Review Ending unnecessary Suffering by Peter Ralston

[Mellowmarsh]

2 minutes ago, Inliytened1 said:

Animals do not have a concept of past or present they exist purely in the moment.   They also do not have the ability to self reflect. So yes they live more aligned with just Being but its not because of intelligence it's because they have less intelligence.  We should be more like them in trying to live in the present moment.  Us humans get the monkey mind run out of our control due to more intelligence. But this doesn't mean enlightenment doesn't exist. 

The awareness of concept is a known that cannot be known by the concept. What is the knower of a concept without making the knower a concept. This immediate moment is unwritten, pure and not-knowing. Self - reflection is a synthetic fiction.
 

I don’t know about less intelligence. Intelligence is running through very fabric of all living organisms, not specifically special to humans.

I would imagine a cockroach scuttles around its environment with the same sense of self importance. But this is all just conceptual storytelling of course. 

[Miguel1]

6 minutes ago, OBEler said:

@Miguel1 it seems you are neurodivers and hate masking. It's a common problem. 

The funny thing is my personality type is ENFJ, which is the biggest social chameleon there is. My ennegram is 8w3 tho, and from there I get the cut through bullshit side.

[Miguel1]

@Joseph Maynor @Inliytened1 it makes sense.

I was with this partner for 5 years. It was the most intimate and intense relationship I’ve had, by far.

[Leo Gura]

44 minutes ago, Mellowmarsh said:

Who on earth is trying not to suffer, name someone or something?

"End unnecessary suffering".

The title of this thread! Lol

Many people here are trying hard not to suffer. This is a very real and common trap. It's very counter-intuitive because the more you try to not suffer, the more you'll suffer from failing at it.

As spiritual people, our superego tells us: "You shouldn't be suffering this much, you're the spiritual one! What's wrong with you?! You should be better than this. You should be like that monk who lit himself on fire."

Edited just now by Leo Gura

[Inliytened1]

7 minutes ago, Miguel1 said:

@Joseph Maynor @Inliytened1 it makes sense.

I was with this partner for 5 years. It was the most intimate and intense relationship I’ve had, by far.

The crazy thing was that in the relationship she was deeply in love with me teetering on the point of obsession (we were together 3 years) and I completely took her for granted. I am the one who ended it.  Then when I realized what I had lost everything completely switched.  She shut me off like I was dead in an instant.  What I was to her before had died for her, in fact.  

Edited 12 minutes ago by Inliytened1

[OBEler]

@Inliytened1 why did you end it. 

 

And was there no chance after breaking up to connect again or stay in a friendship or something. 

[Inliytened1]

5 minutes ago, OBEler said:

@Inliytened1 why did you end it. 

 

And was there no chance after breaking up to connect again or stay in a friendship or something. 

Because I didn't understand at the time that relationships are going to have rocky times but you just don't walk away, even if sometimes you feel like it.  I expected man and woman to get along all the time and always be on the same page.  And when that didn't happen I didn't want to deal with it.  Or her.  But I didn't know what a relationship was.  That's why its so important not to get into one until you are ready.

No to the other question, once it was done it was done.  Years later she saw me again somewhere and was willing to go on another date.  But I was like a new person to her.  We didn't end up getting back.   I am with someone else now.

Edited 2 minutes ago by Inliytened1