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  2. Posted · Edited by Psyche_92

    4 minutes ago, Inliytened1 said:

    So this is all within yourself and it will require inner work on your part.

    That may be a painful realization because we want to place blame on others.   But in the end it is you that is feeling this way and only you can change it.

    I know it's not about them. I don't want to play the victim here. I just want this to end cause it's holding me back from pursuing what i really want, and i'm not getting younger. I don't know how to change it. I'm meditating an hour a day, i've also tried writing about it and thinking about it but it doesn't help.

  3. Posted · Edited by Psyche_92

    Hello,

    My family never really understood why i do what i do, and i don't care too much about that. However, i can't really go to my sister's place, my mom's place or any other of my family because it seems like the only thing they care about is asking me if i'm still doing my meditation, healthy eating etc. You would say, well that's a good thing right? But no, not really. They are not asking this out of pure interest, it's literally just to see if i'm failing again, cause they always laugh at me for doing these things, especially meditation. They are totally clueless, and i don't really care about that, but the problem is that i feel like they do have way too much effect on me by doing this.

    Even if i reach goals, or get some succes at something, they can't understand why, and they seem to envy me at those times. They quickly project all their limiting beliefs and fears on me, and i can see that, but at the same time it also makes me fear my own succes and it holds me back from doing so. It's like they are fearfull that i will succeed. Not sure how to explain it.

    The boyfriend of my sister for instance, always immediately asks how much i earn when i get a new job. With my last job, i earned more than him, and his facial expression explained everything to me. It's like they just can't stand it.

    This has been a problem for a long time, and i can't seem to sort out how i can fix this except for not visiting them anymore. It's just very hard for me to deal with their criticism when succes is coming my way. Lately i'm even fearfull of making new moves just because i know my family will not be happy for me.

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    2 minutes ago, Chi_ said:

    A good way to go would be Psychoanalysis. 

    Already did that for over a year. Psychoanalysis is only good for your mind to fall asleep. It doesn't resolve deep issues.

    3 minutes ago, Chi_ said:

    But also for the meantime you can try Shamanic Breathing, Osho Dynamic Meditation or Shoonya Meditation (by Sadhguru) to work with these emotional blockages.

    I'm doing normal meditation. It's not too bad. Not gonna botter with another technique for now.

    3 minutes ago, Chi_ said:

    Trying to fix Nofap instead is kind of going in the wrong direction

    Yes and no. I use fapping and porn to run away from certain emotions, so doing NoFap helps me to face them and not run away from them.

     

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    5 minutes ago, apparentlynoself said:

    But i am nearly certain that any health related problems stem from this addiction.

    Only one way to find out :).

    6 minutes ago, apparentlynoself said:

    My aim is to get my health sorted so that i am the strongest version of myself. This will help me pursue stuff like enlightenment.

    Yes have a strong goal which makes it worth suffering through the withdrawal from quitting this addiction.

     

  13. Posted · Edited by Psyche_92

    14 minutes ago, apparentlynoself said:

    -I sometimes have problems with my stomach(Much more often than i would expect). I have the feeling that it is down to fapping

    Most likely not.

    14 minutes ago, apparentlynoself said:

    -I sadly have a foot fetish which means that i am attracted to women's feet (i am kinda ashamed of that even as i am writing it here)

    Nothing to be ashamed about. Different people get aroused by different kinds of stuff. BUT, This could easily not be an authentic fetish and induced by porn. So, do you watch porn a lot? If so, do you feel like you are addicted to it, started watching different or specific kinds of porn to get off? Then by all means quit. Even if you are not addicted, porn is not good for anything.

    14 minutes ago, apparentlynoself said:

    i have tried nofap numerous times and the longest abstinence time was 49 days. But now, it seems impossible to do even 2 days. Literally, it always goes as follows. I fap and feel ashamed. I then decide not to fap ever again and then after 2-3 days, i fap again.

    Rinse and repeat. I've been trying to quit for over 5 years. My longest streak was 125 days. You have to keep going at it. Over time the addiction will wear off, but it takes time.

    14 minutes ago, apparentlynoself said:

    Also, when i read that you could potentially get blue balls by doing this, it made me much more afraid to not fap.

    In the 5 years of quitting, and even on my 125 days streak i never had blue balls or pain down there. Nature takes care of it self, so if it's time you will get a wet dream which fixes this problem.

    14 minutes ago, apparentlynoself said:

    Even though I regularly meditate

    What about cold showers and exercise? Cold showers are detrimental, at least for me.

     

  14. Posted · Edited by Psyche_92

    1 hour ago, Shin said:

    You don't want random hookup, nor dating, nor prostitute ?

    Then just masturbate because that's the only thing left ?

    No i'm still on NoFap. Fuck fapping and shit. I'm also not gonna waste my seed having sex with some random girl. I'm just gonna continue my semen retention and stop being a little bitch lol. 5 secs of pleasure is not worth it.

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    It's been such a long time since i had sex, that i can't even remember when it was, and it starting to irritate me a little. If i have to put a number on it, it probably was at least 4 years ago.

    I don't wanna go to a prostitute, but i also don't feel like putting an insane amount of effort into getting to know a girl, dating her etc.  It also feels like the leap is way too big right now to just go out there and actually hunt after one, i'm just not feeling it.

    Now i know that it will not fulfill me long term, but i think i just need to get over this so i can move on and focus on myself again.

    How do i go about this?

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    12 hours ago, oMarcos said:

    If house renting was not so expensive this shouldn't be a problem for many

    To be fair, for me it's not just the amount of rent i have to pay each month. I was raised by a pampering mother, and an almost absent father. I literally almost didn't learn to go out there and do shit for myself. Right now i'm 26 and i've only just started to stand up against my mother to gain my independence because she was still smothering me like crazy. Now she's almost totally avoiding me, and she's just starting to do it with her grandchildren.