Ananta

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    Awe, yeah, it's tough to deal with this crap. Especially at a young age. Everyone deals with it differently. Some might want to listen to sad music and just cry, others want to get back to talking to the opposite sex and distract themselves. Some might play sports or video games for hours.

    Guess it depends on your personality and what works for you. Hope you feel better soon.:)

  2. Posted · Edited by Anna1

    3 hours ago, RawJudah said:

    I have been shy all my life, especially when it comes to girls. So there is low self esteem there that hasn’t gone away and I know I need to improve it. I’m looking around for good therapists as we speak, whether that will actually help or not I don’t really know

    Oic, yeah, that whole shy thing is tough. You can get over it though. My sister was a shy kid with 1 friend growing up. She went into the air force at 21 and came out of it at 24 a completely different person, not shy at all, with tons of friends. Not saying to join the armed forces, just saying ppl can change. I think seeing a therapist is a great idea for ppl who feel stuck, for whatever reason, so good for you!

    3 hours ago, RawJudah said:

    From a girls point of view - what do you think of pickup? Bit of a silly question but I thought I’d ask...

    Well, I think it's good practice for shy guys that need to work on some things regarding their approach to women. A guy genuinely looking for a date or eventually a relationship. 

    However, the cocky dude just trying to put a notch in their belt of how many chicks they can bang disgusts me to no end. If a girl is smart they can see right through that bullshit.. or I can.

    So, just dont be or become a cocky asshole and you'll be fine.?

  3. Posted · Edited by Anna1

    15 hours ago, DrewNows said:

    I’ve been transitioning for weeks now. I slip up still but yes it’s a learning experience and I’m keeping the cooked foods to a minimum. If I don’t allow myself on occasion to some healthy cooked dish I might binge and while I’m fast to recover, I’d rather be mindfully eating instead of going unconscious to deal with emotional problems that may invoke feeling shame later and diminishing my detoxing progress

    Basically my emotional body has become my baby, I don’t have a lot of cravings anymore, I took a parasite m tincture to eliminate cravings, which pretty much has 

    My original goal is becoming a breatharian and lose all depence on food but Highly unlikely that’ll happen without taking a retreat. I’m okay with or without it, I’d like my conscious or vibrational frequency to stay as high as possible and to eventually help others heal themselves 

    Can you do this diet partially? or does it have to be 100% in? 

    Like could you eat mainly fruit, but have small heated dinners or not so much..lol.

    It's interesting, I just know I couldn't follow it 100%

  4. Posted

    8 hours ago, CultivateLove said:

    But to deny that looks don't matter to me at all would be a lie.

    This wasnt my point though. Of course, it plays a part, but if it's the whole part, then it's just stupid.

    Like you said-

    8 hours ago, CultivateLove said:

    if a girl is physically attractive, but has shallow characteristic traits, I won't even have a one night stand with her.

    This I personally think is the healthy attitude. 

    Unfortunately, some guys now a days, just want "hot" eye candy, even if they're dumb as a box of rocks or ugly inside. 

     

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    12 hours ago, RawJudah said:

    I wondered if there was a deep issue maybe going back to childhood or something like that. 

     

    Well, I actually agree with what @Leo Gura said on here...

    He said-

    >>>>Fear of being rejected, fear of blowing the chance.

    The hotter the girl, the more you put her on a pedestal, the more you feel you need to impress her.<<<

    ...and, it really boils down to self-esteem and self confidence. If a guy is confident then he can walk right up to any girl and start talking. If he gets rejected, he just moves on to the next without beating himself up. Maybe he just wasnt that girls type, but maybe he will be the next girls type. 

    So, questions to ask yourself. Do you have a healthy self esteem? If not, why is that? (Looks, clothes, style, intelligence, personality, etc.)

    As far as it stemming from childhood. Maybe? Only in so far as it pertaining directly to confidence and self esteem as that's where I think the issue is.

  9. Posted

    14 minutes ago, cetus56 said:

    @Anna1 Just to throw this out there since your in the medical field-

    All the recent findings about how bad vaping is. I tried vaping about 4 years ago and quit after about 3 weeks. When I would lie down at night I would get a rattle. I looked into it on a vaping forums and there is a name for it- "Pop Corning". That's exactly what it sounded like. Like pop corn popping in the back of my throat every time I breathed in and out. Yikes!

    I had the opposite experience. After smoking for many decades, I switched to vaping and vaped for 5 years straight. I vaped a lot too. My lungs cleared. I had no cough or secretions from vaping, but I didnt like being addicted to nicotine, so 3 years ago I quit vaping too. 

    * but the vape I used was locally made and pure, with only 3 ingredients, plus flavoring. Not sure if that's the difference?

  10. Posted

    11 minutes ago, DrewNows said:

    ? 

    if you watch the interview let me know what you think! 

    So, I watched about 1/2...I think I got the gist tho.

    So, he thinks humans should just eat fruits, yes? 

    I also get what hes saying about acidosis, not sure I fully agree, but I dont feel the need to debate it :)

    A bit about me, I was diagnosed at 21 with an autoimmune disease called M.S. it gave me problems for years, but has been in remission for awhile now. My last MRI about 3 yrs ago showed that the brain lesions were shrinking, why?? I have no freaking clue! Didnt change my diet, just starved the disease of attention, basically, that's it. Finally, after years of injections I refused all treatment and barely speak of it, except here and there. So, if the doctor is correct what's reversing my autoimmune disease if my diet hasn't changed? I dunno.

  13. Posted · Edited by Anna1

    26 minutes ago, DrewNows said:

    interesting, appreciate the information. What an experience. 

