Understanding sexuality thread

[Someone here]

love ..intimacy..intimate sex etc is literally God itself .its like a collapse of duality and becoming one unity. The man loses himself in the femininity of the woman..and the woman loses herself in the masculinity of the man..and the two become one .and as a result a child comes to see the light .this is utterly miraculous... it should bring you to tears  . We actually do need each others .men need women and women need men. MGTOW and feminism are both deluded. We NEED sex to some degree ..unless you're a full blown Buddha or something and you can  just feel high on nothing .

So sex and intimate relationships are at the very bottom of Maslow's hierarchy of needs . Its essential. Of course some hardcore spiritual people like monks do actually transcend sex completely. But to do that requires extraordinary levels of committedness and maturity . Most people are not gonna be able to do that .

Think about it honestly...how much time you spend thinking of sex ..imagining sex..having sex ..masturbating etc .its literally the second biggest dominator in your life after survival (food ..Water..shelter etc).

So I think we need to discuss this topic in general. I don't have a specific question or detailed topic about sex that I want to talk about but just sharing some insights ..any insights you had or have about sexuality which you have learned in your life ..please share .

[Sugarcoat]

Sex is like several things at once. The man and woman enhances each others egos, the man makes the woman feel more like a woman and vice versa. She feels desired and sexy, he feels masculine (just example). So it’s physical.  Then we have the physical pleasure. Then we have the emotional connection , the fulfillment of feeling love and feeling loved by someone. It’s complete and whole (when done right with the right person and inner state). It’s holistic pleasure. 
 

Virgin talk 😂😂😂

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[Someone here]

8 minutes ago, Sugarcoat said:

Sex is like several things at once. The man and woman enhances each others egos, the man makes the woman feel more like a woman and vice versa. She feels desired and sexy, he feels masculine (just example). So it’s physical.  Then we have the physical pleasure. Then we have the emotional connection , the fulfillment of feeling love and feeling loved by someone. It’s complete and whole (when done right with the right person and inner state). It’s holistic pleasure. 
 

Virgin talk 😂😂😂

Just marry that pharmacy boy already then 😂 

[Eskilon]

36 minutes ago, Someone here said:

So sex and intimate relationships are at the very bottom of Maslow's hierarchy of needs . Its essential. Of course some hardcore spiritual people like monks do actually transcend sex completely. But to do that requires extraordinary levels of committedness and maturity . Most people are not gonna be able to do that .

Let my boy Drukpa Kunley change your view: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Drukpa_Kunley

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Drukpa Kunley (1455–1529), also known as Kunga Legpai Zangpo, Drukpa Kunleg (Tibetan: འབྲུག་པ་ཀུན་ལེགས་, Wylie: brug pa kun legs), and Kunga Legpa, the Madman of the Dragon Lineage (Tibetan: འབྲུག་སྨྱོན་ཀུན་དགའ་ལེགས་པ་, Wylie: 'brug smyon kun dga' legs pa), was a Tibetan Buddhist monk, missionary, and poet in the Drukpa Kagyu lineage of the Mahamudra tradition.[1] He was trained at Ralung Monastery under siddha Pema Lingpa. However, by the age of 25, he had returned his monastic vows[2] to take a wife, whose name was Tsewang Dzom (tshe dbang 'dzom).[3] He is often counted among the Nyönpa ("mad ones"). He is considered to have been a reincarnation of Saraha.[4]

Biography

Drukpa Kunley was born into the branch of the noble Gya (Tibetan: རྒྱ, Wylie: rgya) clan of Ralung Monastery in the Tsang region of western Tibet, which was descended from Lhabum (lha 'bum), the second eldest brother of Tsangpa Gyare. His father was Rinchen Zangpo and mother was Gomokee. He was nephew to the 2nd Gyalwang Drukpa and father of Ngawang Tenzin and Zhingkyong Drukdra.[3]

He was known for his crazy methods of enlightening other beings, mostly women, which earned him the title "The Saint of 5,000 Women".[citation needed] Among other things, women would seek his blessing in the form of sexual intercourse. His intention was to show that it is possible to be enlightened, impart enlightenment, and still lead a very healthy sex life, and to demonstrate that celibacy was not necessary for being enlightened. In addition, he wanted to expand the range of means by which enlightenment could be imparted, while adding new evolutionary prospects to the overarching tradition. He is credited with introducing the practice of phallus paintings in Bhutan and placing statues of them on rooftops to drive away evil spirits.[5] He is also known for Chimi Lhakhang, the temple of fertility.[6]

Because of this power to awaken unenlightened beings, Kunley's penis is referred to as the "Thunderbolt of Flaming Wisdom" and he himself is known as the "fertility saint". For this reason, women from all around the world visited his monastery to seek his blessing.[7][8]

 

Bro was awake and made his life purpose to enlighten women through sex 

The real SEX guru

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[Schizophonia]

Sex isn't a need.

