The best women always appear when I least expect

[Kalki Avatar]

I’m not lying nor joking but the best women I have met in my life for a potential match appear to me when I least expect to even want to talk to them. Either im down, busy or there is something in the way that makes it very difficult for us to match. Like one time being with my mom in an embassy where no phones were allowed and my mom was so jealous I couldn’t figure how to approach the girl which was a pure diamond showing IOI. Or that time I  randomly had my first love awakening in my job and went out the office to take some air and instantly another girl who was also in the love frequency crossed me walking a dog while blushing and said hi, I said hi but couldn’t even think of anything else since I was processing the immensity of that dimension in the moment. Yesterday, I got high and went to take a walk on a park and even thou I was taking the farthest path to walk where people don’t wanna be bothered, a hot rich girl from that area approached me to ask where to rent bikes. She clearly showed IOI by insisting, getting closer, open body language and curious eye contact. I couldn’t think of anything right at that moment since it was so unpredictable and my mind was flying. Now I can think of what I could have done to go there with her… So yeah, like the best girls I have seen in my life appear exactly when I’m not even capable of thinking right. I’m curious if there is any reason for that.
Anyone else has experienced something similar? 

Edited July 6 by Kalki Avatar

[Schizophonia]

Yes, because wanting is the opposite of being and so having.

 

[Sugarcoat]

2 hours ago, Schizophonia said:

Yes, because wanting is the opposite of being and so having.

 

And female is opposite of male so you might as well be gay 😂👍🏻

[Schizophonia]

10 minutes ago, Sugarcoat said:

And female is opposite of male so you might as well be gay 😂👍🏻

There is a world in infinity where i'm Valentine and you finally can fulfill lesbian fantasies with me 🤔

Edited July 6 by Schizophonia

[Schizophonia]

Pretending to be gay can actually be a practical strategy for manifesting women given the Law of Attraction, lol.
Like, "Oh, I can't manifest men even though I'm gay! 😡," you're both satisfying your potential tendency to ruminate if it's part of your self-concept, and at the same time tacitly positing the idea that you manifest women.
Unless it actually changes your sexual orientation. 😸

[Sugarcoat]

3 minutes ago, Schizophonia said:

There is a world in infinity where i'm Valentine and you finally can fulfill lesbian fantasies with me 🤔

It’s probably happening 

[Schizophonia]

Just now, Sugarcoat said:

It’s probably happening 

What do you mean.

You don't have to respond to me here.

[Kalki Avatar]

@Schizophonia Yeah, but I mean they appear when I can’t even approach or speak or think right. Thats what I mean. Not in other moments that I might be doing good and also not thinking, but they appear in the most impossible moments like a tease…

[theleelajoker]

19 hours ago, Kalki Avatar said:

I’m not lying nor joking but the best women I have met in my life for a potential match appear to me when I least expect to even want to talk to them. Either im down, busy or there is something in the way that makes it very difficult for us to match. Like one time being with my mom in an embassy where no phones were allowed and my mom was so jealous I couldn’t figure how to approach the girl which was a pure diamond showing IOI. Or that time I  randomly had my first love awakening in my job and went out the office to take some air and instantly another girl who was also in the love frequency crossed me walking a dog while blushing and said hi, I said hi but couldn’t even think of anything else since I was processing the immensity of that dimension in the moment. Yesterday, I got high and went to take a walk on a park and even thou I was taking the farthest path to walk where people don’t wanna be bothered, a hot rich girl from that area approached me to ask where to rent bikes. She clearly showed IOI by insisting, getting closer, open body language and curious eye contact. I couldn’t think of anything right at that moment since it was so unpredictable and my mind was flying. Now I can think of what I could have done to go there with her… So yeah, like the best girls I have seen in my life appear exactly when I’m not even capable of thinking right. I’m curious if there is any reason for that.
Anyone else has experienced something similar? 

Yes, similar experience. Once it was getting slowly sober again from a Club night on MDMA. She appears right in front of, just arriving when I am leaving, meeting at the wardrobe.

