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I think this is very true about self-help

The last thing I read was The Black Obelsk by Remarque. It's about a young man who tries to figure out life while living in troubled economy and society of post WW1 Germany. There's no exciting plot, it's a bit slow-paced, but I found it very relatable as a young man myself, also in a troubled country. The novel discusses relationships, women, religion, mental health, society, war and politics, art and happines. All sorts of stuff that the main character tries to figure out in similar ways that many of us do as well at that age. Surprisingly, sometimes it even goes into spirituality and non-duality. There's also enough good humor and some fun events in that book. And because of the slow pace you really have time to understand the characters, which I liked. So I'm glad I've stumbled upon it.

I find more joy in running when I run in places where I can enjoy a view or explore an area so what's around me is interesting to look at. Like running forest trails, country-side, new roads, new streets that you don't see often. Also challenges and variability in the training. I you don't only do long rusns, but sometimes it's an interval session, sometimes fartlek, sometimes a slow and easy run, it's more fun. Especially fartlek and intervals. Also running different terrains. If you are after some specific pace in your run (runners usually are) that will also keep your mind more engaged. But remember to be careful if you introduce more high speed workouts like intervals. Don't add too much to soon to your volume or speed. It's the biggest reason runners get injured. Listen to your body and go easy if something hurts and it doesn't go away. And yeah like the others say, it's in a way similar to meditation. If you can sit in silence and not move for an hour runnig for an hour doesn't seem that boring anymore.

Yeah that's the point, otherwise he'd be looking for girls

This is brutal.

when you think you are too old for it watch Californication

I just realized I was scummed by a similar video recetly, and I liked it a lot. Crazy

@Joshe Thank you for your answer! I've been thinking similar thoughts recently after being extremly affected by stress and anxiety. Part of it girls-related. But this stuff is not even about women. It's just about feeling good. Letting go of the things in your mind that stress you out? Sounds like a key to happiness. And there's so much to unravel! I should be greatfull for my period of anxiety because I'm becoming aware of this. And it's a lesson for life on psycological and spiritual wellbeing. Meditation helps me a lot with that, also removing distractions, being in silence with yourself more, good sleep. And women, they'll have more fun with you when you breathe more and think less, be with them and not somewhere inside your head. I remember once I wanted to asked a girl for a number and remembered a video I watched recently of rsd tyler where he was talking about how you can have ineraction going great but once you ask for a number you'll suddenly be rejected and be surprised by that. That thought just appeared in my mind and I started freezing and mumbling embaracingly. And no, I wasn't rejected at all. To be fair Tyler warned about this kind of stuff happaning as well. Goes away with practice I guess. Another thing I've noticed is being on edge can push you to do things you weren't motivated enough or coragous enough to do before because you sometimes suffer so much and ready to do things that used to be scary just to stop suffering. Like approaching girls on a street or iviting someone for a date or going to some job interview etc. And that will even make you seem confident in the beginning... but it won't last long because everyone will see worried and anxious you pretty soon. Still can be usefull for some breakthrough learning experience maybe. Also I see how this kind of advice if applied wrongly can lead to a trap of trying to spiritually bypass dating experience. Especially if someone doesn't have enough of it. We should be aware of that. Look at as discovering normal human interaction late into life. We must be all autistic people with some messed up unsocialized childehoods here

When I was a kid I once asked God and Mother Mary and all the saints to stop a bully from school from beating me. I thought he was planning to. It worked. He never showed up and I left the school grounds safe. But got into a skiing accident right after. Broke my skis and injured my leg. Not asking those guys for anything ever again

You still have to go outside and approach women though, right? You're just not gonna call it pickup? @Joshe I love what you are saying. I've noticed myself recently that overstressed nervous system is capable of making dating hard. Anxiety grows, relaxation becomes impossible, hard to be yourself and grounded. Do you have any advice on how to do that?

Leo meeting a Buddhist

Some lucid dreaming teachers say that it's good for your mental health to be nice to your dream and the characters there when you are lucid, because in some way they represents parts of your psyche. And I found that being nice to the dream and the characters makes the dream more cooperative. When you don't try to force things and stay nice and respectful the dream is more willing to help you have the good experience that you want

I recently killed a puppy, smashed his skull. Another night I tried to drown some rodent with cute big eyes

Hypnogogic states are quite interesting to explore. You can also develop that. And it's a door to lucid dreaming.

Go find them yourself, shouldn't be hard if you speak Russian. I personally don't care if you believe it or not.