What does it mean when a girl has strong eye contact at me?

[Peo]

So when i approach a girl, she will tell me she has a boyfriend, but she keeps smiling and staring at me for a long time. Even when i run out of things to talk about. No way she is intrested when she has a boyfriend right. Then she will want me to hug her. Then she invite me to hang out with her and her friends. So what does it mean? Any insights into this behaviour.

Btw this was during the night at a saturday and friday. 

[Sugarcoat]

Was it a woman in club setting?

Edited October 2, 2024 by Sugarcoat

[Peo]

3 hours ago, Sugarcoat said:

Was it a woman in club setting?

yes.

[NoSelfSelf]

It means you should stop buying into what signals they do ,only signal that matter is does she cooporate with what you telling her to do or not.

[Sugarcoat]

2 hours ago, Peo said:

yes.

Ok it’s a bit weird. Maybe you were friendly and she thought you’d be fun to hang out with in friendly way

[BlueOak]

15 hours ago, Peo said:

So when i approach a girl, she will tell me she has a boyfriend, but she keeps smiling and staring at me for a long time. Even when i run out of things to talk about. No way she is intrested when she has a boyfriend right. Then she will want me to hug her. Then she invite me to hang out with her and her friends. So what does it mean? Any insights into this behaviour.

Btw this was during the night at a saturday and friday. 

Touch contact is good and eye contact is a clear sign, but a hug can just be friendly. I need to see her to be sure. Is she blushing, touching her hair, playing with her earrings, turning her body towards you in a group, focusing on you above all others in the group, smiling all the time etc.?

Don't go the friend route, it's never a Disney movie outcome. If you are okay taking a shot with a woman who has a boyfriend, hang out, keep it casual, and see if she reciprocates. You allow space for it to happen for a short time, then if it continues and builds up ask her casually if there is something there, but don't be a friendzoned guy who is buying her everything or chasing for weeks. 

Friends rarely ever become lovers. But people sleep with people in relationships all the time (especially this generation), just be ready for the fallout if that's what you are doing.

Edited October 3, 2024 by BlueOak

[Schizophonia]

Just go talk to her. 

[Peo]

3 hours ago, BlueOak said:

focusing on you above all others in the group, smiling all the time etc.?

yes, and her friends in her group came over to introduce themselves to me. 

 

41 minutes ago, Schizophonia said:

Just go talk to her. 

Bruh ofc i talked to her, i was the one that approached her on the street, on the way to the club. 

[Schizophonia]

1 hour ago, Peo said:

 

Bruh ofc i talked to her, i was the one that approached her on the street, on the way to the club. 

Well, maybe she envisaged you after all.

She can feel the need to clarify she has a borfriend, but it doesn't means she is happy with him for some reasons and not ready to left him if it turns out you are better for her. 

[Atb210201]

Please don't make any moves if she really has a boyfriend for the love of God.

First be sure she doesn't if you are gonna make a move on her.

Edited October 3, 2024 by Atb210201

[Peo]

25 minutes ago, Schizophonia said:

She can feel the need to clarify she has a borfriend, but it doesn't means she is happy with him for some reasons and not ready to left him if it turns out you are better for her. 

I rejected to hang out with her since i feel like it would be highly unlikely she would come home with me and a waste of time if she had a boyfriend. Although i kinda regretted that i walked away, since it would have been an great opportunity to improve my social and flirting skills. 

 

 

[Hojo]

@Atb210201 boyfriend means nothing. It can mean respect the boundary but has nothing to do with wether or not she will engage. I can understand husband and wife but bf gf is just im playing with this for the time being and can put it down anytime.

Edited October 3, 2024 by Hojo

[Atb210201]

46 minutes ago, Hojo said:

@Atb210201 boyfriend means nothing. It can mean respect the boundary but has nothing to do with wether or not she will engage. I can understand husband and wife but bf gf is just im playing with this for the time being and can put it down anytime.

Of course boyfriend doesn't have emotions so let's just hurt him he's not important.

[Hojo]

@Atb210201 you cant live life worrying about people's feelings. It will fuck you over. People are going to get cheated on you have no idea about anything about anyone's relationships you could be helping them. If someone is cheating they are not happy or think they found something better. Its up to God if they were right or wrong.

The only reason I would avoid married people is because it says its a sin in the Bible and other bibles.

Edited October 3, 2024 by Hojo

[Atb210201]

1 hour ago, Hojo said:

@Atb210201 you cant live life worrying about people's feelings. It will fuck you over. People are going to get cheated on you have no idea about anything about anyone's relationships you could be helping them. If someone is cheating they are not happy or think they found something better. Its up to God if they were right or wrong.

The only reason I would avoid married people is because it says its a sin in the Bible and other bibles.

Yeah you can't keep worrying about other people's feelings so that's justifiable to make a move on someone who’s taken.

Great let's all go sleep with other people's girlfriends and boyfriends then.

After all we are not responsible we just wanna fuck that's all that matters.

It's their fault for not being happy in their relationships no faults are ours here for not thinking about the ones being cheated on.

We are not accountable at all.

Edited October 3, 2024 by Atb210201

[Hojo]

@Atb210201 its taking the blame for someone else's actions. You aren't cheating.

[Atb210201]

10 minutes ago, Hojo said:

@Atb210201 its taking the blame for someone else's actions. You aren't cheating.

You are contributing to the cheating.

Without you there would be no cheating.

Don't just take the responsibility off your own shoulders me and you are absolutely responsible if we ever did that.

[Hojo]

@Atb210201 i completely disagree. I can see if it was a marriage, and they have a family and have an oath under God,but not a relationship. People need to take care of their own relationships they have nothing to do with me. If there is no family no children just two people in a relationship and one wants to break the verbal agreement then the only thing it has to do with me is my body was there at a certain time someone wanted to use it and I said yes.

I also never said I would or would not personally do it. I haven't but if I wanted to I wouldn't blame myself.

Edited October 4, 2024 by Hojo

[Atb210201]

9 hours ago, Hojo said:

@Atb210201 i completely disagree. I can see if it was a marriage, and they have a family and have an oath under God,but not a relationship. People need to take care of their own relationships they have nothing to do with me. If there is no family no children just two people in a relationship and one wants to break the verbal agreement then the only thing it has to do with me is my body was there at a certain time someone wanted to use it and I said yes.

I also never said I would or would not personally do it. I haven't but if I wanted to I wouldn't blame myself.

No it's just wrong from my pov. Doesn't make any difference if they are married or not I wouldn't agree.

If they want they can first breakup then go on do whatever they want but I wouldn't make a move on someone who is in a relationship and wants to cheat on their partner behind their back.

Edited October 4, 2024 by Atb210201