kamwalker

It seems like you're painting the picture in your mind that a person who parties is doing something egotistical and the person who sits at home and meditates is not. So you're creating an ego by making an identity through meditation and contemplation. I disagree with any notion that spirituality involves withholding yourself from desires. What is really happening is that the deeper you go into spirituality the less you want to participate in those superficial acts in the first place. You still can but it just becomes secondary to other things. And when you do decide to drink and party you just enjoy it for what it is.

Accept your parents for everything they are. They are a result of social conditioning just like you are. They made not be able to express love towards you like you wish they would, but they perhaps might have a different way of showing it. My parents, especially my dad, are a bit emotionally disconnected. They never showed romantic behavior towards each other growing up and that affected me. They only knew how to show love by providing. I don't blame them for that.

I haven’t read the whole thread. How long has she been “acting” this way?

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How can there be infinite without war? Everything has to be for anything to be.

Yes. People get so wrapped up in turning the work into this super serious, no fun attitude and it makes no sense to me. It's almost a paradox. Spiritual work is serious, but if you take it too seriously you essentially defeat the point. If you're not feeling good about life on a routine basis then you need to re-evaluate what you're doing. Something isn't right. I bliss the fuck out every time I do MDMA. There is no anxious come up or come down, nothing but pure acceptance of existence in the moment. Love for everything that is. But this is unlikely to happen if you continue to hold on to beliefs about your sense of self. That's fine it's normal. That's what the substances do, help you to work through your personal shit. But once you've worked through all of that you should be able to bask in the bliss of the moment only.

First off great episode! Good insights about not rushing the process and trying to bypass certain material desires. I have felt this in my own spiritual quest and how I know it is holding me back. You mentioned in the video one of the things you're still craving is a more spiritually profound, intimate and romantic relationship. Not necessarily just casual sex with someone who you aren't really compatible with. I've been in this boat for a while now as well and feels like one of the limiting steps in my spiritual development. On one hand I understand the possibility that it sometimes just doesn't happen for some people. Some people spend a large portion of their life trying to obtain fame and money and don't reach it so the same sort of applies here. However I do feel if you focus enough of your energy on something you really want, eventually you'll get it. My question is what's your plan to fulfill this specific craving? Keep running day/night game? A dating app? Meet someone through a friend organically? I struggle with figuring how to allocate my time here

Psychedelics can help with many of the things on your list. I wouldn’t tell someone they need to have all of that figured out before they start tripping, you can still do both

Not really. I almost don’t hear it these days unless I want to. Very occasionally it becomes louder and then I assess what is going on.

What is your definition of progress or results from personal development? What answers are you hoping people will give you?

I don’t understand the premise. Self-improvement is exactly what it is. You find ways to make your experience of life more enjoyable for yourself. It’s not that complicated. It only doesn’t work if you don’t actually do it. if you watch videos of someone else telling you how to help yourself but you ignore everything then of course nothing will change

Yeah I agree. My reason for starting this thread was to kind of show that the term wage slave really only applies if you choose to see your work that way. Exchanging service for money is necessary in today's society. Not everyone can work for themselves.

Everyone is at different stages of development. Things that were said to me years ago had no impact, but now when I hear them I REALLY understand them. There's no point in trying to push people with this stuff. They'll be ready when they're ready

@4201 that’s sort of what I was getting at. I don’t want to write off the possibility of there being actual brain damage because I have never met OP, but I also know it’s possible to convince yourself of this as well especially for younger people.

Just curious how was the brain damage diagnosed?

Lol this guy…his response would turn off many girls for his lack of leadership. But he might just not be interested either and thus has no investment. From my own perspective I don’t give crappy responses like that even if I I’m not interested. I still make an effort

I sit and allow the feeling to run its course. Stop resisting. As I do this I gradually start to notice the feeling simply happening and that it is not actually happening to me at all. And I no longer identify with the feeling after a short period of time.

Looks matter but it’s so subjective. There’s no blue print for how a woman needs to look to be good looking. I find women with very little or no makeup attractive. That’s just what I’ve noticed throughout my life. I remember one girl saying she couldn’t understand my taste in women, saying the girls I’m attracted to are very “plain”. I would actually weight personality and physical attraction equally for me. She doesn’t need to be some bombshell that makes all my guy friends compliment me, she just needs to be attractive enough to me. But I have friends who are a bit insecure and not only want to find their girl attractive, but they want to make sure others do too.

I agree. Sometimes when I listen to PUa’s talk I realize how superficial a lot of the advice is and who it’s catered too. The spiritual work I’ve done over the years has centered me and I’ve gained a much better ability to be present that it’s all I really need when I talk to girls. The techniques and quest for sex that they teach are great for guys who are starting from a place of very little self worth though. I also like James Marshall. He attempts to embody a more “whole” approach that applies to more than just pick up

I don't mean this is a patronizing or condescending way, but a 23 year old man or woman is basically a child. You assume everyone else around you has somehow figured life out but they haven't. They're 30-40 year olds I would still classify like this to be honest. You need experience. But don't approach your experiences with the mindset of being a failure or being a late bloomer. None of that matters just have fun and things will come naturally over time.

It actually happens pretty naturally with the right person. You pick up on their lack of judgement and become open to expressing your emotions with them. I have two friends, one is a guy and one is a girl that I can do this with. It’s not an all the time thing because people don’t want to become your therapist but it’s very helpful.

I read this after I made my post, but YES. This is exactly what I feel. Once you realize this it occurs to you how much you and so many others took for granted that anything is happening at all

Reality itself. That we are even here existing as it. It's so absurd that it becomes beautiful and it brings so much love out of me the more I become aware of that. It's always new

I had something of a difficult trip myself tonight so I relate on that. But when I reflect it appeared difficult because i was resisting and not letting go. It happens sometimes. Just have to accept reality as it is. You don’t always get the trip you want