She's looking gorgeous, super sexy, great vibe, so goddamn my type. She teases me a bit, challenges me a bit...I know what's happening but my mind is like a pudding. She knows it. She leaves with a smile like "you had your chance, but you didn't show up, now I'm gonna go and (maybe) get any guy I want" 

I think I also asked for her number but she laughed it off...and I get why

The reason..well, I think it's a feature of reality. It's the game. I tease you, I show you what could be...and then I leave! It keeps us all engaged in the game, in reality, right? The story you tell your friend "holy shit she was so hot, she was interested but I just could not do it... next time I'll do this and that!"

And then, from time to time, the opposite happens, they basically jump on you only thing you need to do is to not run away lol 

+ What @Schizophonia wrote. Wanting vs. having. 

Edited July 7 by theleelajoker

[meta_male]

@Kalki Avatar It's not rocket science:

- You were at an embassy, no phones allowed, your mom was jealous, couldn't figure out how to approach --> You were just awkward.

- You had a love awakening and were "processing the immensity of that dimension" --> You were in your head having a meltdown.

- You couldn't think of anything cause it was so unpredictable and your mind was flying --> That's called life.

 

These are just everyday, mundane interactions you're putting a lot of extra meaning into and they leave you wondering what you could have done differently.

[Princess Arabia]

Jesus, a hot woman approached to ask where to rent bikes and all of a sudden that woman is a potential date, probably got a man or married or gay and your mind just went south with it because she came close so you can hear her and didn't have to shout and looked at you because she's talking to you. If she was fat and ugly, it wouldn't have even been an issue, just a normal interaction and a normal question. Now you assume one got away. She's probably a psychopath, yet she's one of the best women. 

Edited July 8 by Princess Arabia

[Emerald]

It sounds like the main issue is that you get anxious in these dynamics and freezing up because you're too attached to the potential outcomes and reading too much into the experiences as a doorway to those outcomes.

The trick is to just recognize that these women are regular people and carry on as normal... and spark up conversation like you would with some person you don't find attractive at all.

[NewKidOnTheBlock]

On 6. 7. 2025 at 10:14 PM, Sugarcoat said:

And female is opposite of male so you might as well be gay 😂👍🏻

I'm essentially a lesbian with a dick, therefore gay. I should be allowed to go to women toilets, such an injustice

[Kalki Avatar]

@meta_male Nono, you don’t understand. Those are just 3 examples. I see hot women everyday. I mean the “BEST WOMEN” that I ve seen and that are a perfect fit for me in all the sense. And that they also show interest on me in that moment like approaching me. Not everyday all hot women I see are perfect, the best (uniquely rare beauty), and also show me very clear interest like “proximity”. These are women I would want to marry or be in a relationship the instant I see them. And they appear in very special odd occasions that I can’t approach them for some difficult reason. Almost like some karmic glitch.

Edited July 10 by Kalki Avatar

[Kalki Avatar]

@Princess Arabia You can notice when a woman just want to ask a question however she looks and also notice the difference when she does it with a different energy/intent behind it. Women are not direct! They communicate interest indirectly with body language. So I clearly know when a woman is doing so. For example, yesterday I met a very hot girl in a boxing class and helped her get her hand wraps. She liked it how confident I was to approach her even thou she is beautiful while all other men where just wishing to talk to her. She liked me touching her hands and chit chatting with her. I noticed her looking at me during the class and also saw her desire for me before she left and said goodbye. Okay she is a possible dating outcome and is hot but is not as “THE BEST” as to what I mean! See, in this case I could easily approach her. It’s a different situation.  That’s why I said the best women for “ME”. The ones that I know are the best for me, my type in looks, energy, class, style, etc. you didn’t get my point. Now I see how limiting language is for communication. Real communication is telepathy. This is all just blabery. Nvm, you wouldn’t get it anyways even if I keep explaining. I just found out this is some karmic glitch. It’s like the women I really want and can’t find even when I look for them they appear in the most difficult situations. Why don’t they just appear when am all happy, free and in an easy outcome possibility. That was my question and was curious if anyone has experienced it. It’s the women that I have been remembering still from those days I saw them. Extremely unique/rare and beautiful pokemons. Everyone is on a different spiritual path even though it’s one Truth. So not everyone will experience the same things… (this case)

Edited July 10 by Kalki Avatar

[theleelajoker]

3 hours ago, Kalki Avatar said:

@Princess Arabia You can notice when a woman just want to ask a question however she looks and also notice the difference when she does it with a different energy/intent behind it. Women are not direct! They communicate interest indirectly with body language. So I clearly know when a woman is doing so. For example, yesterday I met a very hot girl in a boxing class and helped her get her hand wraps. She liked it how confident I was to approach her even thou she is beautiful while all other men where just wishing to talk to her. She liked me touching her hands and chit chatting with her. I noticed her looking at me during the class and also saw her desire for me before she left and said goodbye. Okay she is a possible dating outcome and is hot but is not as “THE BEST” as to what I mean! See, in this case I could easily approach her. It’s a different situation.  That’s why I said the best women for “ME”. The ones that I know are the best for me, my type in looks, energy, class, style, etc. you didn’t get my point. Now I see how limiting language is for communication. Real communication is telepathy. This is all just blabery. Nvm, you wouldn’t get it anyways even if I keep explaining. I just found out this is some karmic glitch. It’s like the women I really want and can’t find even when I look for them they appear in the most difficult situations. Why don’t they just appear when am all happy, free and in an easy outcome possibility. That was my question and was curious if anyone has experienced it. It’s the women that I have been remembering still from those days I saw them. Extremely unique/rare and beautiful pokemons. Everyone is on a different spiritual path even though it’s one Truth. So not everyone will experience the same things… (this case)

+1 for how women send signals. It's subtle, it's indirect, it's body language + the eyes. Yesterday I was having lunch with a pretty friend I like, and she likes me. We talked 1h+ about everything and and no point there was any signal beyond "we have a nice conversation"

Another time I started talking to a  girl and I thought she liked me, but she was reluctant. A moment later she takes out her phone and I see that she has a screensaver showing her and her boyfriend - a feminine, subtle way to say "no thanks" I thought to myself

Once I got more aware of life in general, it's easy to feel if there is at least a bit of interest. Interest doesn't always mean that something will happen...but sometimes it does ; )

+ 1 limits of communication with words, telepathy is key 

Next time it happens, you will connect with your Pokemon, brother!

Edited July 11 by theleelajoker

[Kalki Avatar]

12 hours ago, theleelajoker said:

Next time it happens, you will connect with your Pokemon, brother!

Lol

Your friend can probably like you so much that she hides it since you guys see each other consistently. I’m aware women can fake interest just to play you. But also the type of interest varies. For example, she could be curious and that’s a probably. There is also an interest in which she is looking at you with desire (it’s so obvious you have to be blind and stupid not to get the clear signal), which happened with the girl at the embassy. Ever have I seen such a perfect petite luxurious girl, damn. 

Edited July 11 by Kalki Avatar

[meta_male]

@Kalki Avatar No bro, you don't understand. It feels better to blame the universe than to admit you froze or were unprepared. You're romanticizing these encounters because they let you indulge in fantasies of "what ifs" without having to risk anything.

How do you know you came across the perfect woman for you just because she walked her dog and said hi? Because you didn't have to do anything. And it sounds like that's the pattern you get lost in.

[Princess Arabia]

A woman that really wants you, will make sure you don't get away. She will find a way to get your attention but not only that, make you interact with her. If you don't do the obvious she will. If you don't, and she doesn't she never wanted you like that. Women are subtle in their cues, but they will make sure you get them to make the next move or they will. A hi and a certain look is not one of them. 

[theleelajoker]

3 hours ago, Kalki Avatar said:

Your friend can probably like you so much that she hides it since you guys see each other consistently. 

Don't think so she has a long term boyfriend and seems happy about him. I like her but I'm not sexually interested and I think it's the same for her. IMO, it's possible to have a platonic relationship with the other sex. 

@Princess Arabia what if there are mixed signals? When the obvious points towards one direction, and the subtle cues in another direction?

Case study: woman says in one situation "I don't have enough feelings for you let's part ways"  (obvious) and in another situation tells a story where a woman she knows left her boyfriend but came back few months later (subtle). Or woman says she's not ready for relationship (obvious) but very casually brings up topic of marriage / kids in other situation (subtle)? She's seeking distance "I want to be alone" (obvious) but then is surprised when her wish is granted ("thought we talk about it", subtle).

All real life examples

Really curios about female perspective now

 

Edited July 11 by theleelajoker