Is this the evolution of polyamory? Aubrey Marcus podcast)

[Emerald]

2 minutes ago, Leo Gura said:

My analysis just takes her own words at face value.

#ListenToWomen

Funny the things you select to listen to women about.

[Natasha Tori Maru]

1 minute ago, Emerald said:

Funny the things you select to listen to women about.

Tasty bias morsels I do see

[Leo Gura]

3 minutes ago, Emerald said:

Hey Leo. God just commanded me to take all of your money away from you for your own good, while I keep it for safe keeping.

It's this new enlightened way where all of humanity is embraces a non-materialistic lifestyle. 

And I will guide you in the difficulties and aversions you'll feel as it is hard to open up your boundaries to let money flow out and love flow in.

You make a mockery of inspiration, which shows you don't understand God.

[Wilhelm44]

Aubrey is also a Trump fan, right ?

Edited May 30 by Wilhelm44

[Emerald]

Just now, Natasha Tori Maru said:

Tasty bias morsels I do see

Yes... very tasty indeed. 

[Leo Gura]

Just now, Wilhelm44 said:

Aubrey is also a Trump fan right ?

Yup

[Emerald]

Just now, Leo Gura said:

You make a mockery of inspiration, which shows you don't understand God.

And clearly you don't understand common sense.

[Lyubov]

2 hours ago, Leo Gura said:

But, like, what's the alternative? If he isn't happy with monogamy then it wouldn't have worked out anyway.

If she doesn't want it, it's her responsibility to leave. It's a good lesson for her.

Yes yes I agree. Can be challenging letting go of someone you love that wants something different though, but who else to choose but oneself. 

[Leo Gura]

A case study in Emeraldsplaining.

[Natasha Tori Maru]

It's a challenging topic and thought provoking topic.

Even more challenging to be aware of the behaviour judgements we make when assessing.

[Leo Gura]

5 minutes ago, Lyubov said:

Yes yes I agree. Can be challenging letting go of someone you love that

I'm fully aware of how men manipulate women into open relationships. It's easy to do.

Edited May 30 by Leo Gura

[Emerald]

Just now, Leo Gura said:

A case study in Emeraldsplaining.

You'd be wise to listen to it sometimes.

[Emerald]

Just now, Leo Gura said:

I'm fully aware of how men manipulate women into open relationships.

Then, why don't you think this is an example of that?

[Lyubov]

I actually think what he is doing is fine as a man. I think men can take more lovers while it is not suited for a woman to. Thing is women are very clingy and protective of their men. If you are a man and can pull it off cool, I’m jealous and want that too. But I don’t wanna wrap it up in new age stuff. Men want lots of beautiful women even if they are married. It’s quite simple for us. It’s mostly just for sex. It’s nice to have lots of women. Love one and have others for fun or love a bit too but be with one as the ride or die. 

Edited May 30 by Lyubov

[Leo Gura]

Just now, Emerald said:

Then, why don't you think this is an example of that?

Because their entire conversation was very conscious and honest. They consciously decided to go into this deep, complex love tricycle and work through all the challenges they knew it would involve. That is very different than just emotionally manipulating a girlfriend to have a threesome.

[aurum]

Aubrey could legitimately have an extremely high sex drive that makes monogamy unworkable. Which is how he describes himself.

Almost no one is factoring that into their analysis.

Edited May 30 by aurum

[Lyubov]

I scrolled on tinder in my relationship and my girlfriend found out and it really was hurtful to her and I don’t do it anymore. I don’t need to go on a podcast and bring spirituality into this shit. Men love having lots of women, it’s that simple. 

[Emerald]

Just now, aurum said:

Aubrey could legitimately have an extremely high sex drive that makes monogamy unworkable.

Almost no one is factoring that into their analysis.

Sure, that could be true. I did account for that.

I actually just mentioned my best friend and her husband who are polyamorous. And my friend has an extremely high sex drive and needs lots of variety.

So, their relationship works out well and it's been poly from the start... 17 years ago.

It's more about the way that Aubrey Marcus is going about rationalizing it that's muddying the waters that's the problem.

[Leo Gura]

6 minutes ago, Lyubov said:

I scrolled on tinder in my relationship and my girlfriend found out and it really was hurtful to her and I don’t do it anymore.

But he didn't do that. He told her first that he wants a triad, then they split up, then they discussed it, she agreed, and then he went on Tinder to create what they agreed to. And he didn't just bang the new girl, he introduced her to his first girl and they all got along well and became friends.

She agreed to this. Stop treating her like a child.

Edited May 30 by Leo Gura

[Xonas Pitfall]

4 minutes ago, Lyubov said:

I actually think what he is doing is fine as a man. I think men can take more lovers while it is not suited for a woman to. Thing is women are very clingy and protective of their men. If you are a man and can pull it off cool, I’m jealous and want that too. But I don’t wanna wrap it up in new age stuff. Men want lots of beautiful women even if they are married. It’s quite simple for us. It’s mostly just for sex. It’s nice to have lots of women. Love one and have others for fun or love a bit too but be with one as the ride or die. 

"While it is not suited for a woman to" - why do you think so?

How do you stay loyal to your ride-or-die when those urges hit? Do you genuinely think that's realistic for you in the long run?