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  1. Posted

    Neediness is an emotional state, a feeling. Just as apathy (which is on the lower spectrum) or feeling complete and feeling peace (higher end).

    As any emotion it wants to flow through you.

    You can help it let go.

    And yes, there is a reason why it is there now. You can allow yourself to be gentle towards yourself and not condemn yourself for having this emotion right now.

     

    I made a longer post about it here.

     

  3. Posted

    On 04/07/2023 at 2:54 PM, Bobby_2021 said:

    @universe Lets say about pursuing consciousness, you can't go all in when a lot of your energy is expended in managing the relationship.

    You could do things as you wish with no one to answer to, but once a woman comes in the picture, now she is going to need explanations of what you are doing or she may disagree with you. It brings all this uncertainty which I see as hindering your freedom while before you didn't have anyone to answer to.

    Life was completely an open game before women. Heck you can even choose to have endless sex when you are not in a committed relationship. I want to know what do you lose by not being in a relationship.

    What is the worth of the sacrifice.

    You do not lose anything. As you are already complete as you are.

    Thinking that you can't achieve anything while in a relationship is a limiting belief. There are millions of examples that show married men who have done it.

    Things are not black and white like this. You can drink a coke and still win the olympics.

    Have you tried it? Otherwise this is all mental masturbation.

     

    I feel like your view on relationships leans towards restriction and dependence.

    You are the creator of your relationships.
    You can decide how much time you spend together.
    You can decide how much you want to depend on each other.
    You can decide if you have to explain yourself to each other.

  4. Posted

    Do inner work, emotional work.

    Is there any emotional need that arises when you talk to women?

    Energy work.

    See if there is any reaching or forcing energy in you. You want to replace it with power, talk without wanting anything in return (like wanting her to like you). Let things arise instead of forcing them.

    Body work.

    Relax into your body. Are you in your head? If yes release the tension in your body and allow yourself to come into your body. Be in your whole body. Feel your feet, your legs. Get grounded in your body.

    Mindset work.

    The way you think about the situation and your intentions. Do you think someone is out to get you, or that you have to push and force yourself to talk to woman? This will make you feel stressed. Instead you want to share your experience and create a good time together with her. This will make you both feel more relaxed. Trust her.

    Keep the conversation positive and fun.

    Be empathic and care about how she feels.

  6. Posted

    Honestly I can't say I learned a lot about business when I grew up as well. Most people never bother with doing their own business in general. The most walked path is still education -> employment.

    If you can understand English there are now thousands of videos on YouTube with all kinds of business ideas.

    Just type "top business ideas in x" and replace x with anything specific like a field, a hobby, your age or the area/country you live in.

     

    From there maybe find a group or an event about business in your area. Maybe there are some talks you can attend and meet new people and get new ideas.

    You can also join online groups that are focused on entrepreneurship.

    The main idea to start a business is solving a problem for others. Because that is what most people pay for.

  7. Posted

    On 21/06/2023 at 0:09 PM, Kinjal said:

    perseverance, dedication, and determination

    Perseverance means your stamina, your endurance. Like running a marathon. And if there are obstacles, you find ways to overcome them and move forwards.

    Dedication means focusing in on one thing. You set a goal and and then you work exactly on that goal and not on 100 other things. You keep your eye on it. You are committed.

    Determination means you are set to achieve your goal. You don't give up. You have set your mind to it. You focus on the results that you want to get and you put in the work required to get them. You have decided on a goal and you will take action on it.

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    Find a teacher who better fits your style.

    Not all of them are that conservative.

    And you can also filter out certain topics. Imagine Hitler giving you a recipe for pancakes that you want to make. You focus on the cooking and ignore all the nazi stuff.

    Being annoyed by them talking about it can be a sign that you are not very sure on these topics yourself. You know, like people who are annoyed by gays because they are not sure about their own sexuality for example.

  11. Posted

    20 hours ago, Husseinisdoingfine said:

    I’m asking about the 100 hour work week because I’m wondering if the trajectory of my life. Short term, if I want to build something, is it okay for me to work extra long in a controlled period of time?
     

    This will be different for everyone.

    Taking massive action is one way to get things done.

    And then there are hundreds of other things that could work. For example your emotional state, strategy, leverage, creativity, motivation and mindset. Those are extremely important as well.

    It is trial and error. Find a way to measure your output or what you want to achieve. And then see if working 100h brings better results.

  14. Posted

    Perfect question! :) 

     

    1.

    You could start by not talking yourself down. For example

    "Wow I am so dumb"

    "Why can't I do this"

    "I am so ugly"

     

    Delete these kind of thinking from your mind.

     

    Replace it with positive Self-Talk.

     

    2.

    Accept and be kind to yourself. Especially when you think you fucked up, be gentle and loving towards yourself.

     

    3.

    By being gentle and loving towards others.

    When you start to be loving and warm towards others, you will also start to be like that towards yourself.

    And there is no real boundary between others and you anyways.

     

    4.

    Spend time with yourself. Doing things that you love to do.

     

    5.

    Care for yourself. If you feel down or like there is something which doesn't feel right. Look into it. Don't just overlook it and distract yourself. 

     

    ❤️

  15. Posted

    The need for perfection comes from a want to control.

    You strive for perfection in order to avoid losing control.

    You can release that need easily via the Sedona Method for example.

     

    Instead of feeling this need to control things and feelings of lack like @UnbornTao mentioned, you could aim for higher emotions such as feeling abundance and feeling complete.

    You can only get these feelings now, when you give them yourself.

  18. Posted

    The answer is: You bullshit your way through it.

    You are not straight, you are not gay, you are not bisexual.

    You are God.

    Just do what you enjoy doing.

    If you have to think really hard about if you are gay or not then I think it might not be worth it to ponder longer. But do what you like. Maybe you want to ponder this specific question.

    Some people like to try drugs before they give it a yes or no. Others never want to try.

    In the end you can never "know".

    But don't worry, life goes on. And it is wonderful.

  20. Posted

    You can do both.

    The question is, do you want financial freedom or do you want to have a passion/Life Purpose.

    Being financially free entails that you are "free" from wage slavery and have time for whatever you like. However, it doesn't mean that you are aligned with what you do and live a meaningful life.

    Having a passion/Life Purpose entails that you are aligned with what you do and can live a happy / meaningful life. However, it doesn't mean that you are financially free and have escaped wage slavery.

     

    Those are two different qualities.