[Natasha Tori Maru]

7 minutes ago, Schizophonia said:

Sex isn't a need.

Exactly - it's not a biological need. 

One won't die without it.

[Sugarcoat]

58 minutes ago, Someone here said:

Just marry that pharmacy boy already then 😂 

🤣🤣…

[Sugarcoat]

27 minutes ago, Schizophonia said:

Sex isn't a need.

It’s not survival need but a psychological need. Can be seen as a physical need too, need for the physical pleasure (like how someone needs dopamine to feel good). But it’s not a need for survival 

[Kid A]

1 hour ago, Someone here said:

So sex and intimate relationships are at the very bottom of Maslow's hierarchy of needs .

No, it isn't. It's at the third level (Love/belonging).

[Schizophonia]

29 minutes ago, Natasha Tori Maru said:

Exactly - it's not a biological need. 

One won't die without it.

Put like that, it might sound emasculating but it's actually the opposite.
What's subconsciously behind the desire to frame sex as a need is the desire to portray oneself as a victim; because it makes us feel like a hero.

"I'm the hero who manages to abstain from sex even though it's so hard (because it's a need) blablabla"
The hero and the victim are two sides of the same coin.

Whereas if we say, "Sex isn't a need at all, it's a leisure activity I enjoy," we're being undermined because this responsibility makes us experience the pain, the feeling of humiliation (symbolic castration, as Lacan would say) of not having the object; but at the same time, it gives us power; it's the purest definition of having balls.

If a man rejects symbolic castration, he will experience a greater sense of lack and, consequently, become more feminine.
He will become more affected, listen to music typically associated with women, be passive, and develop unusual fetishes.

 

Of course, saying that sex isn't a need can also be used in the opposite way, as a "cope" hehe.

I'm frustrated in love, but instead of facing the pain, I tell myself and others that it's not a problem, that it's normal, that "after all, I've suffered enough with guys/girls," "love is dead," or whatever to keep your head ahead.

It's not a question of signifier (what we declare, if it makes sense), but of signified (in this case, what I seek to be proud of, or to assume my desire and therefore suffer).

 

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[Kid A]

4 minutes ago, Kid A said:

No, it isn't. It's at the third level (Love/belonging).

History repeats itself: 

 

[Schizophonia]

11 minutes ago, Sugarcoat said:

🤣🤣…

You See

Listen to the Actualizers 😏

[Schizophonia]

1 hour ago, Someone here said:

Just marry that pharmacy boy already then 😂 

You need to get with the times, I'm psychoanalysis boy now

Edited 1 hour ago by Schizophonia

[Someone here]

41 minutes ago, Schizophonia said:

Sex isn't a need.

If you guys wanna put it like that then obviously you won't die without it . Although I just read recently on the news a guy committed suicide because his fiancé left him. Maybe "love" is a real thing .

 

[Someone here]

@Kid A lol weird that you remembered that thread of mine . I myself forgot it .

[Sugarcoat]

4 minutes ago, Schizophonia said:

You See

Listen to the Actualizers 😏

Hehehe

[Schizophonia]

2 minutes ago, Someone here said:

If you guys wanna put it like that then obviously you won't die without it . Although I just read recently on the news a guy committed suicide because his fiancé left him. Maybe "love" is a real thing .

 

Oh yea but it's different than sex.

I have someone in my family who became suicidal because his wife died.

A friend who was dumped too.

[Someone here]

7 minutes ago, Schizophonia said:

You need to get with the times, I'm psychoanalysis boy now

No seriously what do you study or work as ? Incredibly knowledgeable in these kinds of things despite being young .

[Someone here]

@Schizophonia The fuss about the word "need" lol.

A male only Upon his death he stops making Testosterone. Males will make Testosterone through the Testicles as long as he is alive. As males age..their Testosterone levels decline but a 90 year old man should still have a Testosterone level of 300. Whereas a Teenager would have a number up near 1000. Now there are factors such as injury to the Testicles...deformities..cancer..die.. smoking etc that can or will effect the levels of horniness but as long as he's breathing, he should still be making Testosterone . 

Would you mind answering this simple question for me ..are you able to pop a boner (get hard ) and maintain  that erection for few minutes?

[Kid A]

27 minutes ago, Someone here said:

@Kid A lol weird that you remembered that thread of mine . I myself forgot it .

My memory is so useless in this day and age. Thousands of years ago, my memory could have saved the tribe because I would have been the one who remembered which berries were poisonous etc. Today, my memory is used for things like remembering this, or the complete lineups of the 2011 Champions League final 🤣

 

Edited 1 hour ago by Kid A