How to become more masculine?

[shree]

14 minutes ago, Someone here said:

hang out with manly me.... their way to talk and act will turn into second nature to you if you become one of them

do manly shit..masculine men do manly shit. again find a set ofpeerss.. do stuff together and you will become real masculine not just act masculine.

Hanging out with masculine men and doing masculine things will help you act more masculine, but it won't lead to deep transformation.
In order to achieve that, core wounds need to be treated. Every single human has wounds.

Edited April 27 by shree

[Someone here]

22 minutes ago, shree said:

Hanging out with masculine men and doing masculine things will help you act more masculine, but it won't lead to deep transformation.
In order to achieve that, core wounds need to be treated. Every single human has wounds.

Men are designed to have wounds and tough them out . This is the bad news right ? That you as a man is designed to suffer. And girls are designed to stay home watching romance movies fantasising about their dream boyfriend. 

I guess that's God's will .thy will shall be done .

Someday it will all makes sense .maybe not .

Edited April 27 by Someone here

[Schizophonia]

20 minutes ago, Someone here said:

Men are designed to have wounds and tough them out . This is the bad news right ? That you as a man is designed to suffer. And girls are designed to stay home watching romance movies fantasising about their dream boyfriend. 

I guess that's God's will .thy will shall be done .

Someday it will all makes sense .maybe not .

Lol, women are also subject to the reality principle; they have always worked.

Everybody is softer because of comfort, and at the same time, certain traumas can weaken you to the point where they just make you weaker for the rest of your life.
The devil is in the details.

Now, this whole maculinity thing is a little crazy. I mean, it doesn't really amount to much in real life.
In real life, it's about making a living, having friends and activities, security, having a partner, and stuff that generally has nothing to do with it.

Even when it comes to getting a girlfriend, the biggest obstacle most of the time isn't masculinity as such; it's rather neurosis and a lack of experience that give character traits that can seem feminine.

Edited April 27 by Schizophonia

[Atb210201]

You know what is the biggest trait that is the core of masculinity?

Keep moving forward no matter what.

[Breathe]

Intro

Let me preface this by saying that I was a pickup artist for years back in the 2009. By 2011 I was a dating coach. I was primarily influenced by RSD and had done boot camps with Jeffy and Owen.

 

I have opinions on online dating, social circle game and bar game.

 

First, you’re going to have to find what works for you. You make a style of your own that suits your personality. It has to be authentic and sustainable.

 

I can’t emphasize the, you need to highlight the qualities that attract a women before connecting with them. You don’t need to be s rockstar but you have to have boundaries, express yourself honestly and directly while making good eye contact, speaking loudly and clearly, and having good posture. And don’t brag or overdo it.

 

That alone will get a wonan’s attention.

 

Humor is another attractive quality, but don’t try to be funny, Flirtation is another one. This comes with time.

 

Women also want to know that you have a quality friend group.

 

Biology

 

Attraction is mostly biological. Women want good genes for their offspring. They also want someone dependable who will help raise their children.

 

Even the women who want kids and a reliable partner, they need to be attracted first.

 

Don’t skip that part.

 

Same goes for me, men like big boobs and butts. It is hard to ignore our biology when you have a nice girl or man who leans more to the nice/kind side of the spectrum.

 

I still fall into that trap.

 

In my experience, most women don’t stop dating assholes until their late 30s.

 

Theres nothing you can do about that.

 

 

Approach

 

I’m not a super funny guy so I highlight on my strengths.

 

“Common opener is I think you are lovely and I want to get to know you. Are you single.”

 

Depending on the mood I might say, “Let’s make out.” This is incredibly high percentage

 

 

I’m direct because I avoid the friendzone at all cots. The above keeps me out of that club.

 

Connection

 

Once I get that out of the way we can start having regular conversatoins. She wants to your human side so she can relate and feel comfortable.

 

Lifestyle

To keep a girl interested you have to live with integrity. Grow, do the things you say you wlll, keep with your passions.

 

 

I could go on and on but I’m=m going to to stop here.

 

More to come later...

[meta_male]

@Never_give_up Hey man, I can relate to what you're saying. I grew up in a Christian environment and was pretty soft and feminine in my traits too. I wasn't taught anything about masculinity. Going to the army was frowned upon, so I did civil service in childcare instead. Leadership, courage, resilience felt absolutely foreign to me.

What helped me massively was getting into physical, adventurous, and challenging activities. Downhill biking, motorcycle racing, off-roading, lifting weights, sleeping outdoors, shooting at the range. All of that built me up mentally, physically and emotionally.

You don't need to be a totally different person overnight. Start by pushing your limits physically (e.g. taking cold showers). Find activities that make you feel alive and test you. Don't shy away from discomfort, welcome it, "embrace the suck". Masculinity isn't about being a macho leader, more about being capable, trusting yourself, and handling challenges with courage.

[Yimpa]

Deep voices are hella sexy.

Be deeply a man. Be deeply proud of yourself as a MAN!