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Most likely, she is emotionally weak, and still see him because she can't say no, cause she's attached to him. He use her as his little bitch, and one part of his mind knows it, that's why he's asking here if it's "ok" to use her as a living sextoy.

You're doing her more damage now by doing this than cutting the tie definitely. You're not cruel, you're just weak.

Ahah, this is why when it happen, we should just our mouth, watch very carefully our monkey mind, an disentify with all kind of arrogance statements

Because

@Ether That would be assuming I'm doing something ^^

Look at your hand, and answer this question:

Of course it's there If you can sense your awareness, your presence, that's the first threshold, you've already realized you're enlightenement ! The thing is most people will think there is ONLY this realization that everything is one, but no, that's just another threshold ! Awareness has an infinite "realization" curve, and if right now you're not at the stage "I see and feel that everything as me (like a perpetual orgasm)", that does not mean you're not enlightened, it's just an advanced stage of realization. So don't think you aren't enlightened, you are, you just aren't aware of it entirely, and even when you'll be, there always be new insights/realizations, it isn't a finite "state". Just don't make it a goal, and at the same time acknowledge that you can't see reality clearly right now, live in the present and be aware as much as you can, that's all there is "to do"

You can be fulfilled when you realize there is nothing that can fulfill you. It's called being, this is the reason why in the west we have so many depression, This is also why there is so many dudes in the east called monks

These days were so fun, now I've learned too much concerning female psychology, I'M FUCKED !

The course is amazing.

You are love

I want to fap SO BAD, but I must GO ON !

There are people who realize who they are after 40 years, and some after a few months/years. It's all about how much you live in the present and stop feeding your ego rather than the time invested in meditation/retreat etc ...

Get out of that mess and live on your own, your environnement is the biggest issue here.

When you don't want to, or when you think you don't have time for it.

I was on my way to a meeting with friends, but I forgot about the location, so I was a bit furious about it. I was so bothered by it that I fell off track the road (was driving), roll over several time, and finally got on track. After like 5 seconds, I did roll over again, and finally died (or so I thought). There was a monologue, wasn't me who was speaking, it was about how I died and it was confirming my death, 100% sure I was dead the voice said. Then I saw a little boy (not sure, but that's the feeling), waking up in a hospital, I knew it was me, but I was seeing the scene from a third person viewpoint (the crash scene was in first person). Usually, I can never remember my dreams, I instantly forget. Not this time though, not so sure if it means anything. The funny thing is that I wasn't shocked or frightened (not really) to die in the dream, and when I woke up, I wasn't shocked to not be shocked Concerning my perception of reality, the 3rd eye is still open, but I still don't see that everything is me, I feel the presence of everything, but I'm still stuck at "everything is presence, I am presence, no deep link between that". I have a subtle feeling when I look into humans/animals eyes that their are me though (but it's very subtle). Thank you for reading, can't wait to be fully on the other side and finally meet you there with a 100% open heart, I love you

Perhaps one of the most powerful meditation technique is simply to send love vibration to yourself. The more you do that, the more you'll start to love and see that everything is just a reflection of your own heart.

This

Don't you see that you're debating your opinions and beliefs onto others here ? All those long post and quote wars, reactions and projections, where do you think they come from ? @Bodhi123 What makes you think I was talking about you ? What makes you think I was talking about Leo ?

You only get distracted at first, after that, you use everything as a meditation practice. You stay awake and feel your presence while still enjoying the landscape, and actually, merging with it Concerning Zen Buddhist who meditate on front of a while, it is because their meditation (Zazen) is practiced eyes open, you don't need to do this if you practice any other meditation techniques eyes closed.

Don't. For some of you, you won't even have a major breakthrough, it will all be progressive. Day by day, you'll progress, you won't even notice it untill your mind become very still. The only thing you really need, is to focus on the present moment, on the presence of what you are, beyond thoughts, as much as you can throughout your days. Meditation is a good tool too, and is a great need at first, especially if you have an hyper active mind. Later on, meditation will be more on more appealing, because you'll enjoy feeling your consciousness so much, that it will be more appealing than all of your daily activities combined. At some point, this presence will be at the foreground of your life, thoughts and emotions will still occur though. You won't see them as seriously as before, you won't believe in them, you'll just take notes of what they are pointing too. Progressively, colors, sounds, and shapes will be more and more flashy, perceptible and precise. This is because your mind begins to stop its filtering, presence itself perceive life without the mind interference. Then, after a while, you'll start to sense that everything, everything is made of the same (non) substance as you. Everything is presence. You'll start to notice that even inanimate objects will feel alive (it will be very subtle at first). When you'll be there, be very careful to watch in animals eyes, and if you have someone you're very close to, watch theirs eyes too. You'll see something that you couldn't even imagine possible. Want to know what that shit is ? Start here: https://www.trinfinityacademy.com/courses/enlightenment-1-part-1-introduction-course/chapter-one-from-ignorance-to-clarity/ And read this: https://www.amazon.com/Power-Now-Guide-Spiritual-Enlightenment/dp/1577314808/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1491674576&sr=8-1&keywords=power+of+now @Loreena Then try harder, and meet my doge, don't be afraid !

@Loreena At least you have friends, just muster the courage and open fully, it will be scary just once, if you do it right.