HELP! I really want to get a girlfriend !

[AION]

@Tudo  at your stage of your development you shouldn't listen to your mind and just take action. If your mind had already figured it out, it would have gotten the results so you need to stop listening to your mind, and fuck around and find out.

[Jannes]

5 hours ago, Schizophonia said:

Also, just because the girls in your class have boyfriends doesn't mean you can't flirt with them; you might be better for her than he is.

How would you feel about it if you were in a relationship?

[something_else]

Build a solid social circle. Holy fuck, that supercharges your dating results. I tried for years to do things without many friends and it's such a handicap.

Dating apps may work well for you too, but you need good pics. It took me like 3-4 years to get solid dating app pics, almost all of them are from travel.

Edited 9 hours ago by something_else

[NewKidOnTheBlock]

32 minutes ago, Leo Gura said:

For that reason alone you must flirt on!

Nothing better for you in game than a good heartbreaking 

Doesn't seem very wise to me to treat this whole thing like a game

[Schizophonia]

@Tudo 

The flesh is weak; many people get into relationships/stay with someone because they're afraid of being alone, especially women.

So, by flirting with her, she might realize she's better off with you, and you'll have done her a favor; she'll be happier.

And it's the same the other way around; if you're a woman and you're attracted to a man who's already in a relationship.

@Princess Arabia

You're human, you don't have 36,000 choices; unless you've mastered LOA perfectly. 😏

I don't talk about flirting with taken women on purpose like a vicious/sadistic; i said not to deprive oneself particularly for the reasons I have stated.

@Jannes

If my gf replaces me it's because she doesn't like me enough to begin with, so the matter is settled.

Edited 9 hours ago by Schizophonia

[Schizophonia]

39 minutes ago, Princess Arabia said:

Seriously? Seems like desperation to me.

I'm on your side; I'm also a homebody idealist who likes to give. 

 

That was an intuitive response to OP's energetic structure/frequency.

When someone creates a thread with obvious answers, it's because they're interested in, perhaps even primarily interested in, the act of posting it on a forum.

In this case, it's about exposing their libido, using some querulous language (I want a "cute" girl); and what lies behind it is misplaced aggression/sexuality.

[Eskilon]

@Schizophonia Bro, what sort of  bullshit are you spiting lmao.

I am pretty sure you wouldn't like some guy flirting with your girlfriend. Why are you encouraging him to do it?

Edited 9 hours ago by Eskilon

[Tudo]

1 hour ago, Schizophonia said:

@Tudo 

The flesh is weak; many people get into relationships/stay with someone because they're afraid of being alone, especially women.

So, by flirting with her, she might realize she's better off with you, and you'll have done her a favor; she'll be happier.

And it's the same the other way around; if you're a woman and you're attracted to a man who's already in a relationship.

 

Yes, make sense.If a woman leaves you for another man, she just wasn't the right one.

50 minutes ago, Schizophonia said:

 

That was an intuitive response to OP's energetic structure/frequency.

When someone creates a thread with obvious answers, it's because they're interested in, perhaps even primarily interested in, the act of posting it on a forum.

In this case, it's about exposing their libido, using some querulous language (I want a "cute" girl); and what lies behind it is misplaced aggression/sexuality.

I don't think my thread had this obvious answers. But maybe you are right. What vibe exacly do you get from me? You can be honest

Edited 8 hours ago by Tudo

[Princess Arabia]

39 minutes ago, NewKidOnTheBlock said:

Doesn't seem very wise to me to treat this whole thing like a game

Is that what happened to you; someone broke your heart.

[NewKidOnTheBlock]

48 minutes ago, Princess Arabia said:

Is that what happened to you; someone broke your heart.

Scanning for weaknesess again I see

[Jannes]

1 hour ago, Tudo said:

@Leo Gura But trying to get another man’s girl isn’t corruption? And I’ve been heartbroken in the past so many times, I can’t take it anymore lol

Whut? I think he meant being heartbroke can motivate you to get better at game. 

[Schizophonia]

1 hour ago, Eskilon said:

@Schizophonia Bro, what sort of  bullshit are you spiting lmao.

I am pretty sure you wouldn't like some guy flirting with your girlfriend. Why are you encouraging him to do it?

Why do you feel threatened by what I'm saying

[Eskilon]

6 minutes ago, Schizophonia said:

Why do you feel threatened by what I'm saying

I am not threatened. I am just pointing out your unconscious double standards lol.

I am pretty sure you wouldn't like someone flirting with your girlfriend; unless you have cuckold fantasies or smth.

Edited 7 hours ago by Eskilon

[Schizophonia]

7 minutes ago, Eskilon said:

I am not threatened. I am just pointing out your unconscious double standards lol.

Yes, because it makes you angry.

Otherwise, you would be emotionally neutral; like you are neutral with children working in mines in Africa, with people who have AIDS, and most negative phenomena; you react because you perceive something personal, you're mirroring me/what I'm saying.
Are you afraid of being cheated on, of being inadequate, or something like that.

7 minutes ago, Eskilon said:

I am pretty sure you wouldn't like someone flirting with your girlfriend; unless you have cuckold fantasies or smth.

It would hurt my ego, but if a girlfriend flirts with other guys and dumps you, it wasn't all that great.
Not just for her, but for you too, even if your ego tells you otherwise.

[Schizophonia]

1 hour ago, Tudo said:

Yes, make sense.If a woman leaves you for another man, she just wasn't the right one.

Yes.

1 hour ago, Tudo said:

I don't think my thread had this obvious answers. But maybe you are right. What vibe exacly do you get from me? You can be honest

When instead of doing what is obvious to do (socialize...) you expose your supposed desire in this case on an online forum, it is because this desire is in fact essentially fictitious and serves to express querulousness/your "right"; this is the underlying energy.

And what lies behind it is the fear of suffering, of being nothing, of not being in control.

Just my point of view

[NewKidOnTheBlock]

16 minutes ago, Schizophonia said:

Otherwise, you would be emotionally neutral; like you are neutral with children working in mines in Africa, with people who have AIDS, and most negative phenomena

We are not neutral to that phenomena, it just doesn't affect us in our day-to-day lives. Not a good comparison at all.

Edited 7 hours ago by NewKidOnTheBlock

[Schizophonia]

Just now, Schizophonia said:

Yes.

When instead of doing what is obvious to do (socialize...) you expose your supposed desire in this case on an online forum, it is because this desire is in fact essentially fictitious and serves to express querulousness/your "right"; this is the underlying energy.

And what lies behind it is the fear of suffering, of being nothing, of not being in control.

Just my point of view

Sexual and romantic desire responds to a "void." To truly experience this void, rather than merely pretending to feel it within the framework of an inferiority complex, one must first create and feel the void.
You cannot enjoy a relationship or even genuinely desire one (and therefore pursue it) as long as you remain in an energetic state that excludes the experience of this void.

[Schizophonia]

6 minutes ago, NewKidOnTheBlock said:

We are not neutral to that phenomena, it just doesn't affect us in our day-to-day lives. Not a good comparison at all.

Ofc no you could have AIDS just as you could be cheated on.

The difference is that you identify with one situation for some reason and you don't with the other.

The projection of emotions is not a matter of probabilities.

Edited 7 hours ago by Schizophonia

[Eskilon]

@Schizophonia

22 minutes ago, Schizophonia said:

Yes, because it makes you angry.

Otherwise, you would be emotionally neutral; like you are neutral with children working in mines in Africa, with people who have AIDS, and most negative phenomena; you react because you perceive something personal, you're mirroring me/what I'm saying.
Are you afraid of being cheated on, of being inadequate, or something like that.

Dude, you are saying that people act, point stuff, or give advice just because they are angry... like what?

I am neutral about this, people can act, and be neutral at the same time; just like you can be happy and act. Having morals or standards and saying them on a forum doesnt mean that a person is angry by saying them.

22 minutes ago, Schizophonia said:

It would hurt my ego, but if a girlfriend flirts with other guys and dumps you, it wasn't all that great.
Not just for her, but for you too, even if your ego tells you otherwise.

Yes, if it would hurt your ego, then why are you encouraging the OP to hurt the girl's boyfriend ego? 

Simple rule in life: if you wouldnt like it done to you dont do it to others.

Edited 7 hours ago by Eskilon

[Schizophonia]

7 minutes ago, Eskilon said:

@Schizophonia

Dude, you are saying that people act, point stuff, or give advice just because they are angry... like what?

I am neutral about this, people can act and be neutral at the same time. Having morals or standards and saying them on a forum doesnt mean that a person is angry.

No, it's not true.

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Yes, if it would hurt your ego, then why are you encouraging the OP to hurt the girl's boyfriend ego? 

Simple rule in life: if you wouldn t like it done to you don t do it to others.

You're selfish all the time; you don't care about how your phone was made, the conditions under which the meat you eat was raised, your family, the insects you squash because they bother you, etc.

You suddenly become altruistic when it comes to these things because you recognize yourself for some reasons; it's your karma.

I've already explained why I advised OP to do this.
Also, no one mentioned cheating on someone; a girl can politely leave her boyfriend before getting together with you.

Edited 7 hours ago by Schizophonia