Cold approach success stories

[pablo_aka_god]

Would love to hear real stories of which of you went through the entire pickup process with full intent for some time and found a great life partner thanks to it.

One of my best friends found his GF while he was doing daygame every single day.

I've personally have gotten laid w 8 girls from DG and 1 from Nightgame. but haven't found a GF yet.

I want inspiration!

Edited September 14 by pablo_aka_god
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[aurum]

Came close to marrying a woman I met through cold approach. A lot of the guys I was going out with at the time also found a long-term partner.

It's definitely possible, but it took me a lot of approaches and social circle building.

Getting laid is not enough. You can have surprisingly weak chemistry with a woman and still get laid. Quality relationships require more.

[pablo_aka_god]

@aurum thanks for sharing!

Why did you need social circle building if you were doing cold approach?

[theleelajoker]

22 hours ago, pablo_aka_god said:

Would love to hear real stories of which of you went through the entire pickup process with full intent for some time and found a great life partner thanks to it.

One of my best friends found his GF while he was doing daygame every single day.

I've personally have gotten laid w 8 girls from DG and 1 from Nightgame. but haven't found a GF yet.

I want inspiration!

Just to check:  What qualifies as "success story" and what as "cold approach"? 

Cold approach = everything where there was no other people connecting / introducing man&woman? 

Success story = everything that ended in kind of relationship for a while? (everything is temporary)

I have many stories that might qualify, but I would not call it "pick up process", I just call it "meeting people".

• My sister got to know her husband at a party, he approached her, did not know her before, now married and two kids - does that count?
• One of my ex, I talked to her in the queue of a club, we dated one year, does that count? 
• One of my friends got engaged with a woman I met at a party, at the queue of a the bar. I "cold approached" her and her female friends, asked her and her friends to join our group of men. I said "hello this is X, one of my friends" and left the scene, my friend did the rest - does that count? 

 

[pablo_aka_god]

6 minutes ago, theleelajoker said:

Just to check:  What qualifies as "success story" and what as "cold approach"? 

Cold approach = everything where there was no other people connecting / introducing man&woman? 

Success story = everything that ended in kind of relationship for a while? (everything is temporary)

I have many stories that might qualify, but I would not call it "pick up process", I just call it "meeting people".

• My sister got to know her husband at a party, he approached her, did not know her before, now married and two kids - does that count?
• One of my ex, I talked to her in the queue of a club, we dated one year, does that count? 
• One of my friends got engaged with a woman I met at a party, at the queue of a the bar. I "cold approached" her and her female friends, asked her and her friends to join our group of men. I said "hello this is X, one of my friends" and left the scene, my friend did the rest - does that count? 

 

This is natural game. cold approach is for people for which finding a quality GF while chilling at a party is impossible so you have to go and approach 100s of girls on the street/club deliberately.

[theleelajoker]

55 minutes ago, pablo_aka_god said:

This is natural game. cold approach is for people for which finding a quality GF while chilling at a party is impossible so you have to go and approach 100s of girls on the street/club deliberately.

What's the difference between cold approach and my second example? 

Because I wanted to go to the club anyways and she just happened to be there?  Instead of "my only focus is on talking to women, I actually don't want to go have fun it's all just about approaching women"?

And why is it impossible for people to go to a bar, club, party etc? Can also be a gym, a sports class, a concert, a art gallery , any event that happens in society where people are involved. Don't understand 

Edited September 15 by theleelajoker

[pablo_aka_god]

4 hours ago, theleelajoker said:

What's the difference between cold approach and my second example? 

Because I wanted to go to the club anyways and she just happened to be there?  Instead of "my only focus is on talking to women, I actually don't want to go have fun it's all just about approaching women"?

And why is it impossible for people to go to a bar, club, party etc? Can also be a gym, a sports class, a concert, a art gallery , any event that happens in society where people are involved. Don't understand 

This is a topic for another thread, sorry don't want to derail the thread

[theleelajoker]

5 minutes ago, pablo_aka_god said:

This is a topic for another thread, sorry don't want to derail the thread

OK

[aurum]

6 hours ago, pablo_aka_god said:

@aurum thanks for sharing!

Why did you need social circle building if you were doing cold approach?

Because having a strong a social circle is highly attractive for women. Especially if you appear to be a leader and people really respect you.

You can get away without it. But you’re making things way harder on yourself.

For a long-term relationship, it should feel like she is entering your world that you’ve set up. You’ve got friends, family, a good career, a philosophy on life and activities you enjoy. Or if you don’t have those things, then you’re actively working towards them.

[Schizophonia]

7 minutes ago, aurum said:

Because having a strong a social circle is highly attractive for women. Especially if you appear to be a leader and people really respect you.

You can get away without it. But you’re making things way harder on yourself.

For a long-term relationship, it should feel like she is entering your world that you’ve set up. You’ve got friends, family, a good career, a philosophy on life and activities you enjoy. Or if you don’t have those things, then you’re actively working towards them.

You can have no friends at all and still have a pretty girlfriend; I know several people who are in this situation.
There are plenty of ways to be attractive.

[aurum]

3 minutes ago, Schizophonia said:

You can have no friends at all and still have a pretty girlfriend; I know several people who are in this situation.

That is highly atypical.

[Schizophonia]

3 minutes ago, aurum said:

That is highly atypical.

No

 

[aurum]

1 hour ago, Schizophonia said:

No

You're free to try it your way.

I think those who do will be disappointed in the results.

[theleelajoker]

1 hour ago, aurum said:

Because having a strong a social circle is highly attractive for women. Especially if you appear to be a leader and people really respect you.

You can get away without it. But you’re making things way harder on yourself.

For a long-term relationship, it should feel like she is entering your world that you’ve set up. You’ve got friends, family, a good career, a philosophy on life and activities you enjoy. Or if you don’t have those things, then you’re actively working towards them.

Fits in general my experience. 

In fairness to @Schizophonia, there are ALWAYS other cases.

Some girls like the guy that just doesn't give a fuck about friends, career and social circle etc. 

But all in all, for MOST women I know and dated, when they saw me being social, interacting etc etc it bumped their attraction view of me, especially if they were less extrovert than me. (Being social --> more likely to make and keep friends)

I don't do it to get attention or female approval ("building social circle for game" - I hate this shit it's fake to me. I just do me) but women commented on my social interactions repeatedly and at some point I saw the subconscious mechanics at work. 

One GF left me because I "didn't have plan in life". She was right, I was not working actively towards some stuff. But the next women did not care that I didn't have a plan...sooooo just find your fit

Edited September 15 by theleelajoker

[Schizophonia]

@theleelajoker @aurum

Let's say that having an attractive lifestyle is often concomitant with having a social circle, since we are a social species, but it is not systematic. 🤔

A woman can also introduce you to her social circle if you lack one; women are independent now and have their own social circles.

Also, people work; in reality, it's already a significant investment of time to do things with your girlfriend, your entourage in general; so this whole thing is a bit of a fantasy.

There are a lot of fantasies in pick up, I think.

Rather than focusing on particular objects, which is anxiety-provoking and would distance me from myself, I prefer to create my cocoon which corresponds, is pleasant for me even if it is solitary, and if the cake is pleasant enough then it will be very pleasant for certain women too

😎🍰     🤏🥰🤏

[theleelajoker]

@Schizophonia 

I think you would actually a fun guy to talk to but hey if it's solitary where you feel good 

Agree on the last point if you're relaxed with how you are, how things are the chilled vibe is contagious

Edited September 15 by theleelajoker

[Recursoinominado]

I had a lot of fun during the time i did cold approaches.

One time i was in such a state that i was pushing for a three-way kiss with two girl friends, one was into it and the other was shy about it and when then i noticed that we had a crowd of at least 50 people watching everything (it was in a concert and the place had stares where people sit to rest we were in front of one of those). People were literally CHEERING, screaming, and clapping, i was in a super state (completely sober, btw) and didn't care, just found it amusing and kept pushing for the three-way kiss. Then i saw another girl passing by, she stared at me with a smirk, i immediately pointed at her and made a "come at me" motion with my finger, she came over and we immediately kissed without saying a word. People went NUTS, in complete disbelief. And then the girl i kissed went away (it lasted like 30 seconds) and i went back to the first girls like it was nothing and they were still there in shock, waiting for me to end the kissing to give them attention lol

The interaction kept going, and then a group of men came and tried to steal the girls from me, like circling them and grabbing them, but i just kept still, laughing at the situation because the girls were trying to brush them off and come back to talk to me lol and the crowd still kept cheering.

And then another girl passed by, looked at me, smirked, and i called her to me. She passed by, but in like one minute, she came back to talk to me, i grabbed her by her waist, spoke for like 10 seconds, and kissed her. The crowd, of course, went NUTS once again, screaming and clapping. 

This girl then stopped kissing me to ask me: WHO-ARE-YOU?????

I swear, i was a god at that moment, one of the best feelings of my life, and completely sober. I felt like the sun with planets orbiting me, a crazy experience.

[Vali2003]

@Recursoinominado

dude… this story sounds absolutely incredible.

[UnbornTao]

22 hours ago, Recursoinominado said:

This girl then stopped kissing me to ask me: WHO-ARE-YOU?????

She totally went Ramana on you!

 

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Sorry, lame joke. Is that even how the expression is used?

[Recursoinominado]

48 minutes ago, UnbornTao said:

She totally went Ramana on you!

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Sorry, lame joke. Is that even how the expression is used?

Ramana 

She thought i was a celebrity or something lol i took her on a date a couple of days later and closed