Tenebroso

This is a backhanded compliment. Let me be cynical in peace.

Be rude and selfish they love that.

Not attracted to younger women. I am early 30s. I pay attention to women my age and older. Older women are into the same things, it is a myth that other qualities become more important as you get older. Actually older women are now competing with younger women for the hot younger guys. Women are independent and free now as they should be to choose lust and desire and that means there isn't much difference in the taste of young women and older women. Maybe once upon a time women did evolve in their taste as they aged but I think that is not true anymore. Well the dating scene seems to be a mess and women seem to not be getting what they need from the guys that they are involved with yet those guys are continually picked. So it's not adding up.

Until women admit they are as shallow if not more than men then all these videos will mean nothing. If women were attracted to what they say they are attracted to we would have a completely different dating scene and a completely different world. Kind, sensitive, emotionally intelligent do not get picked........The men who attract the most women cause so much damage because they never have to improve or do any inner work because women will choose them for their looks and status anyway.

Society is not evolving. Society is lying to itself. Actually this so called evolving only has revealed the dark shadow of men and especially women more. I am not very traditionally masculine myself but people who talk like this to be blunt are almost always full of shit.

There is no such thing as toxic masculinity or healthy masculinity. For such a dichotomy to exist there need to be an objective moral standard we collectively adhere to. For any of us to exist discussing ideas on a forum means we are descendants of amoral, ruthless men who for millennia out competed and out thought other men for the right to pass on their genes to the next generation. This is simply nature. My maternal grandfather brutally murdered Japanese soldiers during world war 2 then went on to have seven daughters including my mother. Was his capacity to kill toxic or was it necessary to stop Imperial Japan rampaging across south east-asia committing crimes against humanity. Masculinity contrary to popular belief is as nuanced and complicated as femininity. The best things about men; physical strength, drive, competition and organization.........inevitably can have negative manifestations. However, you can't repress the negative parts without damaging the positive expressions of masculinity. In other words masculinity has to be accepted in its entirety including the ugly, uncomfortable parts. The moral righteousness of people who use the term toxic masculinity only exposes their own discomfort with their own ugly, animalistic nature which we all have. A common pattern I have noticed among people who use the term toxic masculinity is that they are hypocrites and projecting. The male feminist who wants to prove he was of the kind, good, emotionally intelligent men by demonizing other men for being toxic often turns out to be an abuser himself. Women who scream about toxic masculinity are the one dating violent bad boys, narcissistic fuckboys. They are so confused by their own nature that they vilify good men to rationalize their attraction towards what they claim to hate. Men who have never harmed, abused or manipulated a woman are treated with more disgust and venom than the men who actually harm women. Why? because women actually love toxic masculinity. The men living from their most toxic side are not the ones suffering from the male loneliness crisis. There is no incentive to be a so called good man because following the current discourse, the goalpost for meeting the required standard to be a healthy man can always be raised higher and higher. You are never good enough and while you trying to become this enlightened, emotionally intelligent, kind saint..... women are flocking to men who embody the exact opposite of these qualities. Men should do as they please. Masculinity does not mean protecting, providing, serving, building etc if that is not what you genuinely desire or want to do. True masculinity if there is such thing is living according to your own instinct, intuitions and desires regardless of any flimsy, subjective morality imposed by hypocrites who don't practice what they preach. The most important thing however, is taking full responsibility for the path you take. That is above everything.

I wouldn't say I hate women because hate leads to action and I have no intent to hurt women but I share your frustration. The more I learn about women, the more I consider their views and really listen to them juxtaposed with their actions the more I wonder if they are worth it. I feel like unless you are the kind of man women actively pursue due to some combination of looks, status, charm, money etc...then it's not worth going out of your way to be involved with them. The irony is guys who naturally get the most women are indifferent to them and don't treat them well. Women themselves seem confused and disappointed by their own choices. I find collectively women are nowhere as romantic, nurturing, empathetic as is claimed. All of this is not a pass to mistreatment women. I wouldn't turn back the clock on any of their advancements or choose to live in a more traditional time, it's better to see their true nature for what it is unrestricted as it is in the west.

So basically if you are not very attractive man on first sight you pretty much have to become famous or at the very least become high status. Can't just exist anymore as a regular guy and attract women because even average women want the very best they can get and they will sacrifice commitment to just be an attractive man's fuck buddy rather than get commitment from a man on her level. The catch 22 is that once you become that attractive, high status man what incentive is there to commit to any one woman when you have so many options? Women unintentionally create the dating scene they complain about. Players and fuckboys exist because men who can live that way are heavily incentivized to do so.

Better than being invisible

So detach from things that surface in your reality that you don't desire or see everything including seemingly undesirable things as positive. Whatever we give attention to grows. When you say "you already manifest all your life"....... for clarity do you mean everything is already done and decided or we create our lives moment to moment?

The best system is choosing the right parents on the astral plane

@Schizophonia You believe in manifesting? Some manifestor's now say that some things are not meant for everybody, like some people are simply not destined to be famous regardless of what they do. What do you think?

Damn so 15% of women automatically dismiss me because of my glasses?

Not really. They broke up shortly after I was born and I am not enjoying life. I increasingly feel life is not worth living, so I resent them for bringing into the world through the vessel of a loveless relationship with no real ability to help or teach me anything.

"What is my biggest fear if a woman sees my scars?" Some of my past rejections were in the form of facial expressions where the girl seemed to have a physiological reaction to me like "ewww".....I imagine if I got to the stage where they actually saw my body that would trigger a similar reaction and because it would be a reaction to scars that represent actual physical suffering that is another layer of pain beyond just a simple romantic rejection. What do you think about Ekhart Tolle and his idea of the pain body? The idea that we carry all the traumas and negative emotions around that we have to learn how to transmute.