? Or that you are personally incapable of handling uncomfortable circumstances? Just some questions.

that reminds me of Ralston's book again

15 hours ago, UnbornTao said:

Also, a practice of deliberately seeking out minor forms of discomfort can help, e.g., cold showers, strong-determination sitting meditation, various forms of exercise, eliminating an addiction for a time, and so on.

probably a stupid comparison, but sometimes i get lost craving some sort of war or apocalypse, which is pretty much the polar opposite of all the comfort i commonly cling to. my life would be easier, in a way, if there was more challenge in it. i'd have more structure and know what to do if there was this sense of constant physiological urgency. it would also strip me off all the things i get so hung up about that truly don't matter as much as i think they do. in a sense, i'd connect so much more with myself and think less about all the imaginary things i've acquired after my birth that i will never take with me in death, anyway. maybe that idea is liberating, and maybe i'd feel better about myself if my life was harder. less inadequate and self-conscious. lighter. 

i find it interesting to ask what exact elements of "the apocalypse" i'm missing in every day life. the sense of adventure, the "freedom" and lack of attachment, being required to rely more on social connection...? of course i'd be the first to say i hate it and in the past i always said i'd wanna die and not even try to survive in such a scenario just to save myself all the hustle... but it's still valuable to think about this, i find. maybe it tells me something about my present needs, and some of the changes i need to make to my life, more so than relying on external pressure (e.g. a real apocalypse) forcing me to adapt my attitude....maybe i can gain some of the benefits of living in the apocalypse without needing to let it come to that lol. (maybe that's a bit like making changes before cancer or whatever forces you to do that.)

my brother is a lot different. running ultra-marathons and stuff. i'm trying to be more like him in that regard. at least a little bit.

 

sorry for all the rambling:)

Edited 7 hours ago by Judy2

[gettoefl]

My life mission is about avoiding discomforts and enjoying comforts until death does its part. This is considered the good life. So sue me! If you can't beat them join them. Am I doing life wrong?

[Ishanga]

There is always this Equation running in the background in our Unconscious Mind, the equation is "How to gain more pleasure and avoid more pain right now!", now this seems like a simple equation but it is not when it comes to being a Human, which is the most complex Life form we know of so far, You have to be Ultra Aware to be a Human or the life will be full of Suffering, if You like and want to Suffer (which is severe discomfort) then be UnAware!

Now someone working the job they hate, well this is avoiding pain part of the equation, they hate the Job but hate being broke more, so they continue to do the job to not be broke, but doing this over a long period of time eventually leads to more pain and suffering..

The solution is to create an atmosphere within Yourself that is Joyful, Healthy and Intensely Aware, then You will not Suffer anymore, this is establishing Your BEING, then from there You go out and perform Action and DO and from that You HAVE results, things, experiences, possessions, success and such, but even if you don't get anything out of the DOING, your still okay since You already established Your BEING and are naturally Happy, Healthy and Empowered!