    Sure, ty for your interest. Some patients you never forget. She will be one of them.

    26 minutes ago, DrewNows said:

    Something interesting I learned recently, when animals stop eating or drinking they are in full recovery mode, they don’t always survive, but the body is trying its best to use all the energy it has to heal rather than for food digestion

    I've not heard this, but I'm not an animal expert either, hehe. 

    In the case of many older or sick humans though...not eating and drinking can be a sign of impending death, depending on age and diagnosis. Such was the case with my patient in my post. Hospice uses this criteria as well, as a sign of body shut down.

     

  14. Posted

    2 minutes ago, DrewNows said:

    Could you explain death rattle a bit more?

    The  “death rattle,” occurs when mucous and saliva build up in the patient's throat due to the respiratory system slowly shutting down.

    It's a crackling, wet sound that is heard with each breath, usually when sleeping. Theres really no sound like it. Ppl have described it to me many times and when I heard it, I just knew thats what it was.


    Patients aren't usually bothered by the build up of secretions that caused the rattle, for some reason, including this patient. It was her son that was concerned.

    So, no, they dont need to clear it. Unless, they do become distressed. They can try to cough some up, but it will just return.

  15. Posted · Edited by Anna1

    For those that dont know it's quite common, I've been told, to get what's called the "death rattle" when one is in the process of dying. I've just never heard it before, until today. 

    Ive been in home care as a RN for 12 years, but never had a patient actively dying upon my arrival. A sweet little old lady 88 yrs young who has "angel like" clear blue eyes you can see her kind soul in.

    ..Not sure why her son didnt call me sooner, but he reported to me that she had not eaten or drank much since my visit last week and yesterday refused to get out of bed any longer. 

    During my visit she fell asleep and then I heard it, the death rattle. Her son said, shes had this phlegm build up sound in her throat. I didnt put two and two together until I heard it. I then changed gears and knew I had to convince him to call in hospice (end of life nursing). That is if she lives through the night.

    Oddly enough, there was this calm, peaceful vibe in the room and he didnt take much convincing at all and called hospice after I left. I feel honored to have been allowed to be a part of her life ..and death. 

    Perhaps I'll be a hospice nurse someday?

  17. Posted

    On 9/30/2019 at 4:52 AM, Bill W said:

    some people brush their teeth with too much force and rigour which damages the gums

    Yup, I was a freak since I was a kid about scrubbing my teeth, back and forth, hard, to clean them. Well, in my early 30's I had to have upper and lower gum surgery from slowly eroding my gums solely by brushing my teeth too hard and in the wrong manner.

    Thank goodness I dont have a gummy smile and the top isn't noticable anyway because of how the surgery was done, but one of the most painful things I've ever had to go through.

    Anyways, use a soft bristle toothbrush (with flouride- prevents cavities), in an up/down and circular motion (never back and forth), twice a day.

  18. Posted · Edited by Anna1

    @RawJudah @CultivateLove

    Ok, so, here's the real reason I wrote what I wrote.

    I feel very badly for girls now a days. Most men just wanting a "hot" girl and after reading thread after thread on this forum basically saying the same thing- "I want a hot girl". It just irritated me.

    How about wanting someone you personally are attracted to who is smart, kind, funny and caring? Why is just "hot" the golden ticket. I just dont get it.

    So many girls getting plastic surgeries and have eating disorders trying to be a perfect "hot" girl, so they can get a BF. It's ridiculous. 

    ... having good chemistry with someone beats out anything else in my book! ?

    Anyways, OP good luck with it all, really. Sorry you got my wrath.

     

  22. Posted

    23 minutes ago, CultivateLove said:

    @Anna1 I came back to this thread to delete my comment and to apologize to you, It was way too personal, presumptuous and irrational. It actually had nothing to do with you, I just wasn't "myself" momentarily due to some internal and external factors, it's a bit personal and complicated so I won't drown you with the details. At the very least I learned something valuable about myself and what causes me to act in a self-destructive ways sometimes. I say self-destructive because even at my worst, it's very rare for me to lash out on others, especially if not provoked.

    (Hint for those into MBTI: I need to be careful to take care of my 4'th cognitive function (Se) in a healthy way, or else it always manifests in a burst of over-indulgence of sensory pleasures, and sometimes this can go a little too far to the point of having indulged so much that I can barely think straight anymore, a common obstacle to be faced and hopefully overcome by my type :S) (Hint 2: That type is very idealistic and perfectionistic, so being told to lower one's standards rather than growing to meet those standards, will most likely not result in mutual agreement, but that does not excuse my behavior). 

    And again, I apologize, I hope we can move past this and maybe even laugh about it one day if fate leads us on the same path again, have an awesome day :)

     

     

    It's okay. I understand.

    Most would just call someone an asshole (you might as well have) and been done with it, but you came back to apologize, even if it took 3 days..., but late is better than never.:P

     

  25. Posted · Edited by Anna1

    On 9/26/2019 at 1:20 PM, Mezanti said:

    I find it hard to get a girl interested in me and to text me first, its seems impossible I can get a girls phone. number and text her but soon enough she falls out of interest and starts ignoring me, and never texts first. \

    what could I possibly do, ive had this issue for quite a bit 

     

    Women like to play hard to get, its part of the play. Guys typically should be making the moves on women and women play hard to get a bit. It's normal. 

    If your getting numbers you're doing something right. Means they are willing to hear from you. Keeping their interest is what you need to work on. Trial and error, try out different stuff then you normally do. Do you ask them questions about themselves? Do you also throw in some flattering remarks? You have to learn the art of flirting via